To Think that when you go and stay with someone...

[Ilikethembutnotwhattheydid]

DP,ds1,ds2 and I went to stay with some friends of mine.

during in the 6 days we were there....
They never cooked
stayed in bed way past the time their children did
paid only for 1 meal because they had no money
but had booze daily
left their 2 youngest dc in the same nappy for far too long...
didn't seem too bothered about the dc eating.
did not offer to pay for food
and then...
someone stole money out of dps wallet

aibu to think these are bog standard things you do as a parent?? well with exception of the stealing?

don't go back - they're not looking for friends, they're looking for a meal ticket and free childcare

I'm not sure what you hope to gain from this thread really. You don't like the way they treated their children and they stole from you - try not to have anything further to do with them. I doubt they would apologise if you raised it with them, if they stole from you then they'll know why you are not coming over/speaking to them anymore and probably won't want to push it.

Write it off as a bad situation and don't waste time thinking or getting frustrated about it. It's sad when you discover things like this about someone you considered as a friend but there's not really anything else you can do. You can't exactly remain friends with someone who thinks it's OK to steal from you.

I am just lost how you could sleep through your child crying from the next room to you tbh lol.
ds2 only has to move and I am awake....

Anyway Thankyou all for your opinions, i think I had already decided we were not going to go back but i just needed reassurance that I was not being OTT.

Maybe I should stop being so nice???

When people stay with me they get a cooked breakfast every day, and a home cooked meal in the evening.....oh and I also end up dealing with all the dc lmao.....ok I must really stop being so in tune with toddlers lol.

Jeepers I'd not be back.Theft is theft.

Am loving moondogs sordid takeways. Can imagine her shouting " Away ye fiends of satan" when the silver boxes arrive. I'm no stranger to takeaways myself and sometimes when we have visitors if they are there for more than one night then we might get in a takeaway for one evening - does this make me a complete slattern- but moderation in all things.

Curiosity, sorry x-posted.

LOL Rookie nooooooooo 1 night is ok but not 3 nights running lmao.....

My dear friend is celebrating a big occasion with me on Friday and keeps saying 'I'll get us a takeaway!@

I am trying to pluck upi cpurege to say 'Really, I'd rather cook. Really.'

I honestly feel depressed even thinking about a takeaway.

right I am feeling rather uncomfortable in this name I must go and find my real identity.....so I shall not be posting for a little while.

Thieves
Takeaways
Snotty toddlers in nappies bulging with wee.

Sounds great.
Not.

lol yes too nice, you are definitely being too nice. Can I come and stay with you? I would like cooked breakfast/dinner every night!

I thought moondog was suggesting a new name for you as in Istayedwithdirtylazythieveswhocannotlookaftertheirownchildrenbutcallthemselvesfriends

Curiositykilled, get in line, the OP is staying with me first, I take decaff tea in the morning and like my poached eggs soft boiled, DS is none too fussy on the state of his shreddies and DH will be so grateful to have breakfast made for him that you could serve him a brillo pad and he wouldn't notice.

Curiosity, depends....are you a fussy eater???

I mean today I made
ds1 sausages, scrambled eggs, beans and toast for breakfast before school.

DS2 had jacket potato with cheese and beans for lnch (he refuses breakfast daily!!)

and dinner today was

Roast Pork, Brocolli, Cauliflower, Brussels, Roast Tatties, Yorkshires and Gravy.

Last night was a lamb casserole, the night before home made chicken and vegetable soup.

And tomorrow I am making a stew.

Rookie,
ohh yours seems like a breeze!!

DP tells me everyday how much he loves me and appreciates me. because i will get up with him whatever time his shift starts to make him breakfast.

ds1 on the other hand tells me he is more than capable of making himself toast or cereal lol ungrateful urchin/

Right I'm off to bed now but Ilikethem your invite is in the post, am salivating with thought of cooked breakfast on days other than christmas or birthday.

night rookie sleep well.

I will be up at 5am to make dp's brekkie before he goes off to his fishing match. and then will make ds1 his brekkie before school.

me thinks i have too much time on my hands lol

did they pay for the alcohol?

did they have food already waiting in the fridge/cupboard/freezer

None of us are fussy and will eat anything that is going. Unfortunately I am eating for 3 and DH, DS and DD eat like it's going out of fashion so you'll probably be eaten out of house and home on the first day.

Methinks you are very nice, good that your DP appreciates it too.

Sorry I disappeared after that question last night, my connection went....

How revolting. That sounds like a horrendous weekend! It's not the takeaway part that bothers me (considering there were a few of you there, maybe they're not very good at cooking) - it's the rest of it!

The thing is, with the days out, maybe they were too embarrassed to admit that they didn't have the money - but felt that they had to go anyway. That being said, there is no way that I would let someone pay for that more than once, let alone many times.

Do you know for definite that they stole the money though? Is it not a case that your DP might have miscounted the first time? Or perhaps broken into a note and forgotten?

Horrible

I wouldn't be hurrying back. Quite apart from the money issue, I would feel completely taken advantage of I'm afraid.