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my sister is mad for feeding her dc baby food puree at ages 3.5 and 1.10??

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mama2b3 · 15/08/2009 09:28

my sister has 2 dd age 3.5 and 1.10 and she is still feeding them baby jars suitable from 4months. she sits them down and feeds it to them so they dont make any mess and this is the only food they have apart from yogurts crisps and chocolate! no fruit allowed as it wont help them t put on weight!!! does anyone else think this is crazy?? or is it just me?!

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CybilLiberty · 15/08/2009 09:30

It is crazy.

rubyslippers · 15/08/2009 09:31

of course it isn't right

why do they need to put on weight?

CristinaTheAstonishing · 15/08/2009 09:31

Your poor sis. She needs to learn about nutrition. Why is she obssessed with putting on weight? They'll eat as much as they need to.

purepurple · 15/08/2009 09:32

no, that's just weird
she is storing up all sorts of problems

JustcallmeDog · 15/08/2009 09:32

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elmofan · 15/08/2009 09:39

it is worrying , i also heard of a mother doing this until her dd was six years old , it cant be enough substance for toddlers , the woman i know of did it because she could not be bothered to cook for her dd & when she stopped giving her dd jars of baby food she went on to buying McDonald's every day instead .

motherbeyond · 15/08/2009 09:41

god,that's really odd!is she thick? never heard the likes of it.you should tell her to inform her health visitor/gp of her 'interesting' menu and see what they think!eating puree wont help them put on weight either,but why does she want this anyway? the no fruit thing would really worry me,and those jars are hardly brimming with vitamins and nutrients.she sounds like she can't be bothered cooking.how are they going to learn how to chew?!

teamcullen · 15/08/2009 09:42

Does your sister have OCD and doesnt want them to make a mess, or is she scared of them choking. There must be a reason for her having this behaviour.

It sounds very strange, does her GP and HV know. I think she needs some help in over comming her anxieties, what ever they are.

BertieBotts · 15/08/2009 09:43

Can you get her to speak to her health visitor for advice?

Or buy her an Annabel Karmel toddler book or something?

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mama2b3 · 15/08/2009 11:37

they were both born v low birth weight but r now fine and i think this has made her paranoid. its a shame 4 the dc really they just sit there like puppets whilst she spoon feeds them. she doesnt like the mess as it might spoil her perfect looking children. no painting, colouring allowed in her house. her hv has been involved since dc were born and as far as i no is aware but as my sis is such a coniving and convincing liar she has prob told her a different story. she fed dd1 so much of the same jar ppl were actually commenting that she looked orange! just worried 4 her dc really

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MaggieBeauLeo · 15/08/2009 11:56

they'll never learn to swallow properly.

My son really resisted food with lumps in it, so I was lazy and dodged the battle and kept giving him purees and mashed potato, mashed bonana etc...

I never realised that there could be any long term repurcussions to that, but there did come a time when I realised, this aint right. He was 18 months old and used to choke and gag on proper food. I was still cutting his slice of toast up into 30 pieces.

We're over it now, but I made a big mistake there, out of laziness I guess. He was my youngest, I was tired, everything had worked out alright before and I just kept feeding him smooth food cos that's what he wanted.

he's absolutely fine now, he had a bit of my tuna steak with cherry tomatoes last night, he also like olives..

shivster1980 · 15/08/2009 13:22

YANBU

That is very odd and surely not good for them.

screamingabdab · 15/08/2009 14:53

It does strike me as quite obsessional and controlling-type behaviour. I would guess she'd be storing up eating problems for later, since there's a lot of evidence that toddlers and babies need to be able to touch and explore different textures, and make a mess !

teamcullen · 15/08/2009 14:57

Do you think your sister wants to overcome this and give her children a more varied diet. If so Im sure people will post loads of ideas to help her through the transition from baby jars to real food.

But if she is not prepared to change their diet I think you will have an uphill struggle. Maybe you could invite her DCs around for a tea party or a picnic in the park. If she sees other children enjoying food it might shock her into wanting to change their diet.

screamingabdab · 15/08/2009 16:38

good point teamcullen. I was sounding a bit judgey, but maybe the OPs sister wants to change things

mrsboogie · 15/08/2009 17:55

exclusively spoon feeding a 3.5 yr old any kind of food is terrible - how is she supposed to learn to eat?

and who could be arsed??

Schulte · 15/08/2009 18:02

You should call social services.

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screamingabdab · 15/08/2009 18:13

I assume Schulte was being sarcastic ?

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Greensleeves · 15/08/2009 18:19

I don't know, I'm not sure it IS such a silly idea

the long-term implications for those children are not good

somebody needs to do something about it!

but HV would be a better place to start, I suppose (I don't have much time for them personally, but if she's already involved...)

screamingabdab · 15/08/2009 18:19

Don't be . I'm not sure, either !!!

Schulte were you joking ?

Schulte · 15/08/2009 18:20

Sorry, was just a flippant remark - I do think someone needs to talk to your sis and get her to realise that she's not doing her children any favours. I am shocked at what she's doing.