To think that maybe having an episiotomy may actually be preferable to being streeeeeeeeeetched beyond all recognition

[CurryMaid]

I had a pretty traumatic forceps delivery of a large, stuck baby with complimentary episiotomy.

I always thought the episiotomy was truly the work of the devil - it made me feel hideously violated.

However, reading another thread has made me think that perhaps it prevented all kinds of other fanjo damage, and that them doing it that way might actually be preferable to having your bits stretched out of all proportion.

I have to say that my pelvic floor remains pretty intact and I'm not sure if the episiotomy may actually have helped with this.

I had a graze with dd, which was sore and felt 'gritty' for ages afterwards especially during sex, which made me want to avoid a tear or episotomy at all costs second time round. I oiled my bits everyday during pg (sorry if tmi).
Dh laughed when after 4 hours of pushing the mw suggested cutting me because I actually tried to cross my legs, I refused to let her do one and thankfully ds, all 9lb5oz of him was born with no tear or cut needed. I just wonder how many women are cut unnecessarily.