to be fed up with the number of threads about my ExP, my exDH, ExW ex ex ex -

[thedolly]

doesn't anyone stay together anymore?

unresolved anger?

what are you on about?

What a cock of a thing to say OP- it's like saying why start a thread mentioning your kids in it? Because it's part of life, a difficult and emotive part of life that affects your children and your parenting (hence the relevance for this site). Having watched my BFF (sorry for childish terminology) go through a horrible, disturbing and difficult divorce, I would want her to get help and advice anywhere she could get it particularly because none of the rest of her friends have been through such a turgid situation.

And her XP will always be part of her life whether she likes it or not because he is the father of her children.

So, thedolly, I take it you have done the statistical analysis and concluded that there are more threads about XP/XH/XW than about DP/DH/DW ?

oops - I got my '*'s in the wrong places...

I have no unresolved anger. I have very little time for smug cows bleating on about how no one stays together any more. Because I'm sure that most people who get married think "oh, I'll stick with this for a few years and then f*ck off/get dumped for a tart/other get out clause"

The dolly, quick, there are no threads in active convos at the moment mentioning ex's, plenty of stuff for you to contribute to, go quick, efore someone comes along with a problem and spoils your afternnon

ditto soupy

the fact you have enraged a lot of people, a fair few of whom , myself included, are married happily, should be telling you something

Parp.

Lulumana the things you are talking about are not pointless and petty.

It's hard to illustrate the types of things I mean without naming names/threads.

UQD knows what I'm talking about (at least he appears to from his post).

Ease up folks - doesn't anyone else know what I mean?

i'm afraid you are going to have to come up with some examples, but even then you are coming across as having a total empahty bypass

if you are a lone parent, sitting at home, your ex is being an arse, no money, no baby sitters, no escape.. then mabye little 'petty' things become a huge big deal. more so if you are depressed

Nope.

thedolly...I am sure the posters of said op's are even more fed up with actually having to live through that situation, so, it is not really helpful....
if you want to keep your rosetinted glasses in place, may I suggest you hide the relationship/and AIBU threads...

this thread reminds me of a crappy one the other day, I was told that I shouldn't mention the fact that dd was severely disabled, adn just use mn as an escape for rl.
makes me wonder if the 2 posters are one and the same

How's the weather in Stepford?

If you're asking why people feel the need to vent or whinge about stuff that's getting to them (however petty), and that they couldn't talk about in RL for whatever reason, then yes TD, I know what you mean, and YABU.

Its possible there are threads under every heading and about any subject that seem petty and pointless, but you chose the subject of ex's, personaly I think you are trying to backtrack.

Dolly I picture you as the type of person who gets all dressed up to go out for a lovely meal at "The Harvester" once a week.

thedolly - it would do you the world of good to know a few people who had divorced/were in blended families .

not naming names, but an example of this pettiness

even if it does piss you off, have a heart

I never said it pissed me of - the words I used were 'fed up'.

Bonsoiranna - my DB was separated from his DW after 10 years of marriage and 3 DC. They gave each other space to live their own lives and are still good friends. That said the DC have most definitely suffered as a result of their break up.

oh stop splitting hairs

you started a crappy thread, in a topic known for arguemtns, and knew you would be pasted

pissed off/fed up.. certainly not helpful or empathetic

I was going to start a thread about exDH, (soon to be anyway)and how he dehydrated dd yesterday by taking her out for hours without a drink, she suffered a bad head all night and had to take today off school, but perhaps I should just get over it and move on eh?

I thought there would be more than one poster who would share my POV.

Well there are always going to be threads and topics on MN that are of no interest to any given poster. I do not, for instance, spend any time on the Special Needs topics as they are not relevant to me or my life, but thye are obviously hugely important to other people in different circumstances.
I also stay off most of the general woo&bollocks&superstition threads unless it's a debate on the privileging of superstition generally.
WRT XPs of any shape and form, these threads are useful not only for people to get support and rant when it's all too much, but also to give examples of how to negotiate a co-parent relationship and make it a good one. Because heteromonogamy is not the only model for family life. It;s not actually a very good or desirable one for a lot of people, and the more examples of different family relationships that are openly discussed, the better.

Nope