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AIBU?

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Half an AIBU and half a WWYD, but come and advise please?

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Aimsmum · 01/06/2009 15:33

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warthog · 01/06/2009 19:49

i dunno aimsmum, because if you do tell them how crap he really is, you risk alienating them even more.

how about trying to build bridges first, and then let it slip in conversation.

i think you have a heart of gold, and it must be incredibly frustrating. it sounds like his habit is beginning to catch up with him.

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Aimsmum · 01/06/2009 20:33

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ingles2 · 01/06/2009 20:40

Tell us what you wrote in the text Aimsmum. Then we can tell you if you're being too tough/ too soft

WolframAlpha · 01/06/2009 20:48

I reckon they know exactly what he is like. I think it would be great for you and your dd if you had a bit more support and if you can't get it from xp - perhaps the family could be there for her a bit more. I'd text and say how much dd enjoyed seeing them and that you know she'd like to see a bit more of them, and leave the ball in their court.

Better she has some aunties and gp than £50 long term. I do get why you want to shame him though. TOTALLY.

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Aimsmum · 01/06/2009 21:03

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MrsGokWan · 01/06/2009 21:08

I agree with Warthog, build those bridges first and as they get to see your DD and talk to you they will gradually see what he is like with you.

I think it is a lovely idea to send a card with a thank you and an invitation to see DD etc.

ingles2 · 01/06/2009 21:17

That's good Aimsmum. Honest, but not accusatory..Send it.

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Aimsmum · 01/06/2009 21:34

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warthog · 01/06/2009 22:32

good text. i hope you get that money, and they begin to take more part in your dd's life.

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Aimsmum · 01/06/2009 22:53

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ingles2 · 01/06/2009 23:06

That's great you are going to talk tomorrow. unfortunately doesn't sound like she's got any money though

warthog · 02/06/2009 06:50

no, doesn't sound like she knows anything about it. your ex is taking the piss a bit wot?

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Aimsmum · 02/06/2009 09:46

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warthog · 02/06/2009 10:29

i imagine he's ashamed that you've found out his lies, yet again. but at least the family know now, that he isn't mr. perfect.

Jux · 02/06/2009 13:53

Well done. So when's sis bringing you the dosh?

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Aimsmum · 03/06/2009 17:37

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Podrick · 03/06/2009 18:43

What a total nightmare he is to deal with, I can hardly believe it.

All I can say is thank god you have moved on from this bloke.

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Aimsmum · 03/06/2009 19:00

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Jux · 04/06/2009 23:49

Oh well done. What a tosser. Has his sis come up with the dosh yet? What's her excuse? Does it run in the family?

BitOfFun · 05/06/2009 00:05

What a complete prick! I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this

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Aimsmum · 05/06/2009 16:13

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Jux · 05/06/2009 17:55

Jolly good. Hope you really do get it.

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Aimsmum · 05/06/2009 19:08

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warthog · 06/06/2009 07:53

brilliant! but i'm at his audacity!!

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Aimsmum · 06/06/2009 11:13

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