to be terrified of my neighbours

[IHeartKittensAndWine]

This afternoon our cat was playing with her kittens next to our sitting room wall which we share with our neighbours. they were mewing and bleating, in the way that kittens do and our wall is a little thin, but I was a bit surprised to hear a voice shout out, "fucking shut it or I'll slit your fucking throat". I was a bit freaked out but think I might be suffering from early pregnancy paranoia and DH (who wasn't in the room) pointed out that they're always screaming and shouting at each other and probably wasn't even directed at us. DH then went out to a party, I ducked out (feeling terrible, tired and throwing up all the time), and was doing some work with music on. The neighbours had music on as well, and seemed to be having an argument as well.

About five minutes ago, heard the doorbell go, couldn't not answer it as you could see through the kitchen window that I was in, and it was the neighbour, apologising for their noise (something she has never done before), I said don't worry, barely heard a sound, and then she said how the kittens and our music had been disturbing her all evening and if it happened again, she'd "come over and smash my fucking face in".

If I weren't pg, this would be a joke, I am two feet taller and used to play womens rugby until we started ttc, but it really freaked me out. In the little we've had to do with them, they have always seemed strange (once I told her how kind her son was, for helping me down the stairs to the front door with heavy shopping and she told me "not to treat him like a fucking slave") but never directly threatening. I don't know if I'm making too much of it - got the distinct impression she'd had a few - but can't stop shaking.Thought about calling police but they won't pay attention, esp not on a Saturday, and we're buying our own place so hopefully moving out soon. Don't want to call dh and ask him to come home, he's been looking forward to tonight for weeks and felt really guilty for staying behind, but now I can't rest. I've put the kittens in the bedroom so the neighbours can't hear them, and keeping the telly on low. Probably just being emotional and feel really stupid for it (delicate pregnant woman) but don't know what to do.

[cornsillk]

That's awful. I would call the police.

[hercules1]

I would move as soon as you can.

[feedthegoat]

Thats awful. You shouldn't feel stupid because it upsets you either! I hope you don't have to put up with them for long.

[BitOfFun]

Oh lordy, how unpleasant. Yes, try and forget it, and get on with your plans to move. I hope you have a more peaceful evening.

[hester]

Oh poor you. How soon do you think you can move?

[Yurtgirl]

Your neighbour sounds unhinged tbh

Poor you that is a horrible thing to exp, especially while pregnant

I hope you are able to move [hopeful]

I wouldnt call the police now, call the local number tomorrow and report it as threatening behaviour

HTH

[stickylittlefingers]

how horrible, don't blame you at all for feeling shaken. Hope you can move asap! At least the son sounds nice (he presumably can't move away asap).

[skybright]

That would freak me out as well,hope you can move soon.x

[KiwiKat]

Foul, agressive people. Good thing you're moving.

[AcademicMum]

Don't blame you for being shaken, she sounds like a complete loon. The police may not do much if she hasn't actually physically assulted you and if they did e.g. go and have a quiet word with her, can you be sure she wouldn't come over and take it out on you later?

Personally I'd just try to ignore her (including not answering the door if you are on your own whether she can see you are in or not) and move as soon as possible. It really doesn't sound like the kind of worry you want during pregnancy tbh.

[LittleMissMummy]

I would call my dp - I know thats probably selfish but Im a big fear-tay!

Wouldnt call the police while your on your own - she may come over after the police have spoken to her.

I know your dp has been looking forward to his night out but if you tell him what happened when he comes home or tomorrow if your already in bed when he comes home, ill bet he'll probably tell you that you should've called him and told him, especially with you being pg.

Hope your feeling a bit better

[2kidzandi]

They sound like the neighbours from hell. Most councils have anti social behaviour policies, but i'd say they don't sound like the neighbour mediation type so your best bet is too move as quickly as possible.

[2shoes]

do report it to the police, sadly you have to ring and report it every time.

[Ripeberry]

I really do hope you move before you have your baby, they will be much worse when he/she cries and that will make you very depressed.
Actually, when you move, leave a cheap radio on, blaring out a local heavy metal station.
That should sort them out.
They have NO RIGHT to scare you like that.
Keep your chain on your door and at night i would screw down the letterbox.

[IHeartKittensAndWine]

Just worried that I might wind her up more if I don't answer the door and she can see I'm in (we can't put a blind up as landlord won't let us drill for one). We're supposed to be exchanging next week, and we'd asked for six weeks till completion to give us time to hand in our notice and ensure that the kittens had all found homes but I don't know if I can bear another seven weeks of this (and that's assuming all goes next week).

I've just texted DH and asked him to come home early. Feel so guilty because he doesn't go out much but I won't be able to get to sleep by myself. Wish I could have a glass of wine.

[Heated]

Evil idea about the radio Ripeberry

[Ripeberry]

You don't need to drill for a blind, just cover the door with paper. Hope you have a better day tomorrow

[LittleMissMummy]

I think txting your DP was the right thing to do, you'll feel so much safer with him home. If things get worse you should consider trying to move early if you can.

Try not to worry, if the kittens are in another room and your tv isnt loud then she shouldnt come over.

Hope your alright

[AcademicMum]

Do you have any family or friends nearby that you could stay with?

[Ripeberry]

I've had nasty neighbours in the past (not right next door) but across the road. We had to sell the house in secret in the end as they would have ramped up the hastling if they had know, just so we would not be able to sell.
It took me at least 3 years to stop fantasizing about returning to the street and pelting eggs at their house.
That is how badly they affected me. Don't let them drag you down.
Best wishes and hopes for some lovely neighbours in your new home!

[LyraSilvertongue]

What a nutter! Fingers crossed all goes smoothly with your house purchase.
I feel sorry for her son, if he's getting the message that doing a good deed for a neighbour is the same as being 'treated as a slave'.

[AcademicMum]

Also, just a thought, they sell black out blinds for children that attach to the windows with sucker pads. Something like this easyblindsonline.co.uk/13.html. Would that be an option?

[IHeartKittensAndWine]

Mum and Dad are only 15 mins away - thought about calling them tonight but they go to bed early and don't yet know I'm pg (only 10 weeks gone). I'm so upset, because our flat is lovely, and I really wanted to enjoy our last few weeks here. God everything I'm saying is sounding really pathetic. Wish DH was back already. Hope he isn't too pissed.

[IHeartKittensAndWine]

Thanks for the suggestion AM - going to buy one now.

[Wanderingsheep]

That's horrible!

What a nutter. She sounds utterly weird! I feel so sorry for you. Hope you get to move very soon.