to get really annoyed at people saying my ds should be potty training by now??

[PrammyMammy]

It's making me so sad, i feel like throwing the potty at them.

My ds is 17 mo. He really wouldn't last without a nappy. He has only been walking 3 months and he just seems so young. But he is my pfb so what do i know??

MIL started when he was 6 months, saying if he can sit unaided he can use a potty.

Now my own mum is at it. She says she had us potty trained at 18 months and i am going to make problems for myself.

My dn (sisters daughter) was potty training now, and did it with great success. She could also walk at 9mo, talk at 10mo etc, and that is all i am hearing.

It upsets me because it feels like they are putting ds and myself down. I avoid visiting them just because of the comments now.

OMG - I have never heard of a 17 month child being potty trained (not in my circle of friends anyway), especially not a boy!

I think 2/2.5/3 is probably about the right time to start most boys off.

All of my son's friends were completely potty trained when they started school, and that's all that matters!

It may be time to have a word with them about what they are doing and how it is making you feel. They are certainly not doing their job properly at the moment - which is to be wise and supportive!

i think every child is different and they achieve things in their own time, however i don't think 17 months is too young,(but i do think it is rather young for potty training) if the child is ready then why not, however you know child and when he will be ready to move onto this stage of development. There is no set age for potty training

However i wish you good luck when the time comes

lol I thought your ds was going to be school age! (not that that would be anyone's business either)

Ds is 2.6 and we're only just starting. No way would he have been ready at 17 months - he was another one who'd just pee on the floor and look a bit bemused (if he noticed at all).

A friend's ds was in pants at 2 (on her mother's insistance) and it made me feel a little defensive, but a) it's not a competition and b) she was changing his clothes about 4 times a day - not exactly trained

mine were 2.5, and it was easy peasy because they were ready.

I think it is cruel to do it before they are ready.

I dont get this ' especially for a boy'

YADNBU, 17mths is far too early, my ds was 2 & a half & he was potty trained in a day.We had had 2 previous bad attempts & then it just clicked with him & he was dry at night with the week too.

Tell them to buggar off & YOU will know when he is ready for potty training.

within the week

YANBU
Another thread where I am so glad I'm not the only one. My dd1 is 3 in August and after a couple of failed attempts I have given up and will let her take the lead. If she's still in nappies this time next year I may start to worry!

I started too early with my eldest DS just because I was put under pressure from MIL. She wanted to start at 6 months. when I said no she did it anyway when he was in her house, but I just laughed because he peed all over her furniture and carpet loads of times!! Would have trained him to do that myself if he didn't already know how to. Anyway, got him dry at daytime for about 2,5.
Same story DS2. When she suggests potty to him he hold his hand over his bum and says: 'mine!' Will probably never get him trained with that attitude, but he's only 2.

Anyway: I would indeed throw the potty, but wait until ds had a go first!

My dd is 3 in September also. Ds was using the toilet with a child seat about 2 months before his third birthday but tbh I just can't see it with dd. Whenever I gently suggest the potty or Fifi toilet seat, she just says firmly "NO!" and runs away.

PM73 - boys, on average, are dry a few months later than girls. Not sure why!

This is a short little article that may be worth producing next the your mum/mil bring this up

www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-175740/Why-potty-training-shouldnt-rushed.html

'oh that reminds me - I saw this am thought of you!'

Ignore people who are so wrongly opinionated- they have such a cheek telling you that Prammymummy!!

My dds were potty trained by 2, dry day and night. Woo-hoo go me

BUT............ my dss were 2 and 3 before they were dry in the day and even NOW they sometimes wet the bed and they are 4.5 and 5.5

Has taught me that there is no point pushing children before they are ready - they all get there in their own time, and when YOU feel it's time, not nanny!!

Good god 17 months, thats crazy.
DS2 is 16 months and has only been walking a month and has no words yet except 'bye' - how on earth can you potty train someone that age???
They need to be able to ask for the potty, get themselves to the potty and pull their own trousers and pants down and up to be ready.
DS1 was trained at 2yrs 9 months and I think thats about average for a boy tbh

If it was me I would get your DS a pair of pants take him round to MIL's say "ooh look how grown up DS is".Then plonk him on her lap for a cuddle & watch him pee all over her!

DD was 2 and trained in about 3 weeks. DS was 3 and a half before he was even interested and then did it in just over a week.

They all develop at their own pace go with your own instincts and tell the nan's to but out!

YANBU poor you, how annoying
my DD1 was trained at about 2.7, and DD2 2.1, its really miserable if you do it too early and fail. please ignore them, you'll know when he's ready

So relieved to see these responses - every time I see her - and indeed just this morning - MIL comments on the fact DD (nearly 24 months) isn't potty trained yet - and it is driving me wild.

My parents are the same - my view is I'd rather wait until DD is ready (ie can tell me when she needs to go) and not force it - seems too stressful any other way.

Love SalopianGirl's suggestion - may try this...

I think it is simply a generational thing. It sounds to me like the older generation sat young toddlers on the potty until they did something and then claimed they were trained. I know MiL have sat both of mine on the potty since they were a year but it had no effect whatsoever (much to her disappointment). DD was dry in the day at 20m (I think she wanted out of those cloth nappies) but not at night until she was 3. DS is 17m and NOWHERE near ready - he can't talk so how could I potty train him???

In my opinion mothers and MIL are remembering wrong. My mum swears i was out of nappies by 12 months. I think she's just remembering incorrectly. But also remember that we were still in terry towelling nappies so probably more emphasis on getting your babies out of nappies.

My DD was 2.5 months. We were on holiday and it was easy peasy. Be guided by your child is the only advice I can give really.

It is possible, DS1 was nearly out of nappies at 19 months (then I had DS2 and I gave up!) He was out of them by 2.2.

but DS2 is now 2.1 and doesn't have a clue.

You should never compare children.

It's nothing to do with how clever they are it's to do with how often they don't wear anything/how some link between bladder and brain is formed and their personality.

tell her where to go.

DS is 4 in Aug and still wears one at night and insists on one for a poo. He says he will still do this when he is 47. What a delightful husband he will make one day.

My DD was another fairly early one, completely dry by 20 months.

DS however is 2.7 and I haven't even begun to think about it, he is nowhere near ready. He has been walking a long time and has great speech- but is just not ready. He has only twice told me that he has done a wee, I don't think he has realised yet that he is doing them.

He has two potties, but uses one as a 'ladder' and likes to clean the other with stardrops and a cloth .

I will just wait until the signals are there, which I anticipate will be around the age of three.

Oh thank goodness - DD3 is still in nappies at 2 and a half. She doesn't mind sitting on the potty or loo - after the event. She just doesn't seem to get that it's too late!

holy moly, my ds2 is 27 months and has self started on the tolet and compared to EVERYONE around me he is bloody early

I'd stop visiting tbh

Can I please make the point that ds3 and ds4 are cloth nappy babies and that it is in no way an incentive to me for potty training! Why?
Because I remember the miserable, whole year that I spent training ds1 and I put myself through this misery for what reason? Well, because of MIL and her "Mine were all trained by 18 months"

And yes, they all walked early, talked early, were crawling at 3 months!!!! etc.

You would think that these marvellous children, given their early prowess would all be rocket scientists and brain surgeons by now, wouldn't you? Sadly, they are all quite ordinary!

Because of ds1, I waited till ds2 was 3. He was trained witnin a couple of weeks. I waited till ds3 said "I'm doing a wee-wee." Again, trained in a couple of weeks.

Hard to know what to do with ds4. Should I wait till he's 3 or start at two and have my house stink of piss for a year? Hmmm, difficult one................