To think that when people have gone to the trouble of answering a post

[KIMItheThreadSlayer]

It should not be removed just because the OP has a strop that she made herself look silly and did not like the answers given??????

No she shouldn't be able to until I have read it

Doh thought i knew which one it was but looked and could still get inot it so now at a complete loss......................

It was mine.
I posted some personal things about my dd and some of the comments upset me.

I asked for it to be removed because my dd didn't ask for her life to be opened up to MN and I knew if she ever read some of the comments posted about her, she would be devestated. Some of it was unkind and unnecessary.

Really, I don't see anything wrong with removing it and neither did MNHQ.

And it must be added that there were many positive and constructive comments made in the post. They were helpful and I considered all of them. I even thanked everyone for posting and MNHQ left the thread up to give everyone adequate time to read it before it was removed.

Not sure what difference it makes if the thread was deleted as I did read all of the replies thoroughly.

Seems like only the people who were quite mean are upset the thread has been removed. What, do you get points for having the most nasty comments? What fun!

Pointless isn't it?

Jolie - I didnt post anything at all on that thread although I read it quite fully, with some sympathy for your daughter as I was very like her at that age. I dont quite get why you felt the need to get it deleted either - your daughter was not identifiable, and to be fair some of your reactions were hysterical which I suspect fanned the flames. In coming on here to mention it surely you have defeated the point of it as now it can all be discussed again. That was just silly really. Mumsnet hq wont be amused at having to delete this thread as well.

Ah - I see that the mystery has been cleared up. I came here thinking that it might be the thread from the mum who wanted to know if it was unreasonable to buy her dds grey cardigans when the school uniform was red ones, because they looked prettier in the grey and she had a beef with the school.

I posted several times on that one, and it has vanished from my 'Threads I'm On' list.

To be fair, it's not jolie's fault that Kimi started this thread - although one of the reasons MNHQ said they wouldn't delete my thread was exactly this; people then start discussing why the original thread was deleted and it all runs for days and days.

yeah but noone knew who it was really - we can all suspect as much as we like but noone knows - instead now we all know.

SOrry, what thread?

Was it the one about wanting to kill all of DDs boyfriends or something?

i do like threads were the OP gets a supreme case of moral indignation and throws a bit of a strop when they post and expect everyone to agree with them and absolutely no one does.
it then descends into an attempt to add any other information (relevant or not) to justify their gripe and screams of "BUT...BUT...BUT" possibly followed by a "well you couldn't possibly understand whats going on in my life and are obviously just looking for a fight."

Kimi you're such a trouble maker!

Jolie I never read your thread (although would obviously now love to) but I agree there are many people on MN who seem to make sport in upsetting others. Everyone can make a comment without it getting personal and nasty but quite a few seem to take pleasure in the bullying gang appraoch IMHO.

Oh

I thought it was the one about someone wanting to move her stepkids out of school just before they finish - how embarrasing.

I don't think anyone is quite mean (I am taking it you mean me) I was just wondering why whole threads can now be deleted when they could not before.

I did not mention who posted the thread, you have made a point of saying it was your thread, if you don't want things known about your family do not post them, in truth you over reacted wanting to "kill anyone who broke your DDs heart" and it is bloody wet to get upset and cry that someone you do not know for more then a day stops texting.

I didn't think that that particular thread WAS that mean - and am now a bit concerned that I was one of the ones who was considered to be 'bullying'? I just wanted to know a few more details and whether she was coming on too strong but instead Jolie just got all defensive.

Think it was just a daft thread anyway and not really worth too much worrying about - I don't really know how any of the posts could be "helpful and I considered all of them" - ffs you are talking about your daughter's life, it's not something you can control anyway.

I agree that I don't think entire posts should be allowed to be deleted. So there.

Kimi and Devon I didn't mean you ( if any of your last posts were for me) I was making a general comment about some posters I have seen recently. I never saw this thread so can't comment therefore I will back off gracefully before I get poked in the eye.

'My DD didn't ask for her life to be opened up to MN' - what the freak did you post for then?!

I read that thread (didn't post as anything I might have said had already been said), and I had to read back when the OP started to claim people had been 'mean.'

I thought it was just the usual range of responses, a lot of which gave to be taken with a pinch of salt, but none of which were unkind or insulting, and I'm amazed MNHQ deleted it purely on the basis of one poster's over-reaction.

Clearly some measure of equanimity needs to be practised here, both by the OP and her DD.

(Goes off to check the meaning of equanimity.)

Right: 'mental or emotional stability or composure, esp. under tension or strain; calmness; equilibrium.

IOW - chill out!

Not you moon

No I didn't mean you Moon, I meant OP. She got very defensive about the whole post but none of us could really fathom why. I think she just felt guilty about talking about her daughter on a public forum.

i didnt know they could be deleted

I think she definitely got cold feet about talking about her daughter. I suppose it's understandable in a way, she just probably ought not to have started the thread at all if she felt that way. Still think it's wrong to just delete threads though MN! What happened to freedom of speech?

I second the motion not to delete threads. I really dislike it - I too have posted horrifically embarrassing threads when hormonal/mental and really regretted it but have never had them taken down. The only exception to the rule should be when a vulnerable individual i.e a child has been opened up to be at public risk - in other words someone could identify a real life kid and their location from mn threads, which happened a couple of weeks ago.

I fully support jolie. She posted an admittedly daft titled thread presumably wanting support for her own hurt at seeing her DDs hurt.

I think she prob. thought that people would say, what a shame etc which some did but others used words like desperate and bunny boiler to decribe the OPs DD.

I can see exactly why she found this hurtful, and no doubt she realised then that AIBU was not the place to be having such a discussion but it was too late and her DD was taking pelters.

I did wonder how so many of the overprotective mums we see so often on here with small DCs will cope when it isn't arguing over whose turn it is to use the toys at playgroup, but feeling hurt and rejected etc by the opposite sex.

I didn't find any of the OPs reactions hysterical, I just think she was posting in the wrong place and dare I say some seemed to enjoy their moral right in AIBU to be quite needlessly harsh.

How would others react to hear their child described as desperate or a bunny boiler?

I'd have the thread deleted too if it was me.

It was an over reaction from start to finish.