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grrr to colleagues with 'perfect' babies

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 20:36

Me: My LO is not good at sleeping. Up most mornings at 4 / 5. Very tired!Coming back to work (a month ago) meaning I am shattered! Never mind ..

Her: Oh I can honestly say I have never, ever had a sleepless night with my LO. She's great, she bf easily and has slept through from a few weeks old. I did Gina Ford and it was great. And because she bf so well I lost loads of weight and now weigh less than I did before I was pregnant!

Me: Oh. (thinking thoughts of big pans hitting her on the head)

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CurryMaid · 29/05/2009 20:37

She is LYING!!!!

How can she have never had a sleepless night if her baby slept through from a few weeks old?

My SIL also claimed she never had a sleepless night with DN - yeah right, he slept through from when he was an actual newborn

Bollocks.

Ignore her.

TheBolter · 29/05/2009 20:38

Ahhh.... karma will turn around and bite her in the bum soon enough. There was a good thread earlier about babies that sleep having direct proportion to the ease of parenting. Very true, lots of sense on that thread, you may want to search 'sleep' on today's thread titles. I wish I'd read it when I was climbing the walls with sleep deprivation.

Bumperlicioso · 29/05/2009 20:40

Make her a cup of tea and spit in it.

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 20:40

I am so tired that sometimes I am dizzy! But I told dh what she'd said and he (bless him) said oh well she's probably not got such a cute cuddly loving baby as us (even though she does insist on sleeping spreadeagled on my chest most of the time!)

I just DO NOT UNDERSTAND why people feel the need to tell you how perfect their babies are when you say you have problems!!!!!!

and yeah if she bf I don't believe for a second she wasn't up every 2-3 hours. ARGH.

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Ledodgy · 29/05/2009 20:42

I bet yours will be a good eater and none fussy and hers won't be. My friend has sleepers and I have marvellous eaters. It's swings and roundabouts.

PatTheHammer · 29/05/2009 20:42

I may be about to be proved wrong on this one but EVERYBODY I know who has bf their baby has always done a night feed for much longer than the first few weeks, thats how it works isn't it??? You need to do night feeds to get your supply going or something. You possibly need her to clarify what she means by going through the night, some people class a 5-6 hour stretch as through the night. Personally I would say 8pm till 6am or something like that.

As for the weight thing......smug twat

So no, YANBU and fingers crossed something comes back to bite her in the arse like a toddler from hell (not that I ever wish bad times on other parents or anything you understand)

rubyslippers · 29/05/2009 20:42

erm, she is fibbing

of course she has had sleepless nights

Heated · 29/05/2009 20:46

Some babies are a bit perfect as nbs - dc2 was a dream - in contrast to dc1. However, I was under no illusions that this would last and it didn't!

cupofteaplease · 29/05/2009 20:50

Well to give credit to her story, my dd1 didn't sleep through until a few months ago and she is 4 in a fortnight dd2 however, has slept a solid 14 hours a night since pretty much 2 months old... she is also a fantastic eater and very articulate at 23 months old. In fairness to her, she has been the 'perfect' baby. After dd1, I didn't believe they existed!

BUT, having had the two extremes, I can reassure you that I have every empathy for you with a non-sleeper, it is exhausting. I would never try and say otherwise.

But I am fatter than I was before both the girls, so she is bitch for that alone

Baisey · 29/05/2009 20:52

The smug exagerating will no doubt come back to bite her on her oh so perfect sized bottom im sure!

TheCrackFox · 29/05/2009 20:53

Her baby will have the worst tantrums when she is a toddler. Wait a couple of years and see if she is so smug then.

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 20:57

Yep I hope so. The weight loss thing really irritated me especially as she was eating a pain au chocolat at the time. I was eating a banana and have about 2 stone on her..grrrrrrrrrrrrr......!!!

my dd is at least a great eater (at 11 months) plus is cute as a button if totally, totally exhausting!!

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Imoverhere · 29/05/2009 20:57

I'd say she's talking bollocks! Probably has some inferiority complex where she tells people this just to make herself feel better (can you tell it has happened to me and I wanted to to just wollop the stupid cow! )

She'll get her commupence when having a nightmare teenager to deal with .

stillenacht · 29/05/2009 20:58

mummy2isla - that is a convo i had with MIL grrrrrrrr

cupofteaplease · 29/05/2009 20:59

Alos, is it her first baby? A friend of mine went on and on about how much weight she lost after her first baby and how quickly- all the time looking at me and my jelly belly. Her second baby is nearly a year now and she is bigger than ever.

She is not as smug as before...

(Gosh I'm such a bitch)

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 29/05/2009 21:00

How old is her dc?

Perhaps she's just forgotten?

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 21:00

Yeah I hope she

  1. has a toddler from hell; and
  1. gets really really fat.

(ahem cupofteaplease you think you're a bitch?!)

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mummy2isla · 29/05/2009 21:01

her baby is 4 months older than mine.

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IwishIwasmoreorganised · 29/05/2009 21:05

Hmm so she's not really going to have forgotten then.

She is one of those awfully annoying people who I try to tune out and avoid whenever possible!

I do believe in karma though - she'll get whatever she deserves

Fufulina · 29/05/2009 21:07

Ha ha ha! My MIL said the same about my dh. "I honestly don't remember ever getting up with him in the night". I told my mum and she said "well she's obviously forgotten!". At the time it made me feel terrible. dd was 12 weeks and up for 2 feeds a night. I now know that's not to be sniffed at! Ignore and just don't say a word! It only winds you up!

iamaLeafontheWind · 29/05/2009 21:10

Small defence, i go on a bit whenever DD has a good night & someone who didn't know the context might think i was bragging - but it happens so rarely that it's worth mentioning!

But there is no defence to being thinner - make her lots of cups of tea with full fat milk.

stillenacht · 29/05/2009 21:13

fufulina - are you me????

l39 · 29/05/2009 21:32

Ignore your tactless colleague! When she says she 'did Gina Ford' does she mean she ignored her baby and stuck to a routine? That's nothing to be proud of!

However, there's an awful lot of room between 'sleepless night' and 'slept through'. If you (theoretically)got 20 minutes sleep between 2.20 and 2.40 am and spent all the rest of the night walking with the baby, that's not a sleepless night - though it is an awful one!

I did lots and lots of night feeds. I think my eldest slept 8 hours at a stretch once at about 4 months and never again until over a year - but I can honestly say she never had a sleepless night, thank god.

pavlovthecat · 29/05/2009 21:36

She is lying!

My friend has a memory just like this. her boy, now 4, was the same, he slept right through from within a couple of weeks. He potty trained at 18 months, including night time. Do not dare to remind her of any incidents where you might recall this was not the case....she will have none of it! (even her boyfriend disagrees with her about the potty training, as he was not trained when he move over from abroad, and the boy was 2.5 then .

Sometimes people have selective memory, or want people to think they get being a parent to cover inadequacies. BUT if she is telling the truth, and did it 'ginas' way -you are probably wiser not to follow anyway!

Hassled · 29/05/2009 21:45

My grandmother claimed to have felt no pain whatsoever when she had my father. Some people just lie about bollocks. And karma will win - her daughter will have tantrums that will shake the earth. And refuse to eat vegetables. And will fight over potty training. And won't settle at school. Then she'll meet an unsuitable boy... Your DD, meanwhile, will be fine .