Fucking PIL!!!!

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Posting here as I could do with a good fight. I'm in a bloody bad mood!

DCs birthdays are nearly always celebrated at my parents house as they have lots of room. MIL usually contributes to the food, which is kind of her.

But PIL are also prone to doing random things. DH told them that DD4's 1st birthday was being celebrated this Sunday about three weeks ago.

He just got back from the swings to say MIL had rung him to say they had a previous engagement and can't come after all.

Is three weeks not enough notice? Ok, I know this isn't a biggie in the grand scheme of things, but fucking hell I'm pissed off

They haven't missed one birthday so far - is DD4 not important because she's the 4th? They have no other grandchildren. What other engagement is more important than a DGC's birthday???

And mostly I'm because it upsets DH.

OP - you really need to get a grip. So your pil don't want to trek to your parents house again to celebrate another birthday party for another child. Doesn't mean they don't love your dd just they did't want to party with you all again. And now you and your dh have made such a fuss they've changed their plans. I think you're bloody lucky in your pil tbh. I wouldn't be nearly as accomodating if you were my dil. More likely remind you that the world does not revolve around you and your numerous offspring.

Be glad you've got a MIL to rant about, mine - who was lovely - died four months after our twins were born and she never got to see them. That's shitty, not your ILs bailing out of one party............

From what you have posted you sound extremely selfish and self centred. The world does not revolve around you.

Get over it

I imagine that the PILs have made a big deal of coming to EVERY party and have made the OP see it as a big deal, some years I imagine it's not been so convenient to have them. Then when everyone expects them, through their past experience, the thing they have made to be a very big deal they decide to miss. I completely understand the OP's point of view.

You make a lot of assumptions, posie!

it's just one party. In the whole scheme of things, it's not that big an issue. Are you possibly taking what is merely a scheduling conflict to be a rejection of your DD? That's reading a bit into it, don't you think?

Consider yourself lucky they've been so active in your children's lives - my parents haven't even bothered to send a card to our kids for their birthdays or Christmas, as they (my parents) are angry with ME (so apparently they think it is appropriate to punish the children for this ).