not allowed to phone my sister.

[Babieseverywhere]

My mother has told me I am not to ring or visit my sister, as she now home recovering from having her first child.

Baby born Saturday morning, I visited (her in hospital without my kids) with my parents on Saturday afternoon.

I thought this was reasonable enough, as my sister will be tired and need a rest. But my DH think my mother is being evil and controlling

I said Mumsnet will agree with me.....

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PS. My DH wants me to add that my mother is looking up breastfeeding advice on the internet and telling my sister what she thinks is relevent whilst telling her that it is alright if she wants to give up breastfeeding.

I don't feel this is very supportive.

My sister made it clear that she wants to breastfeed and wants support to this end. My sister chucked my parents out of her cubical in hospital on Saturday, as she wanted my help to latch her baby on (I'm nursing my two children over the last 3 years and fairly well read on breastfeeding) I suspect this upset my mum.

I don't agree with thesecondcoming at all. I think it's important the OP lets her sister know gently that she'll be there for her and gives her the opportunity to see her if she wants. This needs to be done gently and tactfully so that it doesn't make trouble for the sister or mother.

I would've been upset and worried if my sister didn't attempt to make contact with me at all after my children were born. My sister was looking after my ds when my dd was born at home fgs. I would tell my sister myself if I wanted space, there's no way I'd get my mum to tell her for me. There's no harm in checking, especially if she was keen to talk to the OP about bf in the hospital.

"Babymooning, is when the immediate family spend the first week cocooned at home with lots of quiet nudey cuddle time. It's a lovely time, best spent at home rather than out tilling the fields, walking 10 miles in the snow for water and standing in line for bread as the previous generation of tutting mums did!"

Lawks! Was that was I was supposed to be doing? No wonder MIL thought I was such a lazy baggage for snoozing around cuddled up with the newborn baby and a good book.

LOL pikelit, I got told by one mum that I was lazy and that she was out shopping 4 days after her babies were born. I asked her why and told her to shop online.

I think sending her a text to let her know you're thinking of her and are there if she wants you is a sensible compromise, provided her mobile works in the house (which mine doesn't, also if I'm in the house I turn it off presuming people will phone me at home if they want me). If she's a mobile fan then text should do, brief phone call if not, none of your mum's business if you want to phone your sister.

Your husband is right, your mother is being a cow

Your a grown woman, so is your sister. What she going to do? send you to your room??
I was desperate for people to talk to (moan about how tired I was, how much they want to feed etc)

So what happened then? Did she want to be left alone, or did she need the sisterly company?

where are you ??what happened??

My luddite mother learned to text specifically so she could contact me when dd was born, leaving me to reply when convenient with no pressure. Just text your sister offering help if needed and let her reply. Tell your mother to butt out if she asks.

If I had a sister I'd be chuffed to bits to hear from her after I'd had a baby ... and, as Eyeballs says, you can always text!! (Assuming I got on with my sister, of course - which I assume you do, from the tone of your post).

Text/call her.

Sister texted me back, she is babymooning with baby and sent me loads of kisses.

Sound like she is doing OK, though still in a lot of pain

Won't be long until you get to see and if your anything like me get broody.

-ier.