my sister is mad for feeding her dc baby food puree at ages 3.5 and 1.10??

[mama2b3]

my sister has 2 dd age 3.5 and 1.10 and she is still feeding them baby jars suitable from 4months. she sits them down and feeds it to them so they dont make any mess and this is the only food they have apart from yogurts crisps and chocolate! no fruit allowed as it wont help them t put on weight!!! does anyone else think this is crazy?? or is it just me?!

Your sister is a bit crazy. She doesn't seem to understand about suitable foods and nutrition for children. Feeding them baby jars and yoghurt won't help them put on weight unless thay have a lot of them a day. Chocolate and crisps might help with wieght but it isn't healthy to be given these all the time. Does the 3.5 year go to nursery and what happend if he is invited to a party?

Does she have a DH / DP? Could you speak to him?

It's not right, no.

I am pretty sure that a speech therapist would tell her to stop that straight away. The muscles that you use to chew and the ones that you use to talk are much of a muchness and I think that eating purees could hinder their speech development.

no she doesnt have a dp she is on her own. she has seen me n family cook meals 4 our dc and just says i dont no how u find the time! i have cooked her dd1 a meal just sausage mash and carrots and she did not no what to do with the food did not eat one bit. she would not let me give any 2 dd2 simply saying she was 2 young! dd1 is due to start nursery in sept but 2 b honest i dont think she will allow her 2 go, as she is still in nappies full time, wont eat and will only drink fruit shoots! also she is reluctant to leave her as she is the only 1 good enough to look after her dds. i dnt think talkin to hv would help as no matter what u say 2 her she just wont listen!!

TBH I think there's more going on here than what she's feeding her DC - her older child in nappies full time is all part of the same problem.

Poor woman and poor children

I think youe sister actally needs some proffesional help. It seems as if she wants to keep her children as babies and is afraid of them growing up.

mumeeee,ive a child in nappys full time , does that make him a poor child !!

oops sorry i ment dundermifflin

She needs professional help with her children. Can you get in touch with her GP if not her HV?

Have you raised it with her properly? Have you told her you're concerned and asked her why she's choosing to feed them this way?

ilovesprouts you have to examine why the child is still in nappies. I'm sure you are working on your child's potty training, have gone through wet pants and wet carpets. But is the OP sister avoiding dirt of any sort e.g clean meal times and overly clean house. OR is she lazy! (I can't talk I did nothing yesterday)
The basic problem is how do you help younger members of your family when you think your
sister, brother,cousin is not looking after them very well (I have tried not to use inflammatory language.)
I do think the OP needs advice.
mama2b3 I think you need to take small steps. Gather all the evidence and go around when the children are in bed (if you can have some look after yours) and over a meal or a drink bring up the subject. Before anyone gets angry drop the subject. Do this again and again until the penny drops. Have you got mutual friends who could do the same?

That child will not cope at nursery if she is still in nappies and has to be fed jars of baby food.

These 2 children are being damaged by their mother.
She needs professional help.

Sounds like she has some issues and needs help, what is she going to do when they go to school, go round every lunchtime and spoon feed then their lunch.

I have the opposite problem DD3 13 months refuses a spoon altogether, wants to eat everything herself.

Do you live locally? You could have them around to your house (without her)and feed them normally and your parents could do the same-or is she very possessive? If so I think she need professional help.

The pureed diet may at least partially explain the older child still being in nappies. She probably has really loose bowel movements, which I'd imagine would make potty training much more difficult (and messier).

I worked for a woman a bit like this, the boy was 3 years old and all he had to eat for lunch were those baby mums recipe spag bols and for his tea he'd have 3 fish fingers or 3 chipolatas and for dessert he'd have one of the 4mths+ baby jars.

everything except the fish fingers/sausages had to be spoon fed to him oh, and she still sat him on her lap in the morning to feed him his bottle of milk (then wondered why he wasn't interested in breakfast)
when I gave him a spoon, he physically didn't know what to do with it, it was quite sad - and he seemed really troubled about making a mess, like someone had drummed it into him, poor thing.

I'd managed to get him to self feed within about a month I reckon but as it was only a temp job, I don't know if it will be kept up

I think you need to step in as these children will end up with huge food issues, speech problems and very possibly digestion problems

madness

i honestly think that for some people, the idea of cooking is terrifying

if you have never seen your parents or family cook and have no idea how to make a balanced meal and have never done it, the thought of starting is scary

it sounds complicated, expensive and time consuming

perhaps you could give her some really simple recipes and /or cooking lessons?

maybe invite her round for dinner but ask her to help you cook?

the first time i cooked a roast dinner as a newly wed, it took me hours and i had to phone my mum for help! after a b it of practice i find it one of the easiest things to make!

she needs some help and encouragement, rather than condemnation

she sounds possible depressed and over anxious and if she is on her own, maybe the cooking is a step too far, and she simply could not cope

not right, but i believe this is more of a desperation and depression/anxiety issue than neglect/abuse esp. WRT to their weight issues as babies