Hi angel, Congratulations on a new baby joining your family, always a great joy whatever the flavour.
Two boys is a fantastic combination... So is any other... Wouldn't it be terribly boring if we all had a boy and a girl?
I have sooo many thoughts on the subject that i know my post is going to be a bit chaotic, bear with me...
Yes, it does seem that a lot of women once they had one sex would like to experience another, I felt like this after I'd had Ds1. I adored him, loved having a boy but it is like having a chocolate out of a box, yum yum great, let's try what another one is like, different flavour.
Others sort of expect you to be somewhat disappointed, hence negative remarks. But of course they are being very insensitive and rude. Why do people feel free to pass comments like this on baby's gender when they would be usually more tactical on other subjects , I don't know, one of the mysteries of human behaviour.
It is VERY VERY widespread, I have family/friends abroad and they are just the same. And how many mumsnet threads have we had on the subject already ? One seems to pop up every week and lots of people still join in talk as nearly all experienced the issue and got upset at some point.
I do NOT think a boy and a girl is a perfect combination, for each combo you can think of pros and cons. But in my opinion mums who happen to have b+g just have it easier as far as the comments are concerned since, while some still find them annoying,they are generally positive.
I do think the problem stems from the fact
that most people these days aim for just two children, no more, so there is millions out there who never are going to experience the other sex, they have to be at peace with NEVER having a daughter or a son. Some find it hard.
But then people with one boy one girl will never know the joys of brothers, sisters growing up together, there is something very special about this.
And how sweet to see a bunch of three- four all girls or boys !
I remember years ago when I found out the very cheesy Hansons were all brothers, my first thought was how lovely!
Anyway, I will now introduce my family...DS 13, Ds11 and DS only 3. I do have two daughters ( after DS2) but sadly they didn't make it to birth. I'm a strong believer in after life though, so looking forward to seeing them one day again !
Some medical experts old ladies in neighbourhood did conclude I obviously cannot carry girls to term but the fact is I had an unrelated condition diagnosed and successfully treated before I went on to have DS3.
If only people realised what effect their insensitive words have on already highly strung hormonal mum, whether pregnant or a new mum... It can blight their joy or even tip them over the age on a very bad day.
I wasn't hormonal, my little boy ( no3) was 18 months when just one remark too many ( 'ooh, 3 boys , great for dad, but no joy for the mum' ) from my mum's friend, led to a day long fully blown row with ..my mum, unpleasant memories to this day , I rarely fight with my mother. Of course at the time the remark was made I was speechless and too stupidly polite to come out with a god riposte.
Anyway, I ADORE having my three boys. I really really enjoyed my first couple of boys growing up , two brothers close in age. And now I feel so happy that having my DS3 I can relive the experience of raising a boy, like revisiting a place you had a holiday of a lifetime at but it's all new adventure at the same time. I feel amused that some people might look on me with 3 boys with some kind of a pity, I know some do. If only they knew !!! I feel nothing but pride and happiness looking at my bunch of boys. They're great brothers to each other. The eldest two , though having their own quite different personalities and skills, share a lot , from interests to many friends.
DS1 is very caring and protective of the littlest brother while Ds2 is a constant source of entertainment for DS3,despite the big gap, they play a lot together.
Angel , just for you and your particular flavour mix, these are the good points of having two boys close in age.
they can share a bedroom
you can recycle old equipment, clothes and toys
they will play with each others Christmas/birthday toys, so it's double the fun for them
they will share some friends
they will have much in common in general
they will watch same films/play same ps/xbox games ( so one buys a game with his saved up pocket money, the other gets to play too ! )
you take them to see the same film at cinema, so you're always together as a family
they want to listen to the same bedtime story when little, watch same cartoons
IT'S basically all much easier and you feel more 'together' as family
DISCLAIMER I know there is some generalization in the above but all true in my family's case. Of course it's possible for two boys to have VERY different interests and for some girls to like many boys' stuff and share with brother and also there is lots of intergender things about anyway...