It's my 30th birthday next week. I don't usually do a lot to celebrate my birthday, but as this is a big one, thought I would this year.
4 months ago I started organising a big party for this saturday. I invited around 140 people, including all their kids, so that there wouldn't be the issue of "can't get a babysitter" etc.
I had major problems getting people to commit, so after a month of trying to work out who was coming etc, I decided to cancel as I was due to pay the deposit on the venue which was non-refundable if I had to cancel. I thought it best as couldn't afford to lose £200 if more people let me down closer to the time.
Anyhow, I decided that instead of a party I would have a small get together at home for a few close friends. I started inviting people a few weeks ago & everyone said they could come - 4 couples, 1 single friend plus me & my DH. They all knew that it was an adults only night, so they needed to arrange babysitters.
I text everyone last week to make sure they were all still coming, and they said they were, all bar one couple who I didn't get a reply from, but didn't think for one minute they would let me down as they were the first to say they were definitely coming and the ones to organise their babysitter straight away.
Yesterday I placed a Tesco order for £116 worth of food and drink (which I couldn't really afford).
Then last night, the couple I didn't get a reply from text me to say that they weren't going to be able to make it because a family party had come up (even though they have known about the family do for a while!!!), then another of the couple said they hadn't sorted a babysitter yet so they weren't sure if they were going to make it. Then this morning, another of the couples has said that one of them can't make it as they have no babysitter, but the other will bring her mum with her instead. (It was meant to be a "young" persons night, my parents aren't even coming!!).
I just feel really and let down and am starting to wonder if I should have bothered.
AIBU ??