to think that they should feed my dc

[Lovemyshoes]

I know that I am lucky that someone can have my dc (10 & 7) whilst I am at work but,

Am I being unreasonable to think that two children need more than 2 slices of toast and a yogurt between 8am and 4pm (they CHOSE to have them for longer, they didn't have to)

They came home and they were both ravenous and bad tempered/gumpy etc.

Hi love my shoes
I think I would have sent them with a packed lunch and snacks...

I have to say that's pretty shocking. Don't know any back story, but who are 'They'? Can you send a packed lunch if nothing else is forthcoming.

who has your dc during the day?

Yes, definitely give them a big packed lunchbox they can eat lunch and snack from during the day

Cant you send them with a packed lunch-I would.

Who is they btw-that makes the difference, are you paying, have you got a contract? was the issue of lunch discussed? did the kids ask for for and get denined it or were they to busy to realise they were hungry?

If you are leaving your kids with someone you should have a good enough relationship with them to be able to talk about this stuff with them.

who is they?

friends/GPs ...

why didn't they have lunch? Were they offered it?

Did they eat and just not tell you

It's their aunty and grandad, who know how much of an appetite the eldest has.

I didn't think today (about packed lunch) and I'd had a horrid day yesterday so forgot to do it last night, this morning they were even earlier collecting them, 7.15am this morning, they didn't even have time for a drink before they were sheperded out of the house.

They weren't offered anything and that is all they had, dd2 left most of the toast.

I just hope they have sufficient food today or I will have to say something.

So you are saying then that the childrens aunt and grandparents know how hungry they get and dont offer them food? Why leave your kids there then-there are other options.

And if you really have no choice then it is your job as mum to supply your kids with food, especially when you know that the carers arent so hot on it.

Heck I even take a packed lunch for me and my kids when we visit my folks/friends-its just easier.

I'm sorry but that is madness - on your part. Yes it is good that your relations are happy to have your kids but for god's sake grow a backbone and tell that that they have to have their breakfast before they leave home in the morning.

Also - surely by aged 10 the eldest is able to speak up and ask for something to eat?

I'm not defending your aunty and grandad, but I think you are being very passive about the whole situation.

You don't know the aunty

No, but you do.

call the auntie and grandad, say they didn't get round to having breakfast before they left, so could they please organise something for lunch/snacks today and you'll have a packed lunch ready for them to take along tomorrow.

Also can you pop out at lunchtime/after work and just get a bag of stuff to hand to the auntie tomorrow - milk, fruit, some healthy snacks, some bread or whatever and say that's for mid-morning, afternoon snacks for the kids, something like that?

you should have given them some money to buy them lunch out then if you didn't have time to make a packed lunch

Call them now and ask them what they are going to offer them for lunch ... job done

I think it is annoying for you Lovemyshoes my PIL often take my dc out for the day and ds will only eat a yogurt or a banana (partly because they refuse to believe he doesn't like sandwiches)I have learned to prepare them with hearty breakfasts!
Have they only just started looking after them though or does this happen regularly?

Have I got this right? Your children are being looked after by someone that makes a 10 year old too afraid to ask for food .

Is there really no childcare alternative ?

This is the first time they have had to have them whilst I am work and they are not the most approachable.

If I say ANYTHING they will more than likely refuse to look after them again.

If they are not feeding the children, what else are they doing with them? If you are scared of these people, isn't it likely that your children, being smaller and more vulnerable, are terrified of them?
If you are so scared of these people that you cannot even tell them that your children need food, then you really can't leave the children with them again.

you're really too scared to call them and say "It's just occurred to me the kids are probably starving. I'm really sorry but I didn't manage to get breakfast for them this morning. I know it's my fault but they'll be extra hungry today, do you think they could have an extra big lunch?" after all you're saying it is your fault, how can they take offence at that? Assure them you'll be better prepared for tomorrow.

Then really, be prepared for tomorrow, make sure you buy your stuff etc today and make your packed lunch the night before, add some snack food and leave your ds aged 10 in charge of getting him and his sibling a snack out mid-morning and afternoon as well as lunch. Get the breakfast things out the night before. If you're not going to have time for breakfast, make a sandwich they can eat in the car.

maybe she really is desperate for child care options and this is the only option she sees at the moment.

Agree with ZZZenAgain, and if they are really that bad that they take offence to that, I would look for something else sharpish.

good lord.

you need to take control even if all you can do is make them a packed lunch.

i assume this aunt is not eating a sumptuous lunch while the children watch on?