Access of child/children

[becsta]

Hi everyone,
Just after a bit of advice I know I have to go and see a solicitor but am trying to calm myself down for the sake of my children!!!!
I have 2 children both from diff fathers ( not the best situ I know)
I have just recieved a letter, (recorded deliv!!!) from my second childs dad saying that he now requires to have my youngest son over night every other weekend and no longer wishes to be a dad to my eldest and therefore the over night thing doesnt not mean for him too.
Let me make this clear I have never stopped him from seeing or doing anything with both children and up until recently he was looking after both so I was able to go to work 4 days a week (which I fit in around him!).
He then decided it would be for the best to only look after them one day a week, now this!
What are his chances does anyone know?

[pleasechange]

reality - noone is saying that they 'shouldn't' seem him, just that it's quite unusual and can't be forced. The statistics speak for themselves, it is unusal, fact

[jellybeans]

I think 13 months is too young for overnights if he is not used to being away from you for so long. 3 is a better age IMO. I do feel sad for your older boy but feel that the dad of your youngest should still be able to see his son. Yes he is not being thoughtful of your older boy but he isn't the dad at the end of the day. The only people I know who see ex steparents were together for 10 years upwards and lived with them all that time and took on totally the parenting role.

[Silver1]

Personally I think if you have let your 13 month sleep over at grandparents etc for babysitting then there is no reason why they can't have over nights with dads. I wonder if he has had O/Ns before.
I am a bit confused as to which dad is living in shared accommodation.

[GypsyMoth]

more information required here i think.

have courts/solicitors been involved previously?

[Tryharder]

Agree with others. I think a man who has lived with his wife's children for some years would be extremely callous to just dump the children when the relationship ended, particularly if those children call him Dad.

Unfortunately there are no depths too low for some men (and women) to sink to get back at their XPs.

Look at Peter Andre anyway, he's still being papped on days out with Harvey as well as the other 2.

[pleasechange]

tryharder, I really don't think it is necessarily callous that adults and stepchildren no longer see eachother after a split. The fact is there is no blood-link, and very often the only bond/link is the bio-parent. However, that said, I do think that in the OP's case, it is very hard on her elder child. In fact, every split is hard on children, whether a split between bio-parents or step. It's a really big shame

[madameDefarge]

As a child I remember my half-brothers and sister going off with their father for visits etc...and feeling devastated because I was not included. He had been my dad as well for two years...

We later did rebuild our relationship, but sadly he died shortly afterwards.

[floatyjosmum]

although it must be hard on the older child, there has to be some respect to the dad for wanting to stay in the younger ones life - a larhe majority of men cut off contact with their childrne following seperating from the mother.

tbh from what youve said if he went to court then he would prob get what he is asking for. he has been in the little ones life a lot (as youve stated with the work thing).
although you may not be happy with who he is living with, if he says he will be sober etc when caring for baby there wouldnt be much you could say on this.

re the csa, i never quite understand why men go to them as it seems to be those men that are ripped off by them, but if that is what he has decided to do then thats how it is.