To not want to lose weight for someone else's wedding?

[shootfromthehip]

My brother is getting married next month and he is very shallow about appearances. He is a gym freak and is unarguably in very good physical same. Added to this he has put his bride-to-be on a crazy fitness/ diet regime which is fine if she is daft enough to do it (she is a beautiful girl but is carrying a little bit of extra weight).

2 weeks ago he told me that I still had 6 weeks 'til his wedding, plenty of time to go on a diet .

Now I am 5ft 10, 11 stone 4lbs (the weight I was the day I got married 9 yrs ago) and a size 12 on the bottom 14/16 on top (I have big boobs). I AM NOT fat. I put on 5 1/2 stone (in total) during my first pregnancy anf then 3 1/2 stone in my second pregnancy and although it has taken 5 yrs, I have lost all the weight. I repeat, I am not fat but a little saggy and I do have a little tummy (which no one will see under my very flattering dress).

So, AIBU in not wanting to lose any weight or should I be trying to get in to better shape (which no amount of sit-ups seem to manage ) for his wedding?

Sorry but this has bugged me since he said it and the more I think about it, the more I waver in my outraged conviction that I don't need to lose weight.

AIBU?

I am shorter than you, weigh more than you and just going to get a second glass of wine.

If I were you I would find the MOST hidious outfit in the nastiest colour you can find and make sure you get in ALL the wedding photos.

Oh and wear one of those head bands with pingpong balls on springs.

Even if you were a little overweight, what the f has it got to do with him? You can look gorgeous whatever size you are.

He is being a prick, ignore ignore ignore.

Maybe eat a few donuts in his presence.

what a fucking arse.

I'd hurt him - a lot.

I am going to lose weight in time for my sister's wedding BUT I am going to lose weight whether she marries or not (they're discussing it - but not booked anything yet!) so it's not quite the same IMO

He is a cock though.

his poor wife

ach, your bro is a bit how shall we say, stoopid, but it is also true that people's weddings make them completley mad (i went well bridezilla around mine). so he gets a pass note on it for now.

you can start having a go at him about his amazingly self-centred/body nazi attitude once it's all over, but for now just do the 'smile / nod / then ignore' routine. i can't believe i went so long without using this method for annoying suggestions... works a treat!

Tell him you aren't going to diet so he has 6 weeks to withdraw his invitation to his poxy wedding if he would prefer. Groomzilla indeed. And take in his trousers so he thinks he's getting fat. [evil laugh]

No fuck him. My SIL was the same last year for her wedding, commenting on my weight as she was loosing her's HELLO I'D JUST HAD A BABY and loosing weight was last on the list.

Is his wedding FFS, is all the food calorie counted? Are the staff all measured to ensure they are of a certain size.

A year later she's piled it all back on and I've lost some, it makes me feel secretly happy!

I think you should buy the bride to be a train ticket out of town - he sounds like a git - and an over-controlling one at that - which doesn't bode well.