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AIBU?

to be upset at my best friend

37 replies

blushrose · 19/09/2009 14:59

I am leaving next week to move to another city. My leaving do/drinks are tonight. I invited everyone a month ago, my best friend says 'I should be free but it's DP's birthday on the Thursday so we might be doing something"

Anyway on Thursday she and her DP had a cosy night in, she cooked dinner for him etc. So I said great I'll be seeing you on Saturday then? Answer was no, as 'a couple of friends are coming round for dinner for DP's birthday'

AIBU in thinking she should be coming to my leaving do? And that the friends for dinner should have been arranged for another night seeing as she must have known when she invited them that I had my drinks for tonight?

Ok I know it's his birthday but I'd like to think if I was in her shoes I'd have said 'blushrose is leaving and it's important for me to go to her drinks'

I'm not going to see her for months now.

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EvilEdnasTwinSister · 19/09/2009 17:25

OP:
I hope you have a good evening; don't let her attitude bother you

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lavenderkate · 19/09/2009 17:26

People are strange.
I threw my close friend a leaving party and havent heard from her since she left 6 wks ago!

Have a lovely time tonight.

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Docbunches · 19/09/2009 17:46

YANBU. I would feel deeply upset if I were you. She sounds like someone who has to be doing 'couple-y' things and can't bear to be away from her DP (I could be wrong, but whatever her reason there's no excuse for her selfish and insensitive behaviour, IMO).

I hope you have a lovely evening anyway!

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ChilloHippi · 19/09/2009 18:24

That's better than what happened to me, lavenderkate: I once sat in a cafe waiting for a friend on her birthday. I had a cake, a balloon and presents. She didn't turn up

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 19/09/2009 19:12

Did she give you a reason, CH.

I once waited over an hour for a friend and then I went home. She rang and never apologised as well as making me feel bad that I gave up after an hour.

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ChilloHippi · 19/09/2009 19:17

She ignored my texts for a couple of hours and then replied that she had gone somewhere else instead. No apology, nothing.

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 19/09/2009 19:26

Some friend.

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lavenderkate · 19/09/2009 19:27

OHHHH!! Chillo that's truly awful. Poor you.
If you had done that for me I would have been so thrilled. What a lovely person you are honeybun!
my birthday is not far off hint hint

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ChilloHippi · 19/09/2009 20:01

I do try to be nice

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Knickers0nmahead · 20/09/2009 20:14

I know this may sound horrible but some people would rather spend time with their family on birthdays.

Hope you had a nice time anyways.

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junglist1 · 20/09/2009 20:44

OP that isn't a best friend. She's one of those nasty fake types by the sound of it, with groundhogs here 100% get rid of the trash.

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Knickers0nmahead · 21/09/2009 12:39

I remember something similar to chillohippi happening to me, but I was the other person.

I was meant to be meeting bf at a play centre on my birthday. Dp was going to drop me off there. But instead, he took me out for a nice meal instead, as a suprise. I couldn't let friend know until I got home as I had left my phone there.