Not to want DD1's friend to gollop down two litres of freshly squeezed orange juice during an afternoon's play date?

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Why can't she drink squash like the others? Or water?

OP - you wouldn't, surely, "freshly squeeze" 2 litres (!) Of OJ for the rest of the week would you?
It doesn't make sense, how long and how many oranges would that take?? And for what purpose? To have non-fresh juice the rest me the week, what's the point?
Sorry, i think you're exaggerating.

OP - you wouldn't, surely, "freshly squeeze" 2 litres (!) Of OJ for the rest of the week would you?
It doesn't make sense, how long and how many oranges would that take?? And for what purpose? To have non-fresh juice the rest me the week, what's the point?
Sorry, i think you're exaggerating.

I find it hard to imagine a child helping themselves to food and drink in someone else's house... My children don't help themselves at home - if they want anything other than a glass of water, they know that they must ask.

biskuit, I think op was talking about shop bought juice, and I already pointed out, that that can't be classed as freshly squeezed...no matter what it says on the bottle

Visiting children don't help themselves to food and drink in my house. I usually pour the drinks for them, or in the case of my older child she often pours drinks for her friends.
I wouldn't let an 11 year old friend into my fridge and if they asked for more fruit juice I would tell them I needed it for later and they could have water or squash.
Youngest kid is into J2Os at the moment but he knows he doesn't get more than 1 becuase they are expensive and if he wants more to drink it's squash or water then. I wouldn't give a visiting child different rules to my own kids.

This has reminded me of when I was about 8 and I used up 2 litres of del monte orange juice when my friends were playing at my house. My mum was not best pleased but at the time she wouldn't let us have squash and no child drank water then. She started buying squash tho - hurrah!

I would have thought it was up to you or your child to offer drinks, and then you could monitor what was being used more easily but I understand children are encouraged to help themselves to water at school now so maybe that has had an impact on the way they behave?

I just don't begin to understand why an adult in their own home cannot construct a sentence or two based around
" oh just a moment orangeguzzler - I can't let you have any more OJ as we need that for breakfast. I am sure you wouldn't want to drink all of it. You can have water or soemthing else. What would you like instead?"

I am fairly convinced the OP wrote 'freshly squeezed' orange juice because:

• it said that one the carton
• it distinguishes it from 'from concentrate' juice
• it's the expensive sort

Why did you offer it? In my house they get offered bog-standard juice (I get it cheap)squash or water.

But she is going to have such a sore tummy!

2 litres of fresh juice is ridiculous. I would have just said 'I think that's probably enough, now. Would you like some water instead?' after her second glass.

YANBU. OJ is expensive and not good for anyone in large quantities. My mum's rule was always one glass of juice, then water if you're still thirsty, seems reasonable to me.

Fairlady - i refuse to believe anyone would describe processed OJ as "freshly squeezed". It's like saying "here, have some 100% breast meat chicken nuggets and some crisp, golden homestyle chips" !
No, i refuse to believe it was shop bought. Unless the op is Hyacinth Bucket??

lol...biscuit...but so many people think the crap that says fresh on the bottle/carton means it is fresh, lol

oh and, in a later post op mentioned that 2 bottles are gone....

I do believe the OP was talking about shop bought 'freshly squeezed' orange juice, not home made!

I'll clarify. One litre of M & S "freshly squeezed" OJ - not pasteurised. Second litre, which she opened the second fridge to find, as I had said "Oh I think that's all the juice we had and it's all gone now" as she finished the M & S bottle, was Tropicana. She said "No, I'm sure I saw another bottle...oh yes here it is."

And it's not necessarily about the cost - it's about the attitude and the manners. I did ask the mother if she drank that much juice at home, and she said "Oh she loves OJ." And the fact that I have to go shopping again.

She is coming round tomorrow and I have filled fridge with Farm Foods 2 litres for a pound. I wonder if she will find that quite so delicious.

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OP you seem to dislike the girl so much. You ve been fuming over this for 2 days now. Maybe would be better if you dont invite friends around if this how you feel about them.

Why people analyze play dates so much? Can't you chill out, have fun and enjoy watching your DCs having friends?

YANBU

If mum was there,she should have stopped her.
It could be an indication of excessive thirst..

I couldn't drink 2 litres of anything!!

i agree with the excessive thirst and 2 liters, that is certainly excessive. just say no. simple. that girl must have had one upset belly. hahhahah

I would have said "Please don't have any more juice - that's all we've got and you need to leave some for everyone else"

But I am very surprised at the number of people who don't let their children help themselves to a drink or a snack. It's their house too, you know!

The children who come round regularly (my dd and ds's best friends) I treat as family. That means if there's lots of something help yourself to a reasonable amount - if there's not much of something ask. That's what my children do - so a bowl of apples, or a full carton of juice - help yourself to one or two or a glass. However, a single punnet of strawberries or a little bottle of "posh juice", then ask. Two slices of bread and some marmite - help yourself. One of a packet of 4 crusty rolls and "good" ham - ask in case that's lunch!

Well (if anyone is still interested in this dull thread of mine ) she came round yesterday, headed for the fridge, peered in and said "Where's the orange juice?"

"In the fridge door, in the carton," I said.

"I don't want that stuff - that's what we have at home. Where's the nice stuff you had last week?"

"You drank all we had and I haven't been able to get to the supermarket to replace it," I said. "If you don't want that, there's squash or water - shall I get you some?"

So she glared at me and had two glasses of squash.

Greed not diabetes then.

And I wasn't fuming about it for days - I just came back on to clarify what sort of juice it was, given the debate!

Some kids are just so precocious (sp?)! I would have done the same thing... and ensured I gave her more if she wanted more... I wouldn't let a visiting child help themself to my fridge - they can do whatever they like in their home, but not mine.

Just read the thread - the last post by the OP shows that the child is a bit greedy!

However, I certainly let my dd help herself to whatever's in the fridge, and when her friends are round I do not expect to have to act as the 'hostess' - they are 13 and can help themselves. We certainly do not have the kind of household where I am the 'controller' of the food, it's her house as much as mine. She knows not to guzzle everything in the house and is mature enough to be trusted not to do so - that maturity I would say comes from having been trusted to help herself, and not having been policed by me saying what she can and cannot drink during the day.

bloody hell! That update what a little madam!