Between us, me and DP have 3 children. I have 2 boys to previous relationship and he has one. They all live with us.
His DS is 13 and has been in secondary school for 2 years. In this time he has missed out on a trip abroad as DP couldn't afford to let him go. This was before I moved in.
My DS is 11 and has just started secondary school. His school has big links with over-seas schools so they put a lot of empthasis on trips abroad. I would like him to experience some of these. One he really wants to do is a film making project on Dracula, some of which will be filmed in Gothic locations in France.
In the past I have told DS that his dad's maintanance payments will go towards secondary school trips abroad.
The thing is, DP doesn't get any maintanance for his DS so still can't afford to let him go on trips abroad. DP thinks that my DS shouldn't be allowed to go on these trips either because it won't be fair.
I can see his point, it isn't fair on his DS but can I really let my DS suffer because DSS's mother doesn't pay any maintanance?
We can't afford the trips out of our own money, my children's maintanance is all we have for stuff like this and it isn't enough to cover all 3 of them.
I really don't want DS to miss out I feel deep down I am being unreasonable, we can't let one go and not another but I'm so pissed off that my DS has to suffer.
How unreasonable am I being?