to have started to hate baby group politics?!

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Those mums who have a perfect child and love to highlight your childs imperfections......

Those mums who say their child is perfect when in fact they are a sod.......

To comment endlessly about all the wonderful things x can do.......

AIBU to smile sweetly and pray my child doesn't pull perfect Peter across the room by his hair?????

According to someone my friend knows I am in a clique and am a snob because of my pram so don't listen to me.

noodlesoup I think thats true......not about being a snob the previous life thing!

I quite enjoyed the groups
For me, the talk about the babies and toddlers (and all that comes with them) was mostly just icebreaking.
There are people you click with and people you don't.

That's how it comes across (and you did post in AIBU ).

One of my friends from NCT classes does the competitive thing. The rest of us smile and ignore it. Because we know her, and know it doesn't mean anything, and because none of us care anyway - she's a nice lady and her little one is a nice child.

People aren't as one dimensional as you think.

You need to learn to play Baby Bitch Bingo and just inwardly snigger.

I don't think I said anyone was one dimensional either! I love the ladies but just find the "my child is perfect, my child can, my child this/that etc a little ah!!! at times.

Baby Bitch Bingo!!!!!!!!!!! Tell me more!!!!

Please don't.

Just ignore people like that. If somebody posted to me about their child, I just smiled politely. I never got into that game with DC1 (even though she met all her milestones with time to spare). I made good friends with people I would have liked if I'd met them at work or school.

These women aren't necessarily dull. They're just talking about pureed carrots to avoid an awkward silence (i'd imagine).

i mean boasted

Thanks MaggieLeo.

You know, you make yourself a mental bingo card of all the irritating things that PFB smuggers say/do, and when you score six you can award yourself a glass of wine that night. I first developed alcohol issues from the baby group I went to

Just remember that pride comes before a fall.they are setting themselves up to come a cropper !

ps, also, by the time the children get a bit older, mine are 7 and 4, people have forgotten to be all exicted about the fact that they're mothers now iykwim. It's just, yeah, and? so it definitely gets better as they get older.

The topics at the school gate are a lot more varied!! although apparently, some people get scared about what people wear at the school gates, so may be I shouldn't bring that up. I seem to be oblivious to it.

i had just turn 20 when i had my DS i live in a small village, so i tried a local group and it was horrible. the other mothers were all older and married. the amount of times i was asked if i was still with DS father was embarassing. ( and yes i was for the record. still am now.) i felt they were judgemental towards me. ( i still get it every now then for old dears)

i never went back but luckly i have found a great group of friends who i have met from DS playschool. and has never felt the need to go to anymore groups since i had DD.

Oh my god, I die of an alcohol overdose

katiestar I hope your right!

picture in the attic, that sounds a good game! I remember the worst comment I ever heard was "oh is your son left handed and a bum shuffler? that's linked to autism and dyspraxi you know". AT the time I was omg and upset too. (It turned out she was right too, oddly)

bide your time ignore baby Olympics.you will meet nice mums

Thats terrible sparkle09 none of their bloddy business!!!

Personally I find it's really difficult to talk about any of the choices we make as parents without sounding like we're putting someone else's choices down. We all need to cut each other some slack and lighten up.

"baby Olympics"

MaggieLeo nothing like cutting to the chase!

True WhatFreshHellIsThis although it isn't really like that in the group its more a case of 1 or two mums being VERY precious and a bit blind to their own childrens actions at times IYSWIM. I'm coming across all wrong tonight, think I'm tired!

Hear hear whatfreshhellisthis

Why should we like every mother we meet? The only thing we have in common is that we had unprotected sex FGS. (and sometimes not even that) Yet we expect to find best new buddies at every baby group, and whine loudly when we don't.

So, its only one or two mums coming across "a bit precious" and you actually love all the ladies really - so then what is the problem?

Don't find excuses to hate people when there aren't really any reasons there. Can't you just ignore, rather than hate?

I think it's all good. >>nods over-enthusiastically, half in self-disbeleif, half in a little mental, rocking-stupor>coughs quietly, takes a bundle of something out of perfect child's grubby little paw and patches Perfect Peter's hair back on