to have started to hate baby group politics?!

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Those mums who have a perfect child and love to highlight your childs imperfections......

Those mums who say their child is perfect when in fact they are a sod.......

To comment endlessly about all the wonderful things x can do.......

AIBU to smile sweetly and pray my child doesn't pull perfect Peter across the room by his hair?????

BubbaandBump

belief Oh the shame (it's hard to type when you're rocking)

I didn't say I hated them! Just what they say!

BubbaAndBump......keep rocking!

:D at keeping on rocking! Different connotations to when I was a young'un!

I wanted to eat my own face at baby group. Anything to end the tedium and one-upmanship.

I wore a leopard-print dress to the first one and after passing comment, about half of them didn't speak to me again

I never got to tell them how much better my baby was than theirs

Maybe I was going to the wrong kind of baby group, because the one I went to was just full of knackered-looking mums watching their babies play on a big mat. Tea and biscuits were copious, bitchy oneupmanship was not. Have I been missing out?

Not at all cyteen but how about when they were toddlers and pushing, hitting, bitting etc???

"Tea and biscuits were copious"

I wish! Its more home baking.......although not from me!

Well, I haven't got there yet So in a year's time I'll probably be posting this exact same thread.

Cyteen

I went to the same baby groups as you and the same toddler groups

I have made some wonderful friends since having dd nearly 4 years ago, and we often go out for meals alcohol

Although when I had dd I was new to the area and did not really have many friends so thats maybe why I found them a life line.

btw why is asking someone "how much does your baby weigh" passive aggressive?

whilst I understand the ridiculous one upmanship involved in PFB weight gain, surely that particular question is more often than not, used as an ice breaker?

oh,it's a bit silly isn't it? some people in life,you like,some people you don't.
i feel first time mums who talk endlessly about their dc's achievements, for the majority, are just proud and amazed at what the being they created is able to do. i always say something like "i know,it's incredible isn't it..they'll be doing such and such soon!"
unless they're being hideously big headed, i think it's normal that ftm's love to talk about their dc's,and think that a playgroup is a perfect forum.

i found some really nice friends at baby group/playgroup,who i would have been friends with had i met them elsewhere,because we just clicked.
likewise,there are women there i would never be friends with because i find them a bit ,but are fine to say hello to in passing.
live and let live

I hated baby groups. Probably because a) I was a bit depressed after the birth of my first child and b) my first baby was (is!) a demanding little chap (lots of pushing, toy snatching, dirty looks from other mums etc). I really didn't want to be confronted with lots of shiny, smiley, coping mums with dinky, quiet little angels first thing in the morning. Coffee was always shite too, and you were frowned on if you took more than two biscuits. Might as well have stayed at home, scoffed the whole packet and watched Jezza Kyle in peace ...

I did find one that I quite liked when DS was about 2 yrs old - a few cynical, cackling reluctant SAHMs like me to bitch with - but eventually he got too old for it.

I segued happily from recovering from my second birth at home to going back to full time work, so thankfully have missed out on it this time round and I am quietly delighted about it.....

Re. the constant talking about DCs - I was so frazzled for much of DS's first 9 months that I couldn't get enough thoughts together for anything else! Even now I find it hard to grab a thought and cling onto it; back when he was waking 5 times a night for milk there just wasn't space in my head for anything other than banal observations about his latest funny noise.

They are good places to go and be zombie like, on the whole they're safer than my house, and Perfect Peter's mum is always on hand to keep an eye out while I keep an eye shut and have a little snoooooze (with just a little dribble for good measure) ;)

I've clearly been lucky - our toddler group is really lovely, there's stacks of homemade cake, and one of the ladies there even brought us round some dinner and a bottle of wine when DS2 was born. And they held my place open when I had to go back to work for 4 months before going back on mat leave, bless them. They're really oversubscribed, so it was very kind.

Maybe that's why they're oversubscribed?

Postnatal baby groups now, they're another matter. I only went to mine once.

I loved baby groups when I had my first baby. I liked talking about babies and birth and all that stuff all the time. Now I dont so I find them really tedious.

They have their place.

I also find I stick out like a big fat sore thumb so I do my best to avoid. Poor DS3.

I really liked going to baby groups. I thought the whole point of them was for parents to talk about looking after babies.