To hate next doors dd

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Have been told loads of times by dp that I am been silly and should act more like an adult but I loathe next doors dd she is 9 years old and is a horrible nasty crafty bully.
Her and ds who is 8 used to play alot together and I welcomed her inot my house fed her welcomed her when ds had other freinds over.
It all started 6 months ago when more nieghbourhood children came onto the scene and she turned on ds and managed to influence others into not been his freind as it is they have abandoned her as well.
I had had to speak to her parents about one particular episode where she carried on bullying ds infront of me despite my asking her to stop.
I thnk she has loathed me since that which is probably the reason why she totally shuns us with a ignorant angry look whenever we are on our driveway at the same time her mom is still on good talking terms with me but her nasty little dd looks the other way and stomps off.
The spiteful little thing is also making nasty little comments to ds at school about his freckles saying that they make him look ugly I was wondering why he kept saying he hates them she has also been saying to his mates that he is an horrible little boy.
Her behaviour a few months ago when alot of her behaviour came to a head consisted of throwing snowballs at my house, and flinging my porch door open when I took ds in away from her nastiness.
So am I unreasonable to hate her with a passion or am I been silly and are girls normally so vile.

s'funny, I thought I recognised this thread. I didn't even post on it before but it stuck in my head, obviously - because it wasn't that long ago I suppose.

this is the problem with her - you would have to see her in action. but im not the only one - i was just the first to experience her! others have realised the full extent of her nastiness...

nope still sounding demented

If you are so worked up about this child, you should stop inviting them round. Its not fair on the child who is a very little girl. You are attributing all sorts of things to her and interpreting all her behaviour in a bad light.

Sounds as if a load of people are discussing this child behind her mum's back. How very nasty.

some children are just wired wrong, nature dictates that some people ( yes children even 3 yr olds!) are predisposed to unsociable and nasty behaviour, ive met a few children like this and i find it very uncomfortable being around them, tbh im rather perturbed by them, something is just not quite right with them and i just keep well clear!
its harder for the op as she has to live next door to a vile child, and although i wouldn't say all girls are horrid etc, i do believe from experience that girls bully other children in many forms, its much more sophisticated than a boys version which usually is a beating, girls get into your head and mess around with your emotions more. they can be much more spiteful than boys imo.

whenever one of these vile children get a bit rough or start to pick on my DS at a playcentre, ( they know what they're doing because they look around to see if anyones watching!) i just get into their eyeline and stare at them with just an equally cold un-nerving glare, and don't break it until they look away. it alway works. no one hurts my family without a consequence, no one not even a little brat.

i feel for you op, ive been known to growl and once even barked and bared teeth at a group with knives that were in the same train carridge as me and they knocked right into me and ds ( it was some sort of rival gang situ going on ) they all backed the F**k up and one even apologised.
when your raised in a rough neighbourhood you don't mess around with tactical behaviour etc. ( not when its serious anyway )

(note the date on the OP, OTTMummA - it's a resurrected thread...)

Do you own a bandanna and an ak47 by any chance OTTMummA?

bandana yes, ak47 is on loan at the mo for a hit

Some children are very unlikable. There is one child at DS's playgroup who always seems to leave a trail of sobbing toddlers in her wake.
I try not to hate the child - but I have very little time for the mother who fails to intervene or discipline her child.