to want to hit a mum at playgroup?

[BirdFromDaNorf]

Scenario: Husband working away, 2.5yr old had a bad night with the heat, 12 month old teething + heat = bad night all round, so v bad morning follows today for me, when I forced the kids to eat cheerios for brekkie...they didn't want them and I forced them. Little one to nursery, elder one out with me to a playgroup in Girton.

DS1 has cup of milk in car to keep him quiet en route. We get to Girton, go to get DS1 out of car, find he has been sick everywhere. Go to give DS1 drink of milk to rinse mouth - realise it's the milk. Waitrose milk too! Only bought yesterday Grrr been in fridge.

Anyway, DS1 into playgroup in shorts and no top. Someone comments on it to me, I start to explain that he's been sick, so no t-shirt. She jumps down my neck about why on earth would anyone in their right mind take a sick child to playgroup etc. We are going on holiday on Sunday etc ranting at me. I try to get in, saying "you've not given me chance to explain, do you think I'm that sort of mother, he's had some milk that I didn't know wasn't right, that's all. What sort of mother do you think I am, that I woudl do that??"

No apology, no sorry, no sheepish "oh right". Just a repeating of "well we are going on holiday on Sunday and I don't want sick children".....

She didn't give me chance to explain. She didn't draw breath. People were looking. Being very tired, hormonal (12 days late with period grrr) and utterly beffudled by the whole thing I've picked up DS1 and walked out. And cried in the car that things are not going my way today.....

What I should have done, was hit her, or embarass her, or demand an apology. Something surely. I don't know her well so this isn't going to be nice next time I see her. AIBU to go back next week and hit her if she doesn't come to me and apologise instantly??

Well yeah, YABU, you just told the woman your child had just vomited, of COURSE she's going to think your child is sick. I don't think she needs to apologise to you

I can sort of see where you are coming from but sorry YABU. I suffer from emetophobia (fear of being sick) and if anyone in DS's class is sick I panic and worry for at least 4 days until the risk has passed. Having any of us come down with D & V on holiday would be one of my worst nightmares. Perhaps she suffers from the same phobia - apparently it is incredibly common

check your milk better next time, retest coz pregnancy tests aren't always right (none of mine were first time aorund) and stop wanting to hit people as it is a nasty trait and can get you arrested

The other woman was in the wrong. She shouldn't have ranted at you without knowing the facts. She made assumptions and jumped down your throat.
Don't hit her though - that won't improve the situation.

What do mean 'forced the kids to eat'.

How do you know it wasn't the cheerios (that you forced your child to eat) that made child sick??

And she needs a slap?? .

It may "just" have been the milk, but how did you know there weren't going to be more after-effects of drinking bad milk? I think YABU for taking your DS to nursery when he'd just been sick. My son's primary has a rule that children aren't allowed back to school after they've been sick until 24 hours later.

And I can't imagine how awful it must be to be forced to eat something. Please don't do that again.

YABU. There are lots of parents who insist on forcing their vomiting, poxy, sputum producing chesty coughing kids on others without a thought for anyone else and perhaps the other mum was as annoyed about it as I sometimes get (disclaimer - normal snotty noses and colds are ok to be shared)

And my money is on being force fed cheerios as the cause for the vomiting - have you TASTED those things ? (need vomiting smilie)

Chill. And perhaps apologise to her and she'll apologise to you and you can all live happily ever after ?

Here I am MangoJuggler

Another vote here for the cheerios-did they have same "off" milk on them, that your ds had in his cup? Please dont force your dc to eat something they dont want-would you like it? (naughty step for you and big "sorry" for your dc as prescribed by Supernanny.)
You sound stressed,and if you are defo not pregnant,that could be why your period is late. Try and get some rest.

If a child says they don't want to eat something if you "force" them that is a good way to make them puke and feel rotten. Also, they could be at the start of a bug and loosing their appetite. I can't fathom how you thought playgroup was a good move.

The Woman was saying what many were thinking I am sure, sorry.

I live in Cambridge - people are usually lovely! Very friendly and helpful.

Sorry you've had a crappy day, and she did sound bloody rude, but to be fair a lot of parents do take their kids to nursery when pretty unwell, so you can see why she was het up about it. Sounds to me like she probably had an awful morning as well - heat can do that. It'll all get forgotten about, I'm sure.

Take the milk back to Waitrose? They'll replace and refund - they sold us some dodgy potatoes once when DH was cooking me a special meal, and when he went back to complain with the receipt showing steak and champagne on it as well, they gave us a bouquet and another bottle of champagne as an apology. Waitrose are fab.

Singstar, nobody stormed up. OP said another mother commented the child had no top on, she explained he'd been sick in the car, and that was what made the other mother jump to conclusions.