to be buying a house i don't love.

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To cut a very long story short we have lost out on a period house that i LOVED today despite going over the price it was first sold for by 30k, for the 3rd time in 7 months tis a nightmare.

The thing is we have sold ours and have to go through with the sale by the end of August, our house is too small for us and we don't want to live here anymore, a while ago saw another house its very nice completely suburban though 4 bed post war semi dh loves it and its so practical, i can see that and we could make it lovely BUT no matter how lovely we could make it its just not me.

I've always seen myself as a bit of a bohemian/good lifer type throwing fab parties in my big house (i waqs planning a great gatsby house warming thats how much i believed it was ours)financially this house tick none of those boxes but does tick the walk to school, big garden, plenty of space and will make the dh and children happy. We've put an offer on it but i'm not sure i'm doing the right thing. I feel like i'm giving up my dreams and just settling. AIBU, WWYD.

Its taken us 8 months to sell so staying here isn't an option and we're stretched to the max any other houses i've seen that i like will send my DH over the edge.

£10k over asking price? Ouch. What do you think you'll do?

Just to go back to your original question, no I would never again buy a house I didn't love. Did that a few years back and lasted 18 months before it was back on the market. Hated every minute in that house. Bought for all the "right" reasons, location, schools, etc., but didn't love it. Would never do that again.

What will be will be...

Fwiw, I love (still) our first house. It is on the market as we have moved away. It is too small for us now and in the wrong place, but I loved living there for 10 years.

We are now renting a horrible but practical house ... when we buy again, I want to like the house. As otehrs have said renting a house that you don't really like is fine - but don't buy it and resent it.

I'm going to play devil's advocate here.

5 years ago I (with dh) bought a house that we loved. And now I really wish we hadn't. It is a Georgian terraced town house - beautiful, gorgeous proportions, character all over, stunning window frames, fireplaces cornicing etc. It took a long time to do up, and is lovely to look at.

BUT, the garden is too small, all the rooms are too small, and we struggle with persistent damp in the playroom.

I really wish that we had been slightly more rational when buying the house, and had gone for something not as elegant but which would have suited us and our family life better.

Next time we move (which, unless we move cities won't happen because it's so expensive to move what with stamp duty etc) I am going to be really hard-headed and rational about it.

Owls i don't know what we can do, we've left it with an asking price offer and that is the best we can do.

I've just driven all over the city looking at houses with poor ds in the car, i feel like goldilocks, none of them are right. I've seen a beautiful one which i love but is not practical at all. Will have to keep checking rightmove every 5 seconds.

Thanks for all the advice, its good to hear others perspectives especially those in period houses that aren't practical , makes me feel better.

have you looked on latesthomes.co.uk aswell as rightmove?they are mostly the same but latest is a lot cheaper for agents to use and many in my area are using it because of costs atm.i found a ferw houses on there that weren't on RM HTH

mum23monkeys I'm with you on this one. 5 years ago I bought the house of my dreams, a cottage in the country with a paddock.

The first winter I didn't see the grass for the snow for 5 months.

The second winter I got a 3 grand heating bill.

By the third I was depressed.

I sold last year and couldn't wait to get away.

Your dream house might not end up being your dream house. It's only a bloody house - it's the people and love who fill it that make it special.

Yes, I copied that from the dust jacket of a Mills & Boon.

Yay problem solved we were outbid fair and square went to our highest but still didn't get it and even better news, i met the estate agent (viewing man, not office folk) today who told me on the sneak that the "dream house" has possibly got a massive subsidance problem and they won't be able to tell for certain for 2 years so could have been a blessing in disguise.The seller had had a survey done which didn't mention the subsidance and we probably would have just trusted that, when we asked to buy the survey from the guy who pulled out a couple of weeks ago the estate agent said he didn't want to sell i should have been then.

I have found a lovely house today, ticks alot of boxes although my mum doesn't think its big enough, but its pretty(happy me) on a great family street with the possibility of extending and affordable(happy dh), the kids bedrooms maybe a little on the small side but less room to make a mess no schools but thats not really a problem for us but might be when we come to sell it but there does seem to be lots of young families about today so maybe not.
Fingers crossed everyone, sorry if some people thought i was being a bit spoiled but it was making me sad.

You see - everything happens for a reason !
I don't think you were being spoiled. A house is a huge emotional investment. It has to be right IMO. Hopefully this is the right one

Yay great news! Not spoilt at all - it's a big decision spending that amount of money and it has to feel like the right house for everyone to be happy in.

Right, fingers crossed for a smooth purchase!