To be even MORE judgy of other peoples' parenting since having DS.....

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

I know this will come back to bite me in the ass...

I was at a kid's party yesterday. Most of the children were delightful (was a bbq with parents there) but two boys really made me go . One of them was having great difficulty handing over the birthday present (3yo party so kids 3-5), he was really upset that he couldn't have it. Instead of being quite robust with him mum kept cuddling him and (IMO) reinforcing that he was hard done by.

Another boy said to my DS (1yo) 'you mustn't play with that it's X's', and looked positively shocked when I said it was ok, X didn't mind sharing. Later on same boy said 'no that's Y's' when DS had hold of some other toy.

AIBU to judge all over the parents? (I know I am really, but does anyone else do it?) Is it something you do until yours gets to be a toddler/you have more than one?

You sound charming Claw

I know what you mean Kat. If my ds had not wanted to handthe present over I would have said "Don't be daft it isn't your present you bought it for Johnny". Ds would have then handed it over and scarpered off to the bouncy castle but then ds is quite a robust tough cookie whereas some children do seem to burst into tears at the drop of a hat and their parents have to handle them sensitively. I am glad that ds isn't overly sensitive as it makes life much easier!

Judgegiby - LOL and how ironic on a judgmental thread too.

You sound determined to make this personal.

kat, life's too short and we are a long time dead, judging takes up too much headroom and is so tremendously unproductive

Not at all Claw, have posted my opinion (which I stand by) will step out of thread now.

We can all be judgy.

I judge my BIL and SIL as they are far too over protective of their children (not letting an 11 year old walk round to their Grandparents house, who only live 5 minutes away and in a safe estate with very few cars and even fewer strange people and various other examples that I can't be bothered to list) and I'm sure they are judgy of my parenting as I am more laid back with my DD and positively encourage her independance.

As long as we do it in the privacy of our own homes (me and DH are always bitching about other people's parenting) and not to the parents involved it doesn't matter, though that does rather make me two faced doesn't it

Florence2511, bitching to your dh is allowed. {wink]

thanks dollshouse