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to expect others on the bus to offer their seat / show common courtsey to a heavily pregnant woman?

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babyball · 15/07/2009 15:29

This refers to two occasions. Once, where an elderly lady came onto the bus and no-one would stand up for her apart from myself (at 32 weeks pg and with very noticable bump). No-one offered to stand for me however, and as the bus was rammed, a couple of ignorant arses rammed their massive rucksacks into my bump on the way past causing considerable pain. I was so angry hot and bothered, I burst into tears as soon as I was home. The second occasion, was sitting next to an elderly gent (not that elderly and certainly mobile). When I asked him to move so that I could get off the bus, he moved his knees to one side. Asked if he would mind getting up momentarily, he said, "Nah, you'll be alright luv", meaning I had to squeeze past him shoving my bump against the bus rail hurting my already extremely sore belly-button. Sorry for the rant, but has no-one any bloody consideration any more?

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mumdrivenmad · 19/07/2009 19:46

I thought I would add my experience of travelling through London whilst I was on my way to visit my mum when I was 28 weeks pregnant with my twins, I was enormous, I looked like I was term. I was ok for a seat on the outward journey, but on the return I had a rather large bag (mothercare were having a closing down sale lol), as I got on the tube I looked for a place to sit. There were no empty seats so I ended throwing my bag on the floor and sat on that. I was disgusted.

Totallyfloaty35 · 19/07/2009 20:24

When i was pregnant with dd1 i had pre eclampsia,on packed tube DH was asking loudly for a seat for me and everyone stared at the floor.However when i collapsed ,apparently 8people leapt up.DH was shouting at them that its a bit late now,but they did carry me off train with him
DD2 was on train with me and baby dd3 when she stood up for a pregnant lady,a man dived into the seat and i could hear DD loudly berating him"I didnt stand up for you,you dont need a seat the lady does,you're not pregnant" and then in a quieter voice"although you do have a big belly" he got up and went into another carriage.Did tell her it wasn't nice to make personal remarks though,but was quite impressed with her,she was only 9.

babyball · 21/07/2009 22:25

trellism - there is something severely wrong with your definition of karma IMO

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Phoenix4725 · 22/07/2009 06:14

i always make myolder dc stand up if someoen needs seat but then I do get tuts and stares and coments when im sat in priorty seating with ds often on my lap .

Mind find whe i stand up to get of and get ds older brother to hold him while I lift his wheelchair out of luggage rack does tend to cause a few red faces .Mind i am also not above asking for a seat either when holding him but to some people must look like im being precious about not standing ith ds hes 4 but he just can not stand for long

we dont have the wheelchair friendly buses where I live but thatswhole another story

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