to get highly irritate with feeling judged at every turn??

[GhostOfPsychomum5]

nothing in particular, and no one in particular, but I just feel that whatever we do nowadays seem to induce a judgefest, and it gets irritating!!

I am trying to be confident enough in my skin/mind/parenting skills to start thinking that I don;t give a flying fuck what others think of me, and then, some stupid tiny comment (be it here, in the papers, on the radio etc) and I start feeling all inadequate and unsure of myself again.

I know exactly what you mean, everything is analysed and debated and discussed

just shut it will 'ya

AAAAGGGGHHHHHHH a ghost!

seriously though
DONT LET IT GET TO YOU

if you want to wear star patterned trainer thingies
knickers in your hair
no bra
and a furry grey caot that looks like a chincilla

then just dont let what anyone says bother you.......cause I dont

it so is isn;t it!

I have put on a small amount of weight recently, much needed according to my DH. but god I feel as tho all the mums up at the school are probably noticing and judging me for it.

they probably are not of course, I just feel paraniod like they are...........I mean, a sleb puts on 1lb and they are slated for letting themselves go!!(mind you, that is normally in the daily hate which we should all avoid anyway)

lol trinity

You should be irritated with yourself
as you say people prob don't even notice
try addressing your self esteem issues as getting annoyed with others for your feelings is totally pointless

Do you notice other people putting on a pound or two? Personally, I don't - and I live my life on the assumption that other people probably don't notice either.

Back in my teens I was very insecure and thought everyone was noticing and judging every little detail about me, but I got more confident with age, as I realised that they were probably all so busy fretting about whether I was judging them that they wouldn't notice or care!

You just have to learn to shrug it off.

CD, I know that, and am trying to not let things get to me, but christ, occasionally it does, hence the moaning on here

muminscotland, nah..........normally notice them for looking fab TBH. weight gain or loss never even occurs to me on others......really cannot get why it irks me so much for ME.

need a thicker skin I think!

I judge people all the time (I don't necessarily verbalise it all the time)and it's a fact of life that others judge too. Those people who judge those who judge (see what I did there?)are unrealistic, imo.

Frankly, I'm a bit like teflon when people judge me - I suppose I'm a bit arrogant when it comes to my own beliefs/what I think is right etc, and other peoples' judgements don't upset me (in general)

Nothing wrong with a bit of judging.

Although I agree with the poster who suggests that some people don't seem to have anything more important to do.

V. entertaining though - on mumsnet, the AIBU forum is my favourite.

If they are thinking anything they are probably thinking you look better (gain of bum is a good thing). But unless you've made a drastic change I doubt school-gate people wil notice.

Stop being paranoid.

OP, posting on Mumsnet is not going to help these feelings!

I can't imagine giving a shit what people think of me and my weight/heels/opinions/whatever. It must be horrible.

missmem, I know....own worst enemy really

ach, probably got PMT!!

Uh-oh, if you've got PMT and 2 3 (kind of) teenage girls you know what's coming next!

yup, hell will break loose tonight and the world will blow up!!

ought to go buy some wine in prep really.....

they are all tired and irritable today too, and home.........all were up till gone 11pm doing the dance show last night at the pavilion, and were there from 8.30am. will make the yelling oh so much more fun.

Grumpyness not allowed, it's a sunny day.

Them's the rules.

really??

tis very windy here!!

right, I really need to go wake them up and make 'em tidy their rooms....they not getting a completely lazy day..........all the rehearsing for the last 4wks has meant trashed rooms

Judging has always gone on though hasn't it? Look at how women used to be judged on how clean their front step was ffs.

I thought you were complaining that they would be tired and grumpy! They shouldn't be tired if they've all been in bed til now!

Sunny here, although I am looking at it out of a window so don't know if it's windy or not.

very true ledodgy.......maybe we should bring back doorstep judging, then we will stop caring about everything else

trillian, DD3 woke up tired and grumpy, went back to sleep...........DD1 now awake, also grump........DD2 will be a mare to wake, and will stay grumpy regardless simply because that is what she does best on days after shows

YANBU. In some ways mn is the worst thing for me. I was quite happy bombing along pre mn days.

Now if I mentally 'mummsnet filter' what I'm doing/thinking etc I know much of it would induce mass tutting if I posted it on here.

It is hard not to doubt yourself when you regularly tune into the opinions of quite a few hundred other mothers.

I'm almost glad I didn't discover it when my dc were small babies and I was at my most confused and vulnerable. While this is a good source of support and info it has a very definate other side to it and you often need quite a thick skin on here.

If I were doing a non-MN-acceptable thing (and if I realised) then I would be walking along trying to suppress a smirk and checking passers-by for catsbumface to identify MNers.

yeah, maybe I should just go out with the children all mismatched, me with bra-straps showing, feed everyone a greggs sausage roll and fruit shoots, and then wait for the judging, get it all out my system, and then I can relax into normal mode again

tsarcharm, that was me too........MN has a lot to answer for

actually, pre-interweb I never cared or knew people judged so much. I blame who-ever invented that TBH

Children all mismatched?

You don't mean they normally match do you? Like the Von Trapps in clothes made out of curtains?