to think she should have told me?

[honeybehappy]

Just picked dd1(3) up from nursery and her keyworker called me over to say a little boy had scratched her face. dd's face looks awful she had 4 big scratch marks on one cheek and they are quiet deep, a small one just below her eye and one on her chin and then another on her other cheek. So when she said a scratch i was shocked to see 7.

I asked who it was and she said she couldnt say. I took dd outside and she said it was *** i then realised this was the keyworkers son.

Now im not pissed off that it happened because she explained what had happened and although it's not ok i know it happens in every nursery. But i am pissed off that she didnt tell me it was her son and say sorry and tell me how he was punished.

DD says he did not say sorry and was not given any sort of time out /punishment.

So it is this right that she cannot tell me who it was?

yes of course they cant tell you its all about confidentiality, but they should have appropriate systems in place so that children who hurt others are made to apologise to the other child and incident forms filled in and given to you as part of practice. I used to work with people who have LD and if another user hurt another they would be made to apologise, parents/carers would be informed aned incident forms completed