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to think there is no gig deal in 6 year olds calling a penis a penis and a vigina and vigina?

115 replies

tryingtobemarypoppins · 20/07/2009 19:12

Ah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Are children going to be damaged by knowing these 'technical terms'........I don't think so!!

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Paolosgirl · 20/07/2009 20:52

What do you mean??? Where does it come from then?????

TheFallenMadonna · 20/07/2009 20:53

It's because they had right-on parents who refer to 'it' as the vagina

There is no 'it'. The penis is multi-functional, but we females aren't as good at multi-tasking when it comes to the urino-genital system...

hercules1 · 20/07/2009 20:55

No, thunderduck. SUrely not!

Thunderduck · 20/07/2009 20:56

Yes really

louii · 20/07/2009 21:08

I have a friend who is 30 she recently asked me do you have to take tampon out to do a wee. She has always used pads and thought the blood and wee came from the same place
I told her to go home get a mirror and have a good look.

Sycamoretreeisvile · 20/07/2009 21:32

Sorry, what is the benefit of this again?

What is it that is NOT on about euphemisms but is so GREAT about anatomically correct.

I just genuinely don't get it.

I think about how I grew up with front and back bottom (not highly original I grant you) and I just cannot fathom in what/which way this was detrimental.

Can someone please explain why they feel so strongly that a penis is a penis is a penis?

Sycamoretreeisvile · 20/07/2009 21:35

I don't even use those words about my own bits and pieces.

I flatter myself I choose prettier words

Unless I'm at the Dr's of course.

RumourOfAHurricane · 20/07/2009 21:46

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TheFallenMadonna · 20/07/2009 21:50

I don't insist on anatomically correct (apart from in my lessons of course!). I do insist on anatomically distinct...

Sycamoretreeisvile · 20/07/2009 22:01

It makes me want to cross my legs.

Say what you like, I find it altogether far too unnecessarily graphic.

It's the language of medicine or of sex.

Tis not the language of under 5's, surely?

What you lot trying to prove with all your 2009 Vulva's are the new Fanjo?

2rebecca · 20/07/2009 23:27

I'd not heard of fanjo apart from on here, not heard a vulva referred to as a minnie either, if you whinged you were called a moaning minnie in our house! Son talks about penis or winkie, but since being about 7 decided winkie was too babyish and has gone with penis. Daughter refers to her "bits" or vulva. Twinkles and tuppences etc just sound horribly twee.
Front and back bottom sounds very grannyish, like talks of problems with back passages.

ConvalescingCow · 20/07/2009 23:43

I actually find this all very difficult with ds. How do I explain female anatomy to him without him "seeing it". Sample conversation

DS (watching me with no clothes on) - "Mummy why don't you have a willy"?
Me -Well ladies don't have willys. They have different holes instead. One for weeing, one for where babies come out of

Ds "where - let me see" (trying to see between my legs)

I then find myself rapidly changing the subject and muttering 'thsat is private hrumph" as there is no way I am going down that route

How do you name the female anatomy (regardless of what you call it) without looking at it and pointing so to speak.

puffling · 20/07/2009 23:57

For DD it's all bum bum, front and back.

taylorsmummy2004 · 21/07/2009 00:04

My daughter is 4 and has always called her "bits" her vagina. I dont think this is any big deal, it is what it is. she is less likely to hear it in every day conversation, and so therefore, will not be embarassed when she grows up. If i taught her to call it something else, and she hears words like twinkle, fairy, flower etc. as she grows up, surely she would be more embarassed thinking people were talking about girls "bits"?

TheFallenMadonna · 21/07/2009 00:06

But vagina refers to one 'bit' only. What does she call the others?

taylorsmummy2004 · 21/07/2009 00:08

Was that aimed at me? She doesn't, thats the word she knows for that general area....

TheFallenMadonna · 21/07/2009 00:13

But it isn't the name of the general area.

TheFallenMadonna · 21/07/2009 00:14

Sorry, I'm like a dog with a bone really aren't I?

2rebecca · 21/07/2009 00:25

With my son I got him a book when he was old enough to ask questions. When he was small he came out with "mummies don't have winkies they have hair", but didn't seem bothered about why this was.

LovelyTinOfSpam · 21/07/2009 00:28

What I would like (please?) is a female equivalent for "willy".

I have a DD 2yo and a new one and can still not settle on what to call her... well if I knew I could write it!

Vagina no good, that's a specific part that I certainly wasn't really aware of until periods started.

What do you call the outside areas? Genitals maybe?

Serious question I'm afraid. And no noonoos or fluffies round here either...

LovelyTinOfSpam · 21/07/2009 00:30

Actually genitals is the right term isn't it.

Hmmm think I'm more comfortable with that than ninky nonk or vulva or anything...

TheFallenMadonna · 21/07/2009 00:35

The correct term is vulva, which includes the external genitalia and the openings to the urethra and vagina.

blinder · 21/07/2009 00:41

In order to avoid swearing, my DS uses the terms 'bollops' and 'penit'. Always makes me laugh.

LovelyTinOfSpam · 21/07/2009 00:45

Well yes, but what if she has a sore clitoris/ clitoral area?

i just want a simple female term equivalent to willy. That would make me happy!

TheFallenMadonna · 21/07/2009 00:48

There really isn't one. As many, many threads will testify. Front bottom would do it I suppose, historically anyway. But rather out of favour now...