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to be thinking of telling DH via email that I'm pregnant?

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itsalwaysthequietones · 17/06/2009 11:13

Quite possibly am. But I'm just sooooo excited - got a v faint positive first thing this morning but was a dodgy pound shop test so didn't want to tell him. Got a clear blue from the chemist a bit later and it's definitely a BFP. He's working really long hours at the moment and we've got an uncle staying tonight so might not have a chance to talk to him until really, really late.

Could do phone but thought it might be fun to tell him via email - in an inventive way that I haven't yet thought up. Or maybe not? Your thoughts please...

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FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 17/06/2009 11:14

I wouldn't. Face to face is always best, then you can always remember his expression/what he said.

FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 17/06/2009 11:15

Congratulations by the way

Ewe · 17/06/2009 11:15

Yeah, why not! It'll be a surprise, then he'll phone you and make the time to speak to you.

Any chance you could meet him for lunch instead though?

traceybath · 17/06/2009 11:15

With first pregnancy i told DH on instant messenger and he called straight away.

With second i phoned as soo excited as we'd been trying for ages.

With third i phoned him in hysterical laughter as it was a total surprise.

I think phoning is probably best but know i wouldn't have been able to wait until he got home but lots of people are far more patient than me.

Congratulations!

NewTeacher · 17/06/2009 11:15

phone him phone him now...

and congratulations!

stripeypineapple · 17/06/2009 11:17

Undoubtedly it will be tortuous for you keeping it in all day and most of the evening too but if I were I would tell him later, probably when the two of you get in bed together and are alone.

Make it special, you'll only get to tell him about this baby once.

Congratulations BTW, lovely news

MumGoneCrazy · 17/06/2009 11:17

face to face is better but if you really need to do it now you could send him a fathers day e-card saying i cant wait to meet you in 9months love little bump

wishingchair · 17/06/2009 11:18

Ah that's a great idea mumgonecrazy.

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itsalwaysthequietones · 17/06/2009 11:19

Thanks v much, ladies. Think he's on a conference call because he hasn't answered my email. Had asked about the dates for the world cup, with a view to following it up with something on the lines of 'good, as long as it's not February' and waiting for the response.

But the majority view seems to be phone or face to face. So maybe I'll go with that.

DD1 came straight after a mc so was quite a surprise. We've been trying for a while this time around but I don't think he's expecting it cos we've both been really busy w/ work and haven't talked much about it of late.

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vanimal · 17/06/2009 11:19

I would wait till he got back home and tell him, even if it's a sneaky conversation in the bedroom out of earshot of your uncle.

That way you can remember the look on his face when you tell him

Many many many congrats!!

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itsalwaysthequietones · 17/06/2009 11:21

MumGoneCrazy - that is a great idea. Misread your post and thought you were suggesting waiting til Sunday, by which time I would have imploded!

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itsalwaysthequietones · 17/06/2009 11:28

Ewe - meeting for lunch would be ideal but not poss unfortunately

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PlumBumMum · 17/06/2009 11:31

Its Fathers Day on Snday could you wait until the?

PlumBumMum · 17/06/2009 11:31

until then?

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itsalwaysthequietones · 17/06/2009 11:33

PlumBum - noooo, it would kill me!!!

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PlumBumMum · 17/06/2009 11:40

Yeah It would kill me too, but you can get fathers day cards from the bump so you could even get him one of those and give it to him early
Put on the front of the envelope 'seen this and thought of you'!

MumGoneCrazy · 17/06/2009 11:41

I just wish i'd been a bit more imaginative when it came to telling him about our pregnancys On the DD1 i just phoned him at work and said guess what? he said your pregnant (in a jokey way because we'd only been together 4 months and wasnt planning on kids yet and i already had a DS that he was getting to know) and i said yep well done and he replied oh cool that'll be fun (in shock i think lol)

On DD2 we was worried because DD1 was only 4months old so i sent him to asda's at 11pm to get some tests so he was outside the bathroom and heard oh god when he found out we was expecting again and on DD3 (due in sept) we planned it and was again outside the bathroom and came running in when i shouted WOO HOOOOOOO

Bathsheba · 17/06/2009 11:42

I told DH by email for this one...!!

I tried being imaginative for DD2 and it flopped completely...

MamaG · 17/06/2009 11:43

Oh do wait and tell him face to face

I told DH face to face with all my 3 and can remember his expressions with each, such special memories (apart from the "what the fuck" face once )

surrofab · 17/06/2009 11:58

Hubby and i have always tested together,i've never considered testing alone....so i don't know.
Maybe wait until face to face.
x

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itsalwaysthequietones · 17/06/2009 11:58

But I've taken a photo of the HPT and everything. Imagine his surprise sat in his office... Oh I don't know. I just want it to be memorable and a complete surprise during a miserable, overworked, day in the office generally is memorable. And I'm very, very impatient. BUT PlumBum - I think you have sold me on the bump card delivered early. Will go into paperchase this afternoon and track one down.

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Haribosmummy · 17/06/2009 12:03

I told my DH about our new baby by text...

The first text said 'where are you?' he replied in the airport lounge, so I texted 'You'd better get yourself a large beer'.... he guessed from there.

He did phone me straight back though!

TripleTroubleMuffin · 17/06/2009 12:03

Dh and I have tested all together too except for once when I was convinced it would be a negative and just wanted it over. I really regretted it when it was positive and having to tell him over the phone. He was at work so had to stay cool. I m/c that baby and always tested with him after that.

grumblinalong · 17/06/2009 12:06

You could send him an attachment with the picture of the test and ask 'Can you guess what it is yet?'

I wrapped up my test for DS2 and gave him it to open. He was so chuffed but then asked 'Eww. Have you pee'd on this?'

FabBakerGirlIsBack · 18/06/2009 11:22

Did you tell him?

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