to be a bit disappointed in my children's spoilt attitude?

[Greensleeves]

I could cry, honestly

DS1 and I have been ill this week, he was better today so we went to their sports day - I haven't been feeling 100% tbh but went along anyway and then went to work. I saw dh briefly at lunchtime and suggested that we surprise the kids by taking them to Giraffe (it's one of their favourite places) for dinner, to celebrate the taking part in the sports day

so I w as looking forw ard to seeing them after school and thought they would be all pleased and excited and it would lift all our spirits a bit

when I told them, they were both silent for a minute,and then started going "Hmmmmm, awww, I wish we could go to Pizza Hut instead" at which point I flipped a bit (not shouting,just cross) and said they were acting like spoilt brats and maybe we should have fewer treats if they don't appreciate them

I got them home and sent them to take their uniforms off, and immediately they started "he's copying me " "he's XXXX " " he's XXXX"

I want to send them both to bed frankly, I know it's unfair but I feel really down

sorry am taking over your thread gs, I hope you have a lovely evening out.

i need to start my own thread on parenting methods that involve Not Praising Children.

I think most of them are 'spoilt' compared to what most of us had when we were kids.

It drives me mad too- I took mine to a really nice soft play last week. We had lunch there, they were allowed a shot on the little cars that you drive and they got to put money in the machine for a lollipop or somesuch...

When we were in the car on the way home they were such whiney, moaney little beggars I was .

Noooooo, stay on this thread

your dd2 is fab, she will brook no bullshit

and pmsl at "prays officer", you must have been sooooooo chuffed at that one

we had a lovely evening out, we stuffed ourselvers with highly inappropriate food and were very loud and raucous, I think some of the yuppie couples were quite relieved when we left

I do think my boys are bloody spoilt, and I need to watch it - but it's not all bad, they were enchanting company tonight when they were getting everything they wanted

no i don't think your dc are spoilt, I think they are often well behaved, polite and sweetly appreciative of quite small treats.

This was in the garden we were doing our Role Play. In full view of the neighbours.

Glad you had a good time, gs. Raucous is not the same as spoiled, imo. However, if you're still worried I think you should invite fennel's dd2 over and ask her for her objective opinion on whether the boys are spoiled or need more praise!

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Oh I wish I had seen this thread last night when I was tired and pissed off.

Greensleeves - your space bar madness has just had me pissing myself laughing for somereason.

I paid for dd and a friend to go to the cinema at weekend (plus bought disgustinblgy overprices sweets in Cineworld - how dare they charge that much for pick and mix - but that's another thread). I then fed them in Nandos. Then dd's friend had to go, I as finishing my wine drink and didn't want to be rushed. DD huffed and puffed.

Then, on the way home she started grousing saying that life was boring and that we never did anything, all her friends are going on holiday to fancy places and we had to go to boring crappy France.

I juts blew my top in a 15 min long (probably) monologue tirade accusing her of ingratutude, selfishness etc, taking in global recession, my commute to work, the fact the roof is leaking in the garage and the fact that nobody ever feeds the cats except me. Poor thing really got it in the neck.

She was very good and helpful for a couple of days after that.

I think kids sometimes do need to know that we are not bottomless pits/inexhaustable automatons. DD is usually great but sometimes she hits a nerve.

I meant to add, that after my tirade at dd I went up to my bed and sobbed and sobbed because I felt like such a bitch. Such is motherhood.

I refuse to buy anything to eat or drink in a cinema - it is such a disgusting rip off. Buy them in a supermarket on the way to the cinema.

Hmm i appreciate that you had got excited and had your expectations up as to how they would react to your surprise but to them the treat was going to be going out to dinner - you chose a place you thought was good and they asked for something else. I think you over-reacted a little. Surely you should have said - we want to treat you for a great sports day so let's go out to dinner - where would you like?

I can see you put effort in to planning something and it didn't go down as well as you had imagined it would be, but they don't sound spoilt - they sound like kids.

yorkie...we always smuggle food and drink into the cinema...because, like you say, the prices are ridiculous....

thye shouldn't overprice things so muhc, and people would be happy to buy the stuff there...