to be annoyed at the pecking order of the breaking baby news?

[CakeandFineWine]

RANT ALERT!!

So my Brother-in-law, (DH Twin) and his DP
have announced they are expecting their first baby on 25/12/2009!!
Yeah good news and all

Then we fine out that all her family and our family were told first, fair enough can cope with that we live furthest away, out of sight and all that!

Then he drops the bombshell that they also told some of their (and our) friend before us?!?!?!

Surely this is bad baby breaking news etiquette?
I mean its his twin?!!?

deep breath

I told some friends before family becuase I wanted to talk about it, but I didn't want to tell my family until after 12 weeks. I have had a mmc before, and I knew they would worry loads, and be very upset if anything had hapened. Of course, my friends would have been upset too, but not as much as my mum and my sisters - who were the first people I told after all that. Then it was just in order of who we spoke to.

congrats op....and glad you realised how YABU you were originally
Hope all goes well wiht your and your sil's pg

I was slightly surprised when one of my work colleagues told me his wife was pregnant - lovely, I was really excited for him. We were chatting about how he had wanted to keep it quiet for a bit etc etc but he had told our boss for various reasons. We had had another colleague we worked closely with who had left a few weeks before so I said, 'Oh, you'll have to email so and so and tell her', to which he replied, 'Oh, I told her before she left'.

So did he not tell people to wait till after the scan or not? Or was it more for his benefit? I still can't quite work out the logic of that one, felt as if everyone needed to know but me at the time.

Fwiw I can understand the OP being miffed. I made sure my parents, parents-in-law, brother and sister/ in-law and grandmother knew before I gave my Mum permission to tell the world but she felt this was the right thing to do as well so I phoned everyone at the same time and got it over and done with.

Just as long as you are not the last to hear about the baby's birth - that would be a bit imo.

Right then peeps,
Very surprised at the amount of posts this thread got, the best I've ever started!

No they didn't know we were TTC,
Yes DC and his twin V.close.

However now I've been to Dr's and got myself sorted out with preg packs referrals etc, can now see wood for trees and see how great it will be to have cousins close together,

I think my title was maybe not in keeping with my thoughts at the time but it def provoked a reaction, even if a little harsh from some of you lovely MN'ers

Right off to change my profile name!

Don't change your name! I love it... Paul McGann, yum...

Am 15wks at present and due to circumstances am not going to tell parents or PIL for another 2 weeks until we see them face to face.

Have told my boss: I was getting pains so needed to go for early scans so in case something happened and I suddenly couldn't go into work and work colleagues so that they could alter work around for me. Also close friends because they had to look after me when I had bad morning sickness and hubby was staying away.

Circumstances dictate who you tell when and why. Ideally we'd like family to know first but it just ain't going to work out like that. Like everyone else, I wouldn't worry about it.

I can't see that it matters. I told my best friend before DH. I had done the test at work and was bursting to tell so I rang her because I didn't want to tell DH over the phone. He didn't mind.

haha, we didn't tell anyone (well except my closest friend who was doing IVF and needed a heads up).

As it was becoming obvious I was busy enjoying all the gossip. Watching people tie themselves up in knots because they think you are a pregnant but don't dare say anything is hysterically funny .

Get a grip