Really daft question

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

I rarely get breakfast.

I have bought some cereal and I don't want DS1 to have it. Normally they do end up having what I have bought for DH and/or me but they have a cupboard full of their choices and I never refuse them food. They are well fed. I just want this cereal for me.

DS1 said if he can't have it will starve himself until he is sick.

Am I being U to say no for once?

Say to yourself 'I am in charge' 5 times.
It worked for me at times when I felt I was being steamrollered.
Sorry about the anniversary. Does anyone else know about it?

I would laugh at my DS if he tried that shit. Actually just crack up. He is only 5 though so I am sure I will get it at some point.

Some stuff is mine, some stuff is his and some stuff is DH's and most stuff is all of ours.

I would tell him to suck it up and enjoy the hunger strike and then mock him further, but I am not the nicest of mummies .

"DS1 never wants to go out unless it is on his terms"

I have this model too!!!

So yesterday he said to me

"I want you to take me bowling and if you take me I will bring my washing for you to do"

I had a discussion with dp, and I decided No more am I going to be blackmailed by ds1. SO we went to the bowling alley, had a burger, spent £10 in the arcade got back in the car and came home....I know this may seem harsh BUT I have to take a stand and stop being his mate and start being his mum.....not surprising he did have a grump on but oh well thats life and he did eventually bring me his washing, which because of the way he spoke to me i made him do.

So stand your ground!

I am a bit puzzled by that TES as he seems to have got what he wanted?

We've just sat and made a list of the activities DD and DS2 want to do these holidays.

It means everyone gets a turn in suggesting what we do, obviously allowing for weather and financial circumstances, and it makes me feel less like, 'wtf will we do today?'

The challenge is keeping them away from the telly and xbox.

Fab nooooo thats the point he wanted to go bowling, we didn't bowl he told me to do his washing so i made him do it.

Lady Evenstar - so you took him bowling, burger etc just so he would bring you his laundry?!

Is that right or am i confusing myself?

It HAS to be the other way round, they get the treats IF they do all the little things you EXPECT them to do, without whinging. Too much lip/stroppiness and they forfeit treats too.

don't let kids lay down the law, we are in charge

oh so you went to the alley but not to bowl just the burger

and then because he had been rude you actually made HIM put the laundry on, not just bring it to you?

that makes more sense!

stick to your guns - where they get the idea they can talk to us like dirt I don't know. i have 2 cute DDs who are popular with all their teachers, bright, polite and kind etc - but can be rude little darlings at home!!

Peed yes second one is right!

If it is crunchy bran I would let your ds try some. Iirc it tastes like cardboard so he will have one mouthful and not bother you again.

In our house we share everything with ds except alcohol and G&B chocolate .

I get you now!

He liked the bran!!

We share everything too but when I am not getting breakfast because they are eating it all, even though they have plenty, a line has to be drawn.

I let my lo's have a sprinkle of my cereal on top of theirs. That way, they get some of it but there is plenty left for me.

FAB, you should read this and then think about your issues. It might make you feel better.

What is your point, blowbroth?

Whatever problems we may have, and I have my fair share, there will always be someone having a harder time than us.

I know that, but it doesn't help me with my actual problem and I have much more important things to deal with right now but I wanted advice on this thing since it was specific today.

Knowing someone else is having a hard time doesn't make me have a better time.

Fab...grow a back-bone and say NO...if he eats it without your consent then punish him..if he wants to stave let him..he will break..he's lucky I'm not his mum..I would make pancakes and see how long he would hold up then!..lol

Ok, I'll see what you need help with tomorrow , but don't worry ,I won't post any opinions.

There is really no need for that, blowbroth.

what is your problem blowbroth?

FBG - ignore.

idttaw.

DVD duvet day? Popcorn, Grapes, and blankets! Every now and then esp in the rain its nice to all snuggle and watch a film. You may not get to see it properly due to fetching drinks, wiping bums etc but you can relax a bit and it gives them special memories too esp when its not a regular occurance.

OOps didn't realise there was a second page so my post now looks out of context sorry.

We all have "little" issues like this Fab that just make the day harder than it needs to be, but i am a firm believer in when i say no i mean no. And the earlier they learn that the better, (in reference to your question of what will he be like at 15).

I started teaching/disciplining my third child much younger than the other two and already it is paying off. She is 18 months btw.

PatienceRequired - please tell me how you discipline your 18mo old? I have a 11mo DD and I'm not sure where to start.

FBG - don't worry, you're doing a good job. Just stick to your guns.

Blowbroth - I've seen a couple of your posts recently - hope you're not this rude in RL!

I know I should pick my battles but I need to eat and I don't have unlimited funds and it isn't often I buy anything that is just for me. DH and DCs always come first when I am food shopping.