...to have kicked H out over this?

[feralgirl]

1. Been acting weird, shaved his pubes, goes out at every available opportunity.

1. Last night I found pics on his phone sent to him by a girl he works with with her tits out and comments such as "I want you suckin' my tits". He says she sent them to him "by accident". I'd never heard of or met this girl before.

1. This Facebook conversation, found when I snooped this morning:

H:
28 June at 08:17
i miss u! miss texting you xxx

Her:
28 June at 17:38
Miss u
Had enough here-another barney!! Completely fucked off.
Sorry-love u x

H:
28 June at 19:39
want u h***!! bored of it all now!! miss u so much xxx

Her:
29 June at 18:23
Wot bored of me?!!
Never i know!! xxxx

H:
29 June at 18:24
where's my text....?

1. The fact that his Facebook status at 10.40 pm on 1st July was "ahhhhhhh what a day!!!!!! again please!!!" This was the day that I went back to work and that evening we'd been for our first session with Relate. He'd seemed really pissed off and miserable after the counselling. One minute before he updated his status, he'd sent her a Facebook message saying "lush!!!! More??? xxx"

He denies everything.

Crackfox, the beautiful thing about being a teacher is that I get free legal representation through my union. The little fucker hasn't got a chance. He's insolvent whereas I am a professional, my parents are both well off and retired and happy to help and his mum's a cleaner and debt collector.

Im sorry your OH is such a knob feralgirl.

I remember having a conversation with a friend of mine about men shaving their pubes. He said they do to apparantly make their cocks look bigger.

Beanieb, he snatched his mobile off me and deleted everything really quickly. I was a bit shocked so wasn't really with it. I know she works with him but she kept right out of the way when I went in this morning!

The shaved pubes is a good enough reason on its own.

Oh I'm sure if somebody you know happened to pop into the supermarket and mention to one of the check out girls that they'd heard about 'something going down' in there earlier, you'd probably find out all about it. [wicked grin]

Ho ho swedes. It did look weird. Like one of those horrible hairless mole rat things

Random, not a bad idea...

Remember to stay strong when the anger fades and the pain hits you like a truck. He has betrayed you in the worst way possible and with such a young child too...he is a stupid twat who is thinking with his dick, so sorry you are going through this keep on keepin' on x

Ah, I love MNers. You are all fab. Thank you so much.

Got to go and feed the monster but you have all given me strength.

what did his mother say when you sent her the evidence?

You need another friend to go in and mention they know the wife of the guy involved in todays 'incident' and she'd been told that he'd had to shave his pubes cause he'd got crabs.

It'd soon get round the staff and everyone would know them for the dirty f**kers they are

Hecate, she was a bit cagey and said that it sounded dodgy. He's always been mummy's little angel who can do no wrong - which is part of the problem I think - I'm not holding out for having her on my side, put it that way.

GS, like it. Got a heap of RL mates who are all offering support so I'm sure someone will oblige. We live in a very small town...

Back later. Must go and have dinner. Thanks all.

Nothing wrong with being a cleaner

Saving web pages doesn't always work with keeping the stuff readable so I would print it out.

YANBU.

And there's no reason why you should. This is between you and him. Don't get sucked into all that with her! If she tries to get in the middle, my advice would be to (politely) shove her back out again!! In fact, the only reason I asked if you'd shown her is it was clear he had involved them and was giving them inaccurate information, and I think it's only fair, once that happens, to put the other side!!

so you've kicked him out, where has he gone? Back to his parents?

all the best for the future x

YANBU he sounds like a twunt and you are most definitely best rid. I can't believe he doesn't even have the decency to fess up when he's been caught red handed, he must think your really stupid

fabbaker i don't think she said there is anything wrong with being a cleaner, just that his mum will not be able to financially support him.

Fabbakergirl , I'm not saying there's anything wrong with beng a cleaner. I was one before I was a teacher. As wolfnipplechips says, my point was about money and available time to support/ help out with childcare.

Feralgirl any developments?

Think if you are already going to relate there is little more you can do, kick him out and change the locks

What a two-timing, shitbag liar!!

You are well rid.