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Original poster

to flinch and want to stick hot coals where the sun don't shine when women call their husbands by their surname with a 'Y" on the end?

75 replies

NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 22:26

As in 'Jonesy' 'Clarky' 'Thorpy' I could continue ad nauseam

He is not a 16 year old on the rugby field and you are not his chum

He is an adult
You are his wife/partner .....grrrrr

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bratley · 26/09/2009 23:24

Also, DH has the most boring, common, one syllable first name that if I shout him across a room full of people he never hears me! So if I call him by his nickname I have more chance of being heard and him recognising that I'm calling him!

Original poster
NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 23:25

i am supposed to stick the hot coals into myslef !!!

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Original poster
NotanOtter · 26/09/2009 23:26

I see you live somewhere posh Bratley
you probably went to baording school

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Ninks · 26/09/2009 23:30

YABVU for mentioning grown men who add "y" onto their names as if you are condoning it!

YANBU if you are calling such "men" twunts.

bratley · 26/09/2009 23:32

You stalking me NotanOtter??

Didnt go to boarding school, far from it!

CristinaTheAstonishing · 26/09/2009 23:34

We have one friend whose surname sometimes gets the Y treatment. He went to boarding school. I don't think his wife calls him that, only some friends, sometimes. Never occurred to me it was commonplace.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 26/09/2009 23:35

Do you dislike 'rellies' too?

alwayslookingforanswers · 26/09/2009 23:42

am I the only MNer that remembers the register being called out in state school by surname??? I'm not that old either........well I like to tell myself I'm not

CristinaTheAstonishing · 26/09/2009 23:44

I think they still do it. DD's name starts with S but our surname with an A so she's the first to get called.

motherbeyond · 27/09/2009 09:32

i was 18 when i met my dh at uni,when we moved into the same accomodation..he introduced himself as gally (a shortening of his surname) i called him this,as his first name is quite geeky and sounded formal.
i call him by a pet name in private or amongst family/friends...but the rest of the time i call him gally.
my mum hates this,although while we were at uni she called him gally..when we got engaged seven years later, she refused. don't see the problem..certainly wouldn't make me think of mutilating someone with hot things!

LadyoftheBathtub · 27/09/2009 09:39

My DP's name does have a Y on the end so that wouldn't work - however if you heard me call him by the pet name we use, you'd probably be begging for a cheesy rugger nickname

And I actually like hubby! - we're not married so he's not my hubby, but I do sometimes use it in a "comedy" way...

sassy · 27/09/2009 09:43

I do this.

Bathsheba · 27/09/2009 09:43

Our surname ends in an s and it doesn't work with an y on the end...(Think Matthews-y...)

No idea what would have happened if DH had made it as a pro footballer etc - what would everyone have called him...??

Katisha · 27/09/2009 10:07

FWIW I do dislike "rellies"...

MintyCane · 27/09/2009 10:09

I have Never heard anyone do this

IdrisTheDragon · 27/09/2009 10:12

I dislike hubby. And rellies. And other such words.

Our surname wouldn't work with a y on the end. We do sometimes call the cat a variation of it with ster on the end though

katiestar · 27/09/2009 10:18

I went to a state school where the boys were always called by their surname.

sherby · 27/09/2009 10:18

I so nearly deleted somebody on fb yesterday for this. I couldn't stand one more icky wicky baby cakey status update

I almost felt like emailing back 'you do realise he is a grown man not a baby or a kitten don't you?'

MarshaBrady · 27/09/2009 10:21

Jacko, Jonesy etc also v Australian.

IneedacleanerIamalazyslattern · 27/09/2009 14:21

Tommy I would have the same with dh name but his/our friends at primary school came up with a far less pleasant variation of it and naming him after a chocolate cake or young girl guide would be preferabble believe me.

colabottlefizzy · 27/09/2009 15:19

My dh gets called by his surname + y by his friends and collegues, he's in the army and its really common. I know one wife who had her dh name tattooed on her a couple of years ago, not his actual name mind you, but his army nickname which went along the same line as Tomps.

BelleWatling · 27/09/2009 15:41

I would associate this with a very specific type of person: they would probably live in the home counties. She probably was netball captain. He is probably the main breadwinner. She would do something with horses or local charities. They both would have impressive teeth and enormous capacity for alcohol. They would have lots of children but never in your worst nightmares could you imagine them having sex. With each other. He probably has sex with a woman in Elephant and Castle who spanks him. She probably has a tennis instructor on the side...not necessarily male.

I am thinking someone like Jeremy Clarkson...I can imagine his wife snorting "Oy Clarky"

I realise I am a dreadful inverse snob.

I can't exactly call my OH 'watlingy' now though.

Nellykats · 27/09/2009 16:00

Haha I'm one of those women! I didn't even know it's a chummy blokey thing... I had only heard one of my husband's friends (his best friend) call him that, it sounded quite sweet, and I started too. Coming from abroad, I missed the whole history of the term... now I feel like a div, but pleasantly so!

TitsalinaBumsquash · 27/09/2009 16:07

DP's surname just wouldn't work with a 'y' or a 'ster' on the end.

They all have nicknames at work though and if i ring up and ask for him by his actaual name they all look blankly at me so i have to ask for 'Flash'

I hate Hubby just like i refuse to talk to people who call me dp's 'missus'

CNyle · 27/09/2009 16:11

i dont mind it.

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