Not to want DD1's friend to gollop down two litres of freshly squeezed orange juice during an afternoon's play date?

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Why can't she drink squash like the others? Or water?

How odd. Her mother sat there and let her first help herself, and then drink that quantity of fruit juice?

I would have said something - either 'I think that's enough, you'll make yourself ill' or if she carried on regardless, said 'we'll need that for our breakfast tomorrow, have some water instead'.

Why didn't you say anything? I go for the 'my house, my rules' approach.

You felt it was up to her mother, she felt it was up to you to stop her if you didn't want her to drink it.

If I didn't want my child to eat a load of biscuits I would stop them. If my host didn't want them to I would expect them to say so.

I've had an about turn. YANBU you did the right thing letting her have the juice shows you're a generous host. She was greedy but you know now for next time. Some kids are astonishingly greedy but are usually admonished by their parents. I'd surprised her mum didn't say anything.

Did they arrive empty handed too?

It is up to her mum to say something if her behaviour doesn't impact on you, ( for example, not saying thank you) but when she's doing something that upsets your household - damaging something, eating all your food, drinking all your juice - why should you not say something?

I just think it's greedy - I would definitely wade in and stop my children, be it biscuits, juice or whatever. I did say "That's all the juice we've got." And she said "Well I've finished it now." And laughed.

OMG I think that both child and her mother were incredibly rude and I hope it gives the child gut rot. I can understand that you didn't want to say anything though - I would have been gobsmacked myself. Puts you off inviting them again though, shame.

I'll say something next time (or hide the juice!). Or give her Kool Aid, so she can bounce off the walls all night.

Exactly, Lockets.

Surely she just assumed you didn't mind, since you didn't stop her. Children can be self centred. You should have stopped her - why on earth not?

child and mother both very rude

I also thought that if I had said something, it would have implied that I thought her child was rude and her parenting was shit.

I agree with Squeaver I think she might be diabetic.

One of the first signs for my mum was an unquenchable thirst.

Seriously, 2 litres of any type of juice is an abnormal amount to consume in an afternoon.

But if she was that thirsty, why didn't she drink the water or squash that others were having?

mrs yes I see what you mean. A bit tricky. I would prob have done the same as you - said nothing and came on to discuss afterwards

But that's an interesting point about possibly being diabetic as she wees all the time too. Might mention it to the mother.

"OMG I think that both child and her mother were incredibly rude and I hope it gives the child gut rot"

how charitable to wish that on an 11 year old

I don't wish her gut rot. Just a slightly squirty bottom.

I don't think yabu are all.

What really would annoy me in all this is the helping herself from the fridge.

Even my own dc don't graze from the fridge at home, I don't like it. They always ask before taking anything to eat. As for diving into someone elses fridge on a visit, how rude. But in some houses I know this is all ok. Maybe with hers.

I can see why you felt awkward about saying anything, but still, I would have.

Why didn't she? Becsuse she wanted juice and no-one told her she couldn't!

Just because your children know the rules doesn't mean everyone does. You were the host, your lay down the boundaries.

FWIW, I would not be at all bothered if the mother was in the room, my house = my rules. However I would not expect them to, necessarily, have the same rules as me.

What TsarChasm said.

more likely to be greed than diabetes!
My 10 yo son would drink 2 l of ANY juice /squash in an afternoon if I let him.Not because he is that thirsty, just because he likes it.Then he would pee a lot.

he would never choose to drink that quantity of water.

I´d be inclined to mention the diabetes possibility to her mum if she is also weeing alot.

Before I was diagnosed with diabetes I had an unquenchable thirst too. It had to be a very cold drink, and preferibly one with lots of sugar. I ended up a Coke fiend until I found out.

The wierd thing about diabetes is that although you have way to much sugar slooshing around in your blood, your body is convinced you are starving to death (because your body hs lost the ability to process sugar that is in your blood)). Its a terrible cycle. Your body is calling out for food, sweet drinks and the like, but it's killing you at the same time.

2 litres is alot of liquid to put away in one afternoon. Before I was diagnosed I could do it no sweat. Now I couldn't.

what a brat of a child, .... have seen dogs with more manners, you do not help yourself out of someone elses fridge.... my own children always ask.next time you see her mother , tell her its not on, keep her out of your kitchen.