to think that " tricky " items from a dishwasher have to be put away

[Grattage]

if dh finds a grater, or a vase he obviosuly SHUTS DOWN and cannot process it.
so they are left on the side.
above where they go

Hullygully - should her dh be in the pants when she stuffs the grater down them? That might make an ..... impression on him!!

Incidentally, though my dses do unload the dishwasher most mornings (as long as they remember), they too have the dishwasher blind spot, specifically with regard to casserole dishes and mixing bowls. The bowls do get put away - in the loosest possible sense of the word. Meaning they are stuffed in the nearest space in the relevant cupboard, even if the pile of bowls is right in front of them and unmissable! Ohh - and big things on top of small things - don't get me started!

differentID, I obviously need to move house - no utility room either. Or we need to get off our bums and clear out the garage so we can convert it like we've been planning for the last 9 years

hahhahahahhahaha, you married to my dh grattage? Mine is exactly the same, the only things that get put away are plates, mugs and cutlery. Everything else just baffles him. We have a minute kitchen with only one other cupboard not housing plates/mugs/cutlery. Not difficult. He puts it all on the drainer as though it'll walk in to the cupboard.

Getorfmoiland - my dh is unbeliveably anal in the supermarket, packing the bags at the checkout takes ten times as long as normal because he likes to put everything for the fridge in one bag (cue everything piling up at the end of the checkout while he waits for one yoghurt to come through) and all the tins in another bag, all the bathroom stuff in another bag and so on. Takes farking forever. Oh and when he unpacks it all, he just piles it all on the kitchen worktop anyway and waits for the magic shopping fairy me to put it away.

dh puts dirty things NEXT TO dishwasher

moves them from table and stacks them NEXT TO IT

'thank you for putting things next to the dishwasher' I say

every time

'oh it's no problem '

I prefer if dh doesn't put away "tricky" items as I usually spend ages looking for them when I next need them - he just shoves them into any cupboard that has space, not where they normally "go".

This is my DP's idea of doing the dishes (we don't have a dishwasher).

-pile all plates in sink without rinsing
-make sure sharp knives and implements are in a cup with dangerous bits pointed up ready for exposed wrists/fingers
-put large plates on top of glasses and cups so all piles up in teetering tower of Pisa fashion.
-squirt mammoth quantities of fairy liquid all over the show
-turn hot tap on full to fill the bowl, and splashes all over the window, walls and floor due to high veloicty of tap stream
-turn off when full to overflowing, bubbles everywhere

• walk off, leaving dishes to soak, whilst airily calling out 'just done the dishes getorf' in proud manner

Ladies, perhaps we need to think laterally.

How about keeping dishwashers in the shed and rebranding kitchen equipment as 'tools' (blenders etc 'power tools')?

Is this the same blind spot that makes my DH not know where my clothes live? We have a pretty organised bedroom, a wardrobe each with drawers in, socks in one drawer, pants in another etc - I put his clothes away if I take the clean washing upstairs, but if he takes it up, all my clean clothes are left on the bed! How come I know where his things go but he doesn't know where mine go??!

My DH has dishwahser blindness, washing-up blindness AND he stacks large bowls on top of small ones .... and I am just about to go upstairs and put the can of leaking shaving gel, and its separate top, in his side of the bed since he obviously couldn't be arsed to put the top back on AGAIN this morning for about the fifty thousandth day in a row ...

Definite case of it here. It's always plastic stuff or casserole dishes.

Usual excuse is that I am always changing the cupboards around so he doens;t know where things go

(Have arranged cupboards twice in 4 years, once when we moved in, and once when we had new kitchen, about 2 years ago).

I am currently watching a screwed up (used?) tissue, has been on DH's bedside chest for two days now, wonder when it will walk itself to the bin? He doesn;t leave rubbish anywhere else, just on bedside table.

OMG, another thing I thought was peculiar to my DH - though he does the thing of taking the tricky stuff and putting it on the worktop above (or below) the cupboard it belongs in. Why not exert the extra bit of energy to actually put it away??

He doesn't do Obsessive Packing though - we have the opposite problem that he packs the shopping as fast as possible in any old bags. His reasoning is that it's only going to be in the bags a short time, so it doesn't matter what's in where. I think he's trying to hide all the extras he's sneaked into the trolley ('What, Pol? You think I put the cakes in? Nah, must have been one of the children' ).

Oh, and even though DP has complete washing dishes phobia, what did I find him doing to my treasured never to be washed Le Creuset griddle pan - yes, scrubbing it with a brillo pad

another lol

my dh wont load our dh as he says i frown, then look smug, and then reload it the 'proper' way

I do the obsessive packing thing in the supermarket - but I take it a step further. As I do the shopping, I try to keep different catagories of things apart, so that, for example, all the fruit and veg go through the checkout together, as do all the fridge items, all the freezer items etc - so they can all be packed properly when they've gone through.

Dh then mixes everything up into different bags. Grrrrrr!!!

ok let us list tricky items

any pyrex
the legndary grater
vases/cafetieres

I can add any plastic items and baby stuff (bowls, bottles, cups etc) to that list

lemon squeezer

mooncup

We don't have a dishwasher but if there are a lot of dry dishes left on the draining board when he goes to do the dishes, he just piles them up on the counter. He amazingly did try to put things away yesterday He put the side plates in the same pile as big plates. Why when the side plates are just beside the dinne plates?

Anything that has a molecule of water on it. Dh just plonks them on the drainer for me to put away.

My dh will open a dishwasher full of clean dishes, then sqeeze his dirty cereal bowl in and shut the door again.

When pointed out,...'I didn't realise it was clean..'.

And I too hate hate hate being the only one to ever unload the dishwashed.

and it takes like 4 minutes?
and its LOATHSOME

It is one of my Inoffensive Yet Crap Jobs.

Others are:-

washing children's hair
emptying kitchen bin
and the winner...

putting clean laundry away (don't mind ironing, quite enjoy folding and sorting clean washing but it can sit for 3 days in a basket while I procrastinate find the precious time to do it.

Hmm. I think you are all being veyr ungrateful. DH puts things away her.
But in teh wrong fecking place
He will put bowls on top of plates and mugs next to them. When he gets mugs out of the mug cupbaord every morning.
All knives get put in the drawer to slice my fingers, not in the handily placed knife block above the drawer

In all honesty I would rather he didn't put it away at all!

Thought I was the only one. Dont know whether to be depressed or elated that there are so many dishwahser morons out there.

My DS1 empties the DW (he is 15 not 2 before I get ed at). He will not put away anything that has a drop of water on it, he will not touch anything that is has a scrap on it (to rinse it off) BUT puts away stuff that has not actually been washed! Trying to find a clean bowl/spoon/plate in my house is like searching for the Holy Grail (only less rewarding).

OH is the same. They both put stuff in the wrong places and their excuse? 'but you keep moving things' What tosh. Ha! may have worked in our old, Barbie sized, decrepit kichen but this is a brand new kitchen so they are LYING!

I know its tempting to do it myself and thus save a lot of bother but I WILL NOT LET THEM WIN. I owe it to myself and any woman who will eventually marry my son.