if you were going on a self-catering holiday in the UK with friends how would you feel if someone wanted to bring their dog?

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not an AIBU as such - I'd just like a genuine sounding of opinion

Why does your dog need a holiday? Is it very stressed at work?

The problem with "making sure your dog does not make a problem of herself" is that things that are perfectly acceptable to you may not be to other people. And how would you know?

My children neither chew furniture/shoes, or wee on the floor, or jump on random strangers and lick their faces (and even if they did, they wouldn't have just licked their testicles first). Dogs and children are not the same thing!!!!

I wouldn't go if someone bought their dog.

it would be a no from me because i have young children and a baby and they're not used to dogs.

Having just been on a holiday where 3 of us brought our dogs I would be fine with it

"My children neither chew furniture/shoes, or wee on the floor, or jump on random strangers and lick their faces" neither does my dog. nor in fact most dogs I know.

quite
all of the 3 dogs were well behaved and well exercised
They didn't wee or poo in the house (obv)
or chew anything

I like dogs ans so wouldn't mind. If it was a well behaved dog. Badly behaved dogs are very annoying. Neraly as annoying as badly behaved children.

If/when we do have a dog, part of the joy of having a dog would be the lovely family holiadys romping with our dog, dogs really do becaome part of the family, that is what is wonderful about them.

In which case if you have friensd who don't like dogs, you may have to choose.

I'd choose the dog.

But I like holidays to be about us being together as a family, and I've found compromising with friends on holiday a chore tbh, so I'd go for us and our dog. (the chocolate labrador I inetnd to have one day!)

that is what puppies do, pooexplosions. Dogs are not puppies.

It's not a question of how well behaved the dog is or isn't.
It's whether having a dog in the place would mean that some of the people in the party were on edge/having a compromised holiday because it was there.

Well some one has got to compromise; either by having a dog there they don't want, or by leaving their dog at home when they'd like them there.

It's not an issue where middle ground can be reached.

For reasons such as this (but not this) I've deciede holidaying alone is the way to go and friensd are best for day or weekend visits at the most. Howver much you get on or are alike, compromises will have to be made by someone and can create bad feeling and resentment.

Our ddog had a long weekend at the seaside in July, and had a great time - new beaches, walks etc. The sea air seemed to exhaust him in a way it never did with kids! We have been on two big group holidays (prior to dog joining the family), and at times different people went to different places with a combination of their own and other children. A dog would have fitted in well, and a local springer spaniel turned up in the garden from time to time.

We've just come back from a self catering holiday house which my in-laws booked.. they have two dogs, and we have a lovely lab...

Honestly, even though I am a dog owner, I'd rather do a dog-free holiday, unless WE carefully choose the accommodation. Dog friendly holiday lets tend to be the properties they don't mind being covered in dog hair and muddy paws - ie the not very nice ones! Or maybe that's just my experience.

Saying that I'd happily go on a family holiday with OUR dog... wouldn't take her on holidays with other friends though, they are still high maintenance, walks, feeding, being left alone etc.

imagine this from the other side - someone just came back from holiay with friends who brought their dog with them. AIBU - etc to object to their dog being there.
the first thing someone would say would be along the lines of 'you knew they had a dog, right? - of course they'd bring it!' and then 'if all you were objecting to was it being there, you are being irrational, its up to you to deal with your phobia' and indeed 'if you didn't say anything ahead of time, how the bloody hell are they meant to guess?'

See what i mean?

Well, it depends on so many things, but mainly location of holiday and the friends you are going with! I actually expect family holidays to include the dog, but then most of the friends that I holiday with have dogs, so it isn't an issue. The dogs are pretty much always included in whatever we do.

And I guess I'd just assume that another family would bring their dog with them on holiday unless they said they weren't!

No way would I go on holiday with a dog. Nor would I go to an establishment that allowed them, you can smell when a dog has been in a room at 50 paces, regardless of how well cleaned the place has been.

Mind you, nobody I would want to go on holiday with has a dog, so it's never going to come up for me.

Dogs are indeed the equivalent of children in this debate. ie it's only other people's ones that might be a nuisance, because our own are so charming and well behaved that nobody could possibly object to their presence.

But just as other people's children are never as charming or well behaved as your own, so too are other people's dogs.

I'd say yes to the dog out of politeness and then seethe about it.

Who would say no to a dog, unless they had allergies? You're not putting your friends in a fair position.

Lots of people without allergies would say no to a dog! I don't have to be allergic to not want to share space with an animal.

Dogs are never the equivalent of children, end of. Unless you leave your children in kennels, tied up outside shops, and have them put down when they get sick. That ridiculous assertion says a lot about precious dog owners though.....

my dog has feelings. that much is obvious. These feelings require consideration. Also in consideration, is the fact that (for various reasons) she can't be left in kennels. I can't afford it as well as a holiday for one thing - (a good kennels would cost the same as nightly site fees) for someone to expect me to go to that expense merely to cater for their anti-dog prejudice would be very unreasonable. (certainly anyone who thinks all dogs jump up and have house training issues is indeed prejudiced)

point by point - why on earth would anyone other than me have to get up in order to give dog her morning walk? (she wakes up later than the kids anyway, but that's by th by)
my dog (like most adult dogs) is fine to be left long enough for a meal out. For a full day I am happy to stay and dogsit whilst husband goes out with kids (more than happy....feet up in the sun with a book and doggy...lurvely)

the way you put it, you make it sound like having a dog there would mean everyone would be roused at dawn, forbidden from going out of sight, and tied to the beast at all times! ridiculous!

Not really a problem for anyone else at all

I like dogs, but am allergic to them. So it depends how long it was for. I don't mind a long weekend on antihistamines and feeling ruff (sorry) but I probably wouldn't want to be with a dog for a fortnight.

I love dogs being around the DC, I want them to grow up confident with animals. I sort of feel like I am letting them down a bit us not having a family dog.

I dogsit for family occasionally and each time it reminds me that although I love dogs I really can't have one

Morriszap - I would say no despite there being no allergy issues.

Erm, so to actually answer the question, I would love it if a friend brought their dog on a joint holiday with us.