to get annoyed that my friends dd has her dummy permanently attached to her face?

[girlsyearapart]

Our dds are almost 2 now and whilst mine has a comfort blanket hers has a dummy. My dd is talking really well hers says a few words. I know my dd is advanced in talking but my friend worries that her dd is not talking well. Partly a development thing but a big part is because she has her dummy in nearly 24/7.
I only let my dd have her blanket for sleep time and tell her I can't understand if she tries to talk to me through it.
My younger dd nearly 1 has a dummy and already gives it back to me after her sleep so I don't think 2 is too young to realise comfort items are for when you need comfort eg sleep or ill.
My friend asks me for advice about her dds talking but still lets her dd walk about playing with the dummy in and talking around it. When I look after her dd I won't let her have the dummy whilst playing/walking about. So am I BU?

I don'tthink there's all that much to worry about re her speech just that she's not being asked/encouraged to take dummy out to practice her words.
Def not a SALT issue yet but dummy not helping and can't get it that my friend seems to agree that the dummy doesn't help yet does nothing to restrict its use.

YABU - It's none of your business. Non-dummy Mummies can be a bit snobbish but some children are much happier and more settled with them. I sucked my thumb 'til I was 17!
DD1 spoke from 15 months and is addicted to her dummy.

Will nobody read the part that says I'm not a non-dummy person and my own child has one???

Well it's not all black and white! Nobody has said dummies in themselves are bad (not even me although I count myself as a dummy snob ), just that overusing them can cause problems. Which is your point exactly, I think.

Hurrah thankyou feierabend!
My point is in the overuse to 'shut her up' combined with the asking for advice and not taking it even though claiming to agree..

YABU. My DS1 has a dummy aged 2 and I wish he didn't use it so much but it hasn't stopped him developing speech. I do try to take it off him when we go out and so does his CM, but dp tends to give it back to him very easily. DS2 is 6 months and has never had one, and the way DS1 is attached to his puts me off. But how we parent him is down to me and dp, and our CM's rules are down to her, so long as not incompatible (if she's good at getting the dummy off him that's just fine). However, speech development is very variable, it may not be the dummy that accounts for the difference.

YANBU, absolutely nothing wrong with dummies, however there is no need for a dummy when playing or walking, but especially when talking. I can't understand a toddler when they try and speak with a dummy in their mouth.

However, YABU if you plan to say anything unless she asks you directly.

My DS bite for then first time today

Tomorrow we are hosting a play date and his tummy will be firmly in place (perhaps even aided by tape! )to ensure we don't have a repeat!

No i don't say anything unless she brings it up. Which she does all the time. I'm honest with her and said it was a struggle to get dd1 to leave behind her blanket but after a week or so she accepted it and stopped asking.
I feel like because she can see that I don't let my dds have their blanket/dummy unless sleep time she has to justify why her dd has hers all the time. Always making up an excuse when I'd rather just not talk about it anymore!
And with the 'my house my rules' thing elkie- in my house we don't talk with dummies/blankies in our mouth so if I'm looking after friends dd shouldn;t same rule apply? At her house she;s not expected to sit down and finish her meal but at my house she is cos its not fair on my dds if she can get down and they can't.
How far does the my house my rules thing stretch?

I hate to see children running about playparks with their dummies in and as Tombliboobs says it's even more odd if they're trying to hold a conversation through it! I mean, I'm not gonna call social services about it but it just grates with me.