to want school to think Father's Day is important too

[biffandchip]

For Mother's Day I got a card from DS1 (Y2), a card from DS2 (YFS) and a card and present from DS3 (Nursery). Why is it then that there was one Father's Day card from DS2 brought home from school and nothing from DS1 or DS3. Do schools tread carefully bearing in mind the number of children who might not be in contact with their father. I must say, whatever the reason I am disappointed and feel like it devalues the role of the father. I think I will raise it with the teachers next week.

Either both should be done or none so yes I woul speak to the school.

I simply made a card for somebody else on monthers day and plenty made cards for other male relatives on fathers day.

No child should ever be made to feel bad because of family circumstances. And although there are numerous family set ups and children who are very happy and secure within those. The fact of the matter is there are some little boys and girls who do feel different because dad is not around. Some might never have seen their father and this is the norm, but imagine a child whose father has just left recently and then them having to make a card. It is impossible for teachers to know everything and god knows its bloody easy to offend parents at the best of times. In my sons (age5) class they didnt make mothers day anything. A little boy in the class mother had died in September. Parents did not ask why, we all knew and had enough gumption to know the teacher was sparing the childs feelings.

A bit of cop on goes a long way sometimes.

Traditionally on Mothering Sunday staff in service were give the day off and a gift to take to their mothers.

Mother's Day and Father's day were invented as another way to extort cash from gullible parents.

Speaking from experience, mothers tend to get rather upset if they don't receive anything, whereas fathers aren't that bothered.

Dd has done several Fathers Day things. Every single one featured cards to colour in with football, cars or ties on.
DH hates football, doesnt drive and never wears a tie.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday

It pre-dates, but was absorbed by christianity.

My DS just had a card making thing for Father's Day. Dad left in February. DS said I could have the card instead.

As I said, I don't understand why celebrating mothers or fathers is something that needs to involve the school at all. It is about your relationship with your child or your parent and should be an issue for within the family.

I think people who are annoyed by this are suffering from a serious empathy failure - group Father's Day work in class can seriously upset children who are already having a tough time, and avoiding that has to be the priority.

The people who sometimes lose out for recognition, unfortunately, are the men who were crap husbands but remain good dads. May I propose a toast to all the heroic and selfless women who will spend this Saturday preparing craft materials and exhorting their DCs (through gritted teeth) to make a lovely card for the unfaithful SOB.

Our school is sensitive to children who have lost a parent for whatever reason and if they make a card/present they can choose someone else to give it to.
We had a little girl who sadly lost her mum, so she made a card for her beloved granny on MD.
I know it's hard, but if handled sensitively it shouldn't be a problem.

Best post on this thread DilysPrice

"The people who sometimes lose out for recognition, unfortunately, are the men who were crap husbands but remain good dads."

Indeed. Or the men who were good husbands and good dads but who had the misfortune to marry a crap wife.

"The people who sometimes lose out for recognition, unfortunately, are the men who were crap husbands but remain good dads."

Spot on. DS1 is in reception and the only child from a single person household (!). But he still made a card - his teachers know from his sharing book that he sees his Dad every weekend, and although he was a shit husband he is a good dad. I always make sure they get him birthday and Christmas presents and make things for Fathers Day.

DS2's nursery did stuff for Mothers Day, but nothing for Father's Day. Could be that DS2 is severly allergic to doing anything craft related, or because they dont know his relationship with his dad and all they see is single parent household.

I prefer them making stuff at school and nursery - means I dont have to pretend to like him when making stuff with them Nothing worse than writing "I love you" for your DSs in a card when you despise the bastard!

3 in 10 children have absent fathers.