MIL dressing dd in clothes she's bought. Come and slap sense into me!

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17 month old dd goes to MIL one day a week while I'm at work (my mother and nursery other two days). She's great with her and they do lots of lovely things that I don't get the chance to do. Anyway...

I used to send dd's little bag with nappies etc and two changes of clothes (MIL picks her up at sparrows' cough in her pjs) but all the clothes kept coming back clean. It turns out that she has a supply of clothes that she bought herself that she puts dd into. Now I know this is very handy for me, less washing and less bag preparation etc, but FIL sent me some photos they'd taken this week and she doesn't look like my dd. The clothes they're using are not what I'd buy and she looks really odd.

I know I'm BU and I'm not really making a fuss and would never say anything to them cos it's a non issue and they're great and lovely but it bugs me slightly so am laying it out in AIBU so you can all slap me silly and tell me to get over it

Off you go then

PMSL @ pyschadelic krankie

I shall continue to hold my peace and wait for the photos of next time's get up

You aren't there to see it, you didn't even know until recently, it does your dd not harm whatsoever. Get a frigging grip!

(I have a MIL who when she comes to my house to play with DS1 - every week - only plays with him with the toys SHE has bought him. Admittedly this is a huge selection It winds me up but IABU for the same reasons I have given you)

It is a bit odd But it would be more odd if theywere changing he rout of clothes that you sent her in, into clothes of theirs and then cahnging he back again.
I fear I may end up being that sort of Granny! I have 2 boys but I love little girls clothes and am always little 'gifts' for friends daughters and my nieces ( sad I know).
I would say just ignore it - donnt sweat teh small stuff!

(DS1 in room)

My MIL does this and she does change DD out of clothes I have supplied and put her into clothes shes got ie frilly tops or dresses.
I only realised when I was shown a picture of her in a frilly top and leggings and I hadnt seen them before.DD then came home in those clothes and MIL has since asked for them back...probably to try and put on DD2 instead.
DH wont even say anything to them...they always moan that they dont see DD in dresses when they wear them alot ...just not frilly ones.

Just wait till dd is older.

My dd is nearly 14 and MIL came last week to visit with a lovely beige, lacey knit cardi for her.

Dd's face was a picture.

When and if I'm a grandparent, I know I'll be shocking.

Even though I have 2 DDs, if one of them has a baby girl and is mad enough to leave her with me unsupervised, it'll be one long game of dress up .

I'm sure in spite of your past she's not trying to get under your skin, if she was, she'd send DD home in the stuff.

Extended family is a blessing, and you'll probably win in the memories stakes:

"Granny, I remember you would take off my nice comfortable jeans and cram me in pink frilly taffeta dresses - why??"

I think I may be able to trump you all in the seriously dodgy clothes department.....

When ds1 was born my mil proudly gave me about 10 bin bags of clothes - that she'd saved from when her own children were born! My dh is now 30 and his younger brother is 28.

All the crap fab 70's gear had been stored in the garage for that huge length of time. Towelling babygros that had gone all crispy, intricate knitted cardis, vests there was loads of stuff.

We stayed with them last weekend and dh and I went to a party and had a night in a hotel and my lovely pils looked after the boys. I had packed everything they could possibly need and I still came back to ds2 aged 2 wearing a nappy and one of bils old shirts!

I was very sniffy about it with my pfb and none of the stuff ever really saw the light of day but I just think it's quite sweet now. They love my boys as much as they did their little boys when they were tiny so I suppose it's like reliving it all.

I don't think you're bu to expect mil to at least have said that she had bought clothes but she probably knows she's being a bit odd and was embaressed.

No I don't think she's trying to get under my skin at all. Despite our shaky start we really are best friends now.

However, you lot have put the fear of God into me regarding future clothing issues with a growing dd. Do you mean she's not going to be happy in tops with sparkly fairies on forever?

Hahahahahahahahahahaha @ crispy babygros. You'd probably get a fortune from retro hunters on ebay

Agree, girlandboy.
Watch carefully ladies as Grandma's influence wanes over the coming years...I actually feel quite sad for MIL nowadays. Dd, who once hung on every word, adored any and all pressies however horrific, and played exclusively with Grandma on visits, barely acknowledges her with an 'Alright Grandma' before sticking on her leggings and crocs and heading down the garden to do her thing.
No more frilly frocks and playing babies with Grandma.
[Springlamb weeps sheepish tears - not]

D'you know though, I hung onto them for ages stuffed at the top of the wardrobe in case she wanted to give them to bils imaginary future wife. Then I realised I'd be doing the poor girl a favour and charity shopped some and left the rest for the rag bin.

I was tempted by the smocked embroidered playsuit worn by dh as a tot though......

My MIL spends an absolute fortune on clothes for herself. For DS though, she insists on buying crap that no-one wants "bargains" from sales

2 weeks ago, when it was 27 degrees, she turned up with navy woolleen trousers and cardigan and boasted that it was only £5 in the sales - yes, because no one else bloody wanted it FGS!

Magroll - my MIL did this too. She has kept absolutely everything from when her boys were small and they are now 36 and 32 I can completely relate to the towelling babygros. There is also a worrying abundence of girly looking frilly knicker and smock combos. I just take the stuff home and take a few pictures of DS wearing stuff around the house. It's sweet really. She also offered me her 70's cot, babybath, everything