to NOT want to dress my ten year old daughter like a trollop?

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My somewhat petite dd1 (10) has finally moved from junior to pre-teen in sizes and I'm really quite depressed at what clothing manufacturers think she should be wearing. I accept that the cutesy, cutesy days are WAY behind us, but she's still a child and I don't think a child should be wearing t-shirts with suggestive slogans, crop tops, hot pants and minis. She's 10, not a pole-dancer.
For the record, I am a very open-minded, liberal, non-DM reader(!) and am not particularly prudish.

I agree. Although am having a difficult time persuading 13 yr old DD that she shouldn't want to dress like a hooker and 11 yr old DD that yes people will think she is a boy if she wears nothing but jeans and rugby shirts. No happy medium at all.

Then shop very selectively in Tammy and New Look as they are full of the hooker style.

H&M and M&S have some good stuff. Dd just gets into Boden trousers and dresses (not t-shirts as too tight) aged 11.

We heart H&M here - stuff to satisfy mummy's and dd's

My 12 year old DD lives in jeans and check shirts. I dread her starting to hanker after pornowear.

Exactly, EG. And isn't it really sad just how normalised it has become for children to be sexualised? (No really, I don't read the DM, although I may in fact be turning into my mother.)

I though of threads like this on MN when I was in Brantano earlier -they had the most horrendous sparkly Bratz shoes with heels in the girls section.

I just gawped at them wondering who would dress their primary school aged girls in them

here you go

(they also had ones without the peeptoe but more glittery

I agree - it's very hard. DD(11) finds it very hard to find clothes that she even likes. H&M are good and she hearts Jack Wills but my wallet doesn't.

I think it is the knack of shopping around - sometimes M&S have good stuff, sometimes Next, sometimes a T-shirt from Joules will be acceptable...

But don't get me started on shoes!

These things are designed by... well, people without children, probably. We need to take a firm stand against them.

I saw a little girl of about seven on Sunday, she had a blouse with the buttons open halfway down her chest, a very short little schoolgirl-esque pleated skirt (not a school uniform, wrong sort of colour), a very grown up looking belted jacket and slingbacks with kitten heels. Not so much a hooker outfit but just the sort of thing a woman in her 20's would wear to the office, very peculiar get up, I thought. She was trying to run round with the children she was with and kept falling over in the heels.

Next has some quite nice things. I forget where I was yesterday but I saw a faux-fur leopard skin coat and denim mini skirt

And no YANBU.

it horrible isn't it I am glad I have 2 ds but today I saw a 3 year old in what I could only describe as a hooker t-shirt. plunging neckline and held together with two ties at the back. I don't even want to think about the troubles you have trying to find suitable clothes for teen/preteens it would be my idea of a worst nightmare!

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I agree, H&M is good, Gap too.
My 8yr old dd wants to wear 'funky' clothes (!) I have said that while I am paying, I get final say!
She asked me for a padded bra last week because a girl in her class has one. I found myself uttering that awful line - 'I don't care what x has, you are NOT having one!
Dreading the teenage years. Maybe she'll be a goth, they seem to show less (very pale) flesh.

Those shoes are truly hideous, and I hope no parent, regardless of how much their daughter hassles them, ever buys a single pair. My DD only turns 2 next month, so I haven't had any of these problems with her yet. I have a 10 yr old DSD and have been clothes shopping with her, so have noticed how revealing everything seems to be. Do they think that everyone over 7 constantly needs their stomach exposed?

YANBU - but I don't like the way that you consider only dm readers would find this style of dress for children offensive.

lol @ twirlymum praying for goths!

IKKS junior is lovely for teens - it is fashionable but not slutty.

Can I just point out that the DM comments are a vague attept to make it clear that I am not some Barbara Woodhouse-esque prude bemoaning falling "standards".

Norbert, those shoes

Totally agree with you yeahbut, there is plenty of time for her to wear these things when she is a lot older. I heard that a highstreet chain, cant remember the name was selling thongs for tween. We as parents have a choice not to buy these things.

zara. Gap. John Lewis. Fat Face don't tend to fall into the pole dancer category. I find this it's hard shopping for my 6 yr old let alone the 9 yr old.

those shoes are hideous!

dh wanted to buy dd age 2 a leather jacket

Shoes, norbert....bleurgh emoticon!

I have an issue with dressing my dd as she's nearly 9 but in age 11 clothing. She's tall and slender, so a lot of clothes don't fit well.

Supermarket clothes are generally too short. Some styles are baggy at the neck, because dd doesn't have the shoulders of an 11 year old. She also doesn't have the sophistication of an 11 year old, so I find designs often don't suit.

I'm a fan of Gap and H&M. I also liked Pumpkin Patch, but she's growing out of it now as it tends to be short.

I hate the mini grown-up look, and luckily, so does my girl. How long that'll last for, though, I just don't know. Down with trollop clothes I say. But mums must be buying them or companies wouldn't make them.

Those shoes really are bad aren't they -my face must have been a picture when I saw them.

DD (9) wasn't with me but I think I can safely say that she would have been equally horrified by them. After all, this is the girl who when she was 4/5 saw some LelliKelly shoes in a shop and went "eeuurgh...yuk".

I struggle too with DD1 (10). I find a lot of high street stuff is too short, too tight, inappropriate and basically more suited to a 21 year old going to a bar!!

I love Boden, Monsoon and Joules (also some gap) but it is all so expensive. Luckily I have 2 DDs so it all gets good usage.

I do know the days of little girly dresses with bows and ribbons are gone but also do not want her to look like a pole dancer!

Those shoes!!! Who buys those?!