to spike my friend's lasagne?

[allaboutme]

Friend has come out of hospital today after an operation.
I am making lasagne for tea and thought I'd do double and drop one round to friend for her tea so she doesnt have to cook.

Friend does not eat vegetables. Ever.

Am in two minds as to whether to spike her lasagne with hidden veg.
Because...It'll be good for her and she'll probably never notice but also (and this is probably the real reason ) because I think its a little bit childish at her age to say 'I dont like vegetables' so would get a little sneaky pleasure from sneaking some in and then for her to say 'it was lovely' or something the next day [mischevious emoticon]

My kids wont die of scurvy if I cook the whole batch veg free and I do like my friend and want her to like her dinner so probably I am being unreasonable ....

What do you think?

OP, please follow up. Did your friend like the lasagne?

I did this to my ex-h

he claimed to be allergic to ALL vegetables (apart from potatoes and peas, so he could have chips and mushy peas )

I decided he was lying (he was - I knew it) so used to puree all the veg I wanted and hide it in rich sauces.

he NEVER realised. He never had a reaction

One day I told him (after weeks of hiding it) and that night he was "poisoned" from the veg.

Psychosematic? I rekon so!

Just do it - it won't hurt her and will most likely benefit her recovery

Yup, stick some veg in it - serve it in a carved-out marrow and make her jog over to fetch it too, that's healthy.

YA N BU of course - just poking fun. This has been a great thread, despite some people seeming to get their knickers in a knot over something lighthearted and flippant.
Perhaps we should send them some not-Knottable-knickers? Or would that be patronising?

I'm always getting people saying to me, oh I don't eat this that and the other, and I give them two options - the choice is - take it or leave it

YABU

I dont like most veg and people are always trying to 'spike' my food, ffs what do they think i am 8?

Its not childish not not like certain foods, your being very patronising towards her

emotionalrex

emotionalrex, i have no problems with take it or leave it. OP's friend will just leave it. OP's friend did not even request lasagne.

What is underhand is OP taking that choice away from OP's friend because she thinks she knows better.

What a life to lead that you need to get satisfaction from secretly feeding people things you deem healthy that they would otherwise not eat.

My friend was touched I brought her dinner.
I told her that it was extra of what we had had and that I had 'toned down a lot' the veg on her behalf. She ate it last night and said she enjoyed it.

No one poisoned, no one patronised, no one insulted and everyone happy

lol abm!

glad she enjoyed it

That is wonderful, allaboutme.

I think your approach is the right one and strikes the right tone, without mocking your friend's choices behind her back.

You can try her on your butternut squash risotto next time

I hate the attitude that thinks it is funny to deliberately go against something that another adult has chosen to do - I also think it is less mischievous and more malicious I'm afraid.

I also get annoyed when I hear of adults who don't eat veg - partly because I imagine the state of their bowels - but it is their choice.

If anyone is being childish it is you - YABVU.

Just do a nice thing and cook her a dinner she actually likes.

How very nice of you to make a lasagne for your friend, allaboutme. Very kind.

I'd've just made it in my usual way with lots of veg and given it to her without any description of what was in it. No need to spike it. She could always not eat it.......

Glad it turned out ok.

glad it worked out ok, allaboutme!

I've a friend that just got out of surgery and I doubled up on a casserole that I made for my family. Friend then proceeded to inadvertently mention that she and son ate all the chicken from the casserole so I guess, in your case, that your friend could disassemble your lasagna and only eat the parts she likes. So there!

Lewisfan did you go out with me ex?????

He was "allergic" to vegetables and even the smell of them made him ill...

So one day when he was at work I made a lovely chicken soup and blended it (remember we are talking about a 28 year old man here) well come dinner time he ate it. I never said a word as he asked for seconds and thirds.

The following week while he was at work I made a chicken pasta and "hid" some very very tiny cut brocolli in it again he ate it.
That evening I almost died laughing as when I told him (as he was driving) he became drastically ill with a headache, stomach ache, had to stop the car as he was going to make himself vomit.

Turned out the reason he didn't eat vegetable was his silly whore idiot of a mother. When he was a baby and she had tried to feed him veg he spat it out...so nobody had ever given them to him again. I spent 4 years hiding veg in his dinners.

err thats should say my ex not me ex

yanbu if you are doing it because you genuinely care.
''your body , your choice''- yes but we are talking veg here, not narcotics!
A lot of pasta sauce has hidden veg in anyway.