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...to be irritated by people who pack their DCs off to clubs as soon as the hols start?

252 replies

juicy12 · 23/07/2009 18:23

I'm not talking about people who work full/part-time here. But really about people who are SAHM/SAHDs. Some people seem to be terrified at the prospect of spending any time with their DCs just in the home, just hanging out or doing home activities. I've got a DS - 5 and a DD - 2.5, and I'm looking forward to some weeks of chilling out, painting, craft stuff, swimming, playing etc. I've lost count of the number of other SAHMs who take the "can't possibly have them at home for 6 weeks" line and schedule the entire break to within a nano-second. Or am I being mean not booking DS1 in for loads of different activities?

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piscesmoon · 23/07/2009 19:36

I you are lucky enough to have 2 DCs close in age it is easy to accomodate them both. I had a 10yr old, 2yr old and baby. At that time what we did was very constrained by the younger ones and so I was thrilled that the older one could go on cub camp, do a football week etc and things at his level. The 2 younger ones are both boys but with very different personalities and interests and so it was good to have one doing a club and the other at home so that I could do something to suit him and vice versa. Also the holiday is long, even if they do a club this week and you go on holiday for a week there is lots of time to chill out. I don't think anyone should sit and judge-you don't see the whole picture.

piscesmoon · 23/07/2009 19:38

It also depends entirely upon the personality of the DC-some love clubs and some don't. You have to be guided by your DC-not by what other people think you should do-it is their holiday.

bubblegumsupermum · 23/07/2009 19:40

Hiya,

Can you please tell me why you refer to the kids as DD and DS,.....I'm new you see and I thought you were all talking about a games console

Northernlurker · 23/07/2009 19:42

Op - all parents want to spend time with their kids - yes even working ones. We just don't all have to spend every waking moment with them!

piscesmoon · 23/07/2009 19:44

You need to read the acronyms bubblegum.

Wonderstuff · 23/07/2009 19:44

DD - dear daughter
ds - son
dh - husband
dsd - step daughter etc..

TheFallenMadonna · 23/07/2009 19:45

Now you see I am the very worst parent of all, in that during term time I work FT as a teacher, and, despite now being on holiday, I have indeed packed my children off to a club this week (admittedly the only week it was available, but still...). It has caused a few raised eyebrows I can tell you.

asicsgirl · 23/07/2009 19:45

I love these threads. Jaffa cake, anyone?

bubblegumsupermum · 23/07/2009 19:47

Thanks, so glad I've found this site,.....looks good!!

katiestar · 23/07/2009 19:48

The ignorance and arrogance of your post as a mother of a 5 yr old and a 2 yr old , is staggering.Come back in 10 yrs time !

asicsgirl · 23/07/2009 19:48

I've got party rings too

brimfull · 23/07/2009 19:49

anyone's dc doing a chewits premier sports course??

am thinking of putting ds into cricket and rounders one

KEAWYED · 23/07/2009 19:50

Wotsits

KEAWYED · 23/07/2009 19:50

Now kids are in bed and last breastfeed is done G&T

sarah293 · 23/07/2009 19:51

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BlueBumedFly · 23/07/2009 19:57

I'd like to take up asicgirl's kind offer of a partyring and a jaffa cake. I've got wine... anyone?

I hate supercilious threads about how we should and should not interact with our children as oddly all of them are different and as parents we have different needs too.

My two SDDs used to go to drama weeks at every holiday opportunity and loved it so much. When they went back to school they could tell all their friends they had been a pop star for the week or been in HSM. They met new friends, learned new things and we all went to the show at the end of the week. They loved it! We do spend time with them, its not a 6 week course in a boarding school you know.......

bubblegumsupermum · 23/07/2009 20:02

I like wine too, funny that, when you have kids your taste for alcohol increases

BlueBumedFly · 23/07/2009 20:03

Sure does, here, its red, hope you like it

bubblegumsupermum · 23/07/2009 20:04

Cheers!!

Ripeberry · 23/07/2009 20:09

My parents used to pack me and my brother off to a 'daytime club' from 9am until 4pm everyday for 5 whole weeks!
My mum was a SAHM (1970's) and she used to spend the time at home sleeping, smoking and drinking.
My dad had to make his own dinners. I was GLAD to go in the clubs!

BlueBumedFly · 23/07/2009 20:11

Ripeberry that's dreadful, sorry you had that, just out of interest what are your views on sending you own DCs? Do you think that you benefited (other than the fact you wanted to be there due to home life of course!).

bubblegumsupermum · 23/07/2009 20:21

I have a DD of eleven who is wheelchair bound due to an op recently and also a DS of four who is just simply MAD, we can't get out this year as my DD's legs are just too sore when she is moved about!!

There are no clubs for DS as he is too young and even if there was I can't take him as I can't leave DD home alone!!

Found this web site,........I am calm again LOL

HecatesTwopenceworth · 23/07/2009 20:25

I don't understand how the choices of other parents affect you one way or the other. Not being mean, but surely you do what's right for you and others do the same. Their choices don't affect you (they're not asking you to pay, right?) and your choices don't affect them. So there's nothing to be irritated about, surely?

Portofino · 23/07/2009 20:27

Riven, honestly! How do they truly expect you to cope on your own? Are your ds's of any practical use?

BlueBumedFly · 23/07/2009 20:27

Well welcome bubblegums, sorry to hear your current situation, my 13 y/o SDD had spine surgery this year so was immobile for ages so I totally understand where you are coming from.

I hope that your DD feels much better soon, is she to make a full recovery back to walking etc?

For DS I just don't know, I have 3 girls but I can appreciate boys do need to run and run and run at that age.

Here, have another glass of wine. xxx