If I tell my husband I'm not going on holiday next week he should believe me?

[flossie64]

We are booked to go to Euro disney next week, but I cannot go . I am on the edge of falling to pieces and cannot face doing that happy smiley family thing . Everything is piling up and I will fall off the edge if I go.
I told him to still go and take my daughter with him ,as I would be better on my own.
I really feel thats what would be best, but I know when he phones tonight he will try and placate me. Giving in and gong is dafinsately not on the cards.

Flossie - get on to Welfare, or get dh to do so. They would hopefully be able to pull some strings for you and get things moving, or do you a private hiring. I've been on the MOD site, looked at the RAF stuff, and there is a link to SSAFA forces help with the names, numbers and email addresses of people to contact who can help you. Please contact them. Sometimes you have to push as well.

Dh has been onto Dhe again today ,they said with welfare, we would be 1st on list = 8 week wait ( at least ). Excess rental waiting time about the same, prob with that is the school thing as I have no idea where we would end up ,so cannot contact schools to find a place.
He then spoke to his Air commadore, who said the best option would be to post him back here, though time scales on that are unknown to me as yet.
The biggest shock is that he is coming home tonight!! Thats a first ,in the 11+ yrs we have been together he has never had the compunction to come back to deal with anything.
All I can say is fingers crossed, it will be sorted soon.

Aw flossie, all sounds much more positive, he obviously realises the problem and I'm sure he doesn't like it either so I hope you sort it out between you. Let us know how you get on xxx

Problem is the buggers get so wrapped up in their own little worlds that they forget about ours. It sounds as if he has worked out what an RM friend said to me yesterday - that a happy wife equates to an easier life all around. They take their sweet time about working it out though!

Hope it all goes well and that the posting comes through.

flossie I completely understand why you are resolved not to go. Stick to your guns and enjoy your time alone

flossie, hope it all works out for you - I can see your pov totally and have felt that a few times myself (although different situation).

My best friend's mum did this one Christmas - she just told everyone she wasn't going away with the family as she had done every year, she was jsut going to stay at home, by herself and do exactly what she wanted. No one believed her at first - and when they did believe her they started offering her places to go on Christmas Day so that she wouldn't be on her own - eventually she got really quite snippy about it because no one really understood that she WANTED to be on her own. It was her CHOICE - no hardship for her at all! In the end she got her way and had a brilliant 2 days for herself.

So - if it's REALLY what you want and you're not having a bit of a Cloud of Depression moment, then do it.