TELLING MY SISTER SHES A F*****G CUN* AND TO STAY AWAY FROM MY KIDS

[FortyDegrees]

YESTERDAY I LET MY SON STAY AT MY SISTERS HOUSE WITH HIS COUZINS SO THEY COULD HAVE A BBQ AND HAVE A SLEEP OVER. LITTLE DID I KNOW THAT THE NEIGHBOURHOOD BULLY WAS GOING WHO HAS TAKEN AN EXTREME DISLIKE TO DS AND PICKS ON HIM AT EVERY OPPERTUNITY. MY SISTER KNOWS THAT WE HAVE HAD PROBLEMS WITH THIS BOY AS WE ALL LIVE WTHIN A 10MIN WALK OF EACH OTHER. I REALLY DONT KNOW WHY SHE INVITED HIM AS WELL AS DS??

NOW I WOULDNT OF BEEN ANGRY IF SHE HADNT OF KNOWN BUT SHE DEFINATLY DOES KNOW. AND I WOULDNT OF BEEN ANGRY IF MY SON HADNT COME HOME TODAY WITH A MASSIVE SCRATCH DOWN HIS BACK AND LOTS OF HIS LEGS HE ALSO HAS SOME ON THE BACK OF HIS NECK AND A LUMP ON HIS HEAD.

THAT IS NOT THE WORST BIT

DS HAD GONE TO MY SISTER IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND TOLD HER HE WANTED TO GO HOME BECAUSE HE WAS GETTING HIT AND HE TOLD HIM TO STOP BEING A BABY N GET BACK IN THE TENT OR HE WASNT SLEEPING OVER AGAIN I AM UTTERLY FURIOUS SHE COULD OF EASILY RUNG ME SHE KNOWS I WOULDNT MIND GETTING MY DS I CANT BELEIVE IT

I TRIED SPEAKING TO HER TODAY AND SHE WAS HAVING NONE OF T. SO I COMPLETELY LOST MY TEMPER SWORE OBSENTIES AT HER AND STORMED OFF. WABU???

Oh no writing letters are a very bad idea in families, my mother still gets out the one I wrote 9 years ago with PND and quotes it back to me.
Best to have a row, get it over with and then forget it and move on.

RealityIsGettingMarried I am not a "Chav" my caps lock key was stuck and I couldnt be bothered holding down the shift key to change my letters from upper case to lower.

SerendipitousHarlot Calling my own sister a ct is not discusting especially when my own sister does not regard her own nephews safety as important. Insisting her own nephew should go back into the tent to get hit is discusting IMO

MadameCastafiore My child was not present when I spoke to my sister.

Anyway back to OP

Thanks for the replies and some of the advice lol. I wouldnt write my sister a letter as it wouldnt make a difference, she is the type of person who once they think they are right then it is the end of the conversation.

I have told my son that until it is sorted out he shouldnt really sleep at his Aunt's again. He knows its not a punishment as he did nothing wrong.

Beleive you me I have tried on many occasions to speak to the parents of the boy but they are under the illusion that their son is an angelic boy and can do no wrong.

Ive had a week to think about things & i agree with some of you where I shouldnt of really gone round and swore...I havnt explained propely in my OP but I didnt go round and start having a fit at her, I tried to ask what had got on and got a reply of "DS is a crybaby & needs to learn that these things happen at somepoint in life" I had replied with " That may be but not in these circumstances when it could of been stopped by you" to which I then just got a shrug of the shoulders and "oh well no harm done"

That is when i lost my temper and swore at her. Not my best moment but with a conversation like that i just lost my temper. Even so I am not going to apologise until she apologies to DS.

Anyway it was my neices birthday party 2 days ago and the whole family was invited. (Not this sisters DD, my younger sister)

I knew I would see my sister at this party and I wasnt going to bring it up. My sister on the other hand decided to announce to the whole family that I am an overprotective mother and DS is a crybaby

I didnt resort to replying and made out that I was busy texting on the phone. But she couldnt help herself but carry on bringing it up trying to cause an argument.

In the end I decided to leave the party early and I have now decided ( extreme as it might be) that I no longer want any contact with my sister. Unreasonable maybe but I have had enough of her poisen over the years and am not letting her bully DS too.

FD I think it might be best for you and your lovely DS to stay away from this woman.

My sister would never in a million years let someone hurt one of my children then call them cry babies.

DH has a sister (well he no longer talks to her says she is dead to him as far as he is concerned) who is like this, DH took DS2 to his mothers 70th birthday (DS1 would not go) but any way, his "dead" sister was there with her kids and her 13 year old hit my 8 year old, now my 8 year old will hit back and did despite being half the size of the 14 year old, 14 year old goes crying to mummy who then tells anyone who will listen DS2 is a bully....In her shoes I would have hung my head in shame, first because a 14 year old should not hit a 8 year old and second a 14 year old put on his backside by said 8 year old and crying to mummy is a bag fat wuss

Well you used a very nasty word and your grammar needs work but actually I don't think YABU.

Your sister sounds like a nasty bitch. Even if your DS is over-sensitive, shoving him back in with a bully is cruel. Revelling in her nephew's anguish at a family party is shocking. Actually, she sounds like a nasty bully herself. I'd cut ties too!

OP - I hope your DS is OK now. Ignore the twats on this thread who won't address your point but pick up on your language/grammar.

How can you call someone who is clearly distressed and frustrated a chav??!!

There's some real dickheads on MN at the moment.

Hope you calm down soon. X

TBH I think the fact that EVERYTHING WAS LIKE THIS AND the language was pretty grim AND it was in AIBU just made it read really badly.

But now op has calmed down ( and explained that keyboard was stuck) I think she was right to be cross with her sister and right too to keep her DS away for a while. My sister had my DS1 for a sleepover and wouldn't make her son stop playing violent playstation games while DS was trying to get to sleep.He was really frightened. He never went to her home again

I am a dickhead though so what do I know

Forty, you were upset and rightly angry at the way your DS was treated at a family members house. You know yourself that you may have dealt with it in the wrong way but I defy anyone to say they haven't reacted inappropriately when they are both angry and upset at some point in their life.

I sense there are underlying issues with your sister and if your gut is telling you to keep your distance at this time then you have no need to justify your decision to do so.

As for the posts of some people on this thread, mentioning grammar and the awful use of the word chav, ignore them. Sadly some people feel the need to ingratiate themselves so desperately that they are under the misguided notion that if they call themselves a pedant and correct people on their grammar, they are fucking fabulous.

What they are in fact, are fucking twats.

Woah, what's with all the capital letters?

You would not be unreasonable to be upset for your ds. You should have behaved like an adult and spoken to your sister calmly about how you'd have preferred if she hadn't invited the other child and had phoned when DS asked. If she wasn't having any of it either leave it and don't let DS sleep over again or tell her you'll talk about it another time when she is calmer and more reasonable.

Calling someone a F*&%$@g c&*t is quite unreasonable, especially when it is your sister. Your DS needs to see his aunt and his cousins so you need to do all you can to maintain a good relationship with your sister. I hope your DS was not watching you call your sister this - that'd be far more damaging that what you are originally complaining about.

to turn a child back into the lions den like that was calculated and cruel.
i would cut ties as well sister or no sister its sounds like there is probably a history here before all this and its now transferring to a real dislike of your child as well as you (i mean she can't like you by the sounds of it!)
i think instead of the big reaction of swearing etc which is precisely what she wants from you, to ignore her at the party and leave early was a masterstroke and would have left her feeling even more furious because she couldn't make you bite.

why are you shouting at us ?

chavtastic, tbh!

FD you could always post this again without the caps

Actually, roneef, I'm not a dickhead

Do you think it's acceptable to call your sister a cunt then? I use the word freely, so clearly have no problem with 'language' - but to actually call someone it, and mean it, is revolting. Particularly when it's a sibling. I.M.O.