to be upset over nutella

[lemonadesparkle]

DC 3(so not pfb) has just started Yr R and stayed for lunch at school today for the first time. DC is allergic to many things including nuts and has epipens (2 at school, one in the bag that goes everywhere and 2 at home - so basically covered at all times). School are aware of all the allergies and what this might mean and have reassured me that the dinner staff have all been informed and that school is nut free anyway.

So, mummies had been asked to accompany their children for lunch today as part of the settling in period. There was a brief talk at the beginning reitterating what was and wasn't allowed in packed lunches and then we all sat down to eat. The mummies chatted and amongst other things discussed the non permissable foods only for one parent whose dc was sat next to mine announce that her child was having nutella sandwiches Surely the clue is in the name "NUTella" !!!!! I tried not to be overconcerned and moved dc further down the table to try and prevent contamination but I am extremely worried that had I not been there dc could have had an anapylactic reaction on the very first day having lunch at school

AIBU to be upset about this and perhaps speak to school again and request that they send out a letter clearly stating that nuts are incredibly dangerous for my child and that includes Nutella?

Seriously, how can she not have known that Nutella has nuts in it? Unless she is spectacularly stupid (or non-English speaking), it is impossible.

However, I think YABU since this was the first day - an explanation would have probably served to educate the mother on your child's allergy.

I think Nutella has become a generic term for chocolate spread which may or may not contain nuts. My child has a peanut allergy and his school is not nut free. He knows that he cannot share food and no-one can touch his food. Once in reception another boy grabbed his lunch and they gave my ds a school lunch instead just in case. Another child at the school has a severe allergy to peanuts, treenuts and eggs and she sits at a special table with other children whose parents have agreed to make sure their dcs lunch doesn't contain anything that could cause a reaction.

I think that nutella and pb are a bit special because they are so sticky so the allergen can get transfered to other surfaces, especially when children aren't too bothered about washing their hands after eating.

YANBU to be upset and worried but YABU to expect everyone else to comply. Its just not important to other people and they will forget or just not bother.