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Original poster

to flinch and want to stick hot coals where the sun don't shine when women call their husbands by their surname with a 'Y" on the end?

75 replies

NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 22:26

As in 'Jonesy' 'Clarky' 'Thorpy' I could continue ad nauseam

He is not a 16 year old on the rugby field and you are not his chum

He is an adult
You are his wife/partner .....grrrrr

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Tommy · 26/09/2009 22:28

lol

very blokey. If I called my DH that, he would either sound like a chocolate cake or a small girl guide - not sure either would be very suitable

yama · 26/09/2009 22:28

YANBU

groundhogs · 26/09/2009 22:30

YANBU, lamp 'em!

Original poster
NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 22:31

and worse - abbreviated versions of the surname...

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lavenderkate · 26/09/2009 22:32

Ex boarding school chums?

Hideous whatever.

WidowWadman · 26/09/2009 22:38

Still better than 'hubby' or 'hubster'

maryz · 26/09/2009 22:48

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2shoes · 26/09/2009 22:50

yanbu
I just tried it on dh
he was not impissed

epithet · 26/09/2009 22:51

My mum still calls my dad 'Mac'. Please don't stick hot coals up her .

Katisha · 26/09/2009 22:52

Crumbs I've NEVER heard of that and would feel very ill if I did.

But loathe "hubby" with a passion.

epithet · 26/09/2009 22:52

Ewww, yes, 'hubby' is like 'the wife'.

bratley · 26/09/2009 22:53

I do when we're with DH's mates as they're all squaddies and know each other by their surnames! There are a few lads who I've known for a while now and would only know them by their surnames, too.

I hate hate hate 'hubby', makes my teeth itch.

MaureenMLove · 26/09/2009 22:57

I do. So do his friends, and mine come to that!

crankytwanky · 26/09/2009 22:58

My lovely sister once refered to her beloved as "-ater" on facebook! (Think Thompsonater, or Graysonater.)
I have called my DH this, but only coz his collegues did.

Bibithree · 26/09/2009 23:03

I couldn't do it because dh's surname ends in a 'y' and I don't think I would anyway, but I do call him by his surname sometimes ('get out here Thompson' - for example)
Interestingly, lots of my male friends (pre marriage) still call my by my maiden name, no first name, and it annoys the sh*t out of dh. Don't know why.

Can't bear 'hubby' though, that makes me want to reach for the hot coals ...

FimboFortunaFeet · 26/09/2009 23:06

Hubby, hubster are dreadful.

I know someone called Tambo because his surname is Thompson. I doubt very many people know his first name.

QOD · 26/09/2009 23:07

I call my dd by our surname with a y on the end sometimes - is that ok?

:D

scottishmummy · 26/09/2009 23:08

cycling christ,terrible.my partner as Scottishy no thanks

Ronaldinhio · 26/09/2009 23:09

yabu

one cannot imagine adressing one's husband other

TeamEdwardTango · 26/09/2009 23:11

My Dad still called me by an abbreviation of my maiden name (Thomps,for example), and just like Bibithree, it annoys DH no end!

I have been known to refer to DH and the DS's collectively as The - Boys (e.g The Thompson Boys). They like to call themselves that too, like a superhero chant.

Bleh · 26/09/2009 23:13

I've never encountered this, but would like to join everyone else in their undying hatred of hubby. There's a couple of people I know on FB who have status updates like "Sharon and her hubby had the bestest weekend ever" "Sharon had so much fun with her hubby last night ". It makes me want to puke and un-add them, but I can't. Because we're related.

alwayslookingforanswers · 26/09/2009 23:13

NaO - when you have a surname like ours there is a case for shortening it.........

However I don't call him by that, or the surname with a Y on the end - far too much bloody hard work,.

Original poster
NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 23:19

interestingly it is quite prominent amongst the ex- boarding school folk!

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Original poster
NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 23:21

Jacko being case in point

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fluffles · 26/09/2009 23:23

although, some can become almost like a name, i have a friend whose husband is called mac by absolutely everybody (his parents being dead). she calls him mac too he was mac when she met him...

no idea what is actual name is but i know he's only mac because he's a scot in england and has a mac surname.