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to be slightly annoyed by this

59 replies

mumsway · 03/06/2009 15:03

MIL did a favour for my sister a while back so my sister bought her a photo frame thinking that she would put a photo of my 2 dc in it. I mentioned once in conversation that although FIL takes hundreds of photos of them non of them were ever on show in a frame. The only ones they had on show were a couple that we had done for them.

Anyway she had dd yesterday for a couple of hours and when I went to pick her up I noticed the photo frame and it had a picture of BIL and his girlfriend in it. I know this probably sounds so trivial but do you think IABU about this. I have told my sister and she is quite annoyed too.

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PuppyMonkey · 03/06/2009 16:04

I'm still PMSL at hullygully, I don't care if she IS serious...

hullygully · 03/06/2009 16:04

jumping, we (me and 3 sibs) do this at my mum's. We all rearrange the photos to put ours at the front. Driven her so mad they've all gone upstairs to spare room Siberia.

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:05

"I am fed up with the cavalier way other people treat gifts"

Yes i know, how dare they use a photo frame to display a photo

hullygully · 03/06/2009 16:08

It's not "a" photo, it's "which" photo. It's rude rude rude. Like saying she doesn't even want to look at the op's dc. It's really a subtle kind of rejection. Rude and cruel. Why doesn't she just come out and say what she thinks instead of this subterfuge?

Thunderduck · 03/06/2009 16:09

...passes Hully a dictionary. Look up hyperbole please.

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:10

The op didn't give the frame though.

Projecting your feelings on to others is a leetle bit mental.

hullygully · 03/06/2009 16:10

I have a dictionary. I don't need to look up hurtful and bad-mannered and this is what we are talking about, dress it up as you will.

PuppyMonkey · 03/06/2009 16:11

Maybe none of the photos of the DCs fitted the frame...? Maybe it was a particularly stunning photo of the BIL which they'd been meaning to frame for ages... subtle rejection my arse.

hobbgoblin · 03/06/2009 16:11

She should have just cut out a photo of Richard Gere from a magazine and put him in it, then she could get her rocks off while dusting the sideboard and nobody would be complainin, least of all her.

StewieGriffinsMom · 03/06/2009 16:13

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Thunderduck · 03/06/2009 16:15

Bad mannered?

Bad mannered would be if she had been given a frame containing a photo of the OP's children, which she then proceeded to jump up and down on it while screaming ''how dare you sully my beautiful home with images of your inferior spawnlings''

Now that'd be rude for sure, but all she did was put in a photo of the giver that is all.

And surely a gift isn't really a gift if there are conditions about how the recipient should use it?

LovelyTinOfSpam · 03/06/2009 16:16

MN is really depressingly weird at the moment.

Or maybe it's just me...

Just give them a bloody frame with a photo of the children in it. If they change the picture then feel free to feel slighted.

Or maybe you could get an enormous oil paining done, 10' by 6 should do it, and insist they hang it in the front room, throw all other photos away and make some kind of shrine around it.

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:16

Hully - Of course it would be hurtful and bad mannered if they had removed a photo of the DCs or even a little hurtful if the gift giver had suggested a pic of said DCs but according to the OP neither of those things happened, i didn't realise grandparents were supposed to be mind readers nowadays.

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:18

Thunderduck - i think they put a pic of her SIL and BIL not her sister, who gave the gift. Regardless it still isn't a slight on the OPs kids.

hobbgoblin · 03/06/2009 16:19

Yeah but Spam, since she didn't even give the sodding gift, she couldn't actually DO that could she? The gift was from her sister, which is what makes this all totally and ridiculously unreasonable.

She probably secretly detests your DC. Does that help by way of explanation. Oops probably not.

Thunderduck · 03/06/2009 16:20

LMAO at the shrine idea.

Yes I agree it wasn't an insult, no matter whose photo was put in the frame. If you expect it to be used for a particular photo then put it in the frame as everyone has been saying. Simple.

SusieDerkins · 03/06/2009 16:21

Good grief. YABVU and terribly precious.

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:21

I need to have words with my in-laws they have pics all over the place but no shrine...

Greensleeves · 03/06/2009 16:22

could you say "sounds silly, but why don't you have any pictures of X and Y up? I could frame a nice one for you if you want"

I would

Thunderduck · 03/06/2009 16:23

That's completely unacceptable Tomarto. They obviously aren't fit to be grandparents.
I'd call them now and give them until the end of the week to appropriately decorate the largest room in the house for the purpose.

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:26

I'm a step ahead of you Thunderduck, i have a spare key, i've just organised the redecoration of their living room, i'm sure they will be particularly impressed with the floor to ceiling portrait of my DCs

stillstanding · 03/06/2009 16:27

LOL Thunderduck

Thunderduck · 03/06/2009 16:29

Ah but have you remembered the ceremonial whips that they must flagellate themselves with three times a day, to atone for their delay in dedicating a shrine?

Tamarto · 03/06/2009 16:31

I knew there was something i had forgotten.

Do you think it would be too ott to organise the same for GMs office and GDs bus??

mumOfTheYearNOT · 03/06/2009 16:33

Y to tha A to tha B to tha U
The one unreasonable, is you!